A change!

I am seeing a change in myself for last one month. I am going through a phase where my old conditioned thoughts seem to be losing control of me! The old patterns of trying to figure out my past and trying to connect the events and see how they have helped me and how they will eventually lead me to a bright future - I can observe all of that from a distance and then sometimes I fall for those thoughts but again I am up very quickly!

I am seeing a change where I am able to trust myself with my life. This is a time where I am happy for no reason. A change where I have stopped playing the old roles in relationships. Is it due to listening to Eckhart everyday? I think that could be the reason. I am no more trying to reach to the future! Yes, sometimes I fall as the old patterns have great momentum but just having that liberating feeling everyday has brought so much peace! and yes these too are thoughts, just passing thoughts. They too don't matter! What matters is living in this moment! I feel so alive.

A rap!

Listen to this track by XLS about his stammer.



--Copied from BSA's FB wall

Shimla get together::Accommodation

Now Accommodation is booked in YMCA, The Ridge, Shimla, Himachal Pradesh

We book 6 double bedded rooms from 02-04 March 2012 which costs us 500 per Day for two persons without food.The Main Advantage is the Location. It is just a 5-10 minutes walk from the Ridge or Mall Road.

if any member want to join directly in shimla can book rooms in YMCA by contacting
@0177- 2650021, 2652375...

For any query Contact me at Anupinder 9779977441

YMCA SHIMLA

My school's name

Few year ago when someone used to ask me in which school i was studying , i used to replied the one which is near by , the one in the front . It really made me angry .

One year ago when i was applying for my voter card few meters away from my school , one man asked me from where i had passed my class 12 . I told him , This one ( Pointing toward the direction of the school using my finger) . My brother was also there he laughed and told that i studied in MUKAND LAl PUBLIC SCHOOL . I felt really bad and ashamed .

Today i was again asked by a Strange guy that in which school i used to study i replied M... M .M ..Mu (block) and then he replied MUKAND LAL PuBLIC SCHOOl . I told him no , i again started M M M MUKAND LAL PUBLIC SCHOOL & then i laughed . NO GUILT , NO SHAME at all .

Now i can feel some change in me .

To be the change...

I remember, during the chandigarh workshop last year, JP brought some white tees written "HAKLAO MAGAR PYAR SE" on them.I saw lalit readily grabbing one piece to wear out.
Seeing him wearing, i asked JP if there are spare pieces, and, he readily replied" HAAN, BAHUT HAI"

But, i just couldn't feel the courage to grab one for me.

Today, just seeing this quote of Mahatma Gandhi, i can understand WHAT DOES IT MEAN EXACTLY...

To see change in perception of people around us towards stammering, WE HAVE TO CHANGE OURS BEFORE...

SHG meeting at Herbutpur on Sunday , 26 Feb 2012

SHG meeting at Herbutpur on Sunday , 26 Feb 2012

This Shg meeting was attended by 12 people as follows Dr sachin , Pavan singh rathore ,Vijay kumar (speech therapist ), Ashish singh rawat ,Aman singhal , Aman’s friend ,Mahesh Thapliyal , Asmit (2^nd class student ),Asmit mother and his grandfather , One maths teacher and Gorav datta .

(left to right -- pawan, vijay, teacher, Ashish, Mr india, Mahesh, Dr Sachin, Aman, Aman's friend )

First we had an introduction round . Then we played a Jumble words game . Asmit (2^nd class student) played well in this game .Then Dr sachin had a talk with Asmit mother and grandfather .

After that each one of us was asked to speak on a topic for about 10 minutes .In this round Aman singhal told about his life ,Mahesh spoke on Solar energy , Ashish rawat spoke on Robotics , I spoke on computer viruses , Maths teacher told about his problem faced & experiences as a teacher , Pawan sir told about his life experiences then at the last Speech therapist Vijay kumar spoke on stammering , various techniques and then we asked a lot questions from him .

Afert that Dr sachin told about shimla meeting and then meeting was over

A New Dawn in SHG Bangalore: 26th Feb

Yup..It did happened after a lot of email exchanges and many phone calls. Thks to Dinesh for organizing it.


Place:
Paradygmlaw Coaching Center
2nd Floor, 322/ 2 Hosur Main Road,
Above RNS JCB/ Hedege Securites
Adjacent to Wipro Parking Bay, Madiwala
[Landmark - On the same side as the Wipro office, there is a left lane just before you hit the flyover. The first building when you take that left lane]
Time: 1000 to 1300 hrs


We a group of 12 met at the place mentioned above (organized by Mr. Dinesh Chauhan). He took the responsibility in organizing the event and I along with Sudheendran & Alok reached there. The agenda of the meeting was Introduction, success story on Stammering by Tajeshwani (HR by profession) and next SHG meeting points.
The introduction of each member involved the following points:
- Name
- Native and How many yrs. in Bangalore
- Profession
- The techniques used for stammering


Sudhee being the oldest and also one of the experienced members spoke his heart out on the techniques he followed and told on some point of time each technique has helped him in some way or other. He told people stammer, "When they try not to stammer" i.e. When a person feels that he/she should not stammer at this word/situation, he/she is making himself/herself more conscious of the situation and the fear grips & hence the stammering. He also told why he stopped attending or conducting the SHG meetings.


This followed by other member confession that "He tried to avoid responsibilities so that he can talk less. This resulted him not growing properly in his profession". One of other member told that his boss used to stammer but now he talks smoothly. His boss asked him to go for regular Jogging and Meditation. Also, he is a tech lead in one of the IT Major but as per him; only few of his team members knows about the problem. He usually have problem while speaking over the phone. Then, a young engineering guy spoke how he got fed up in giving interview again & again. He shared how disheartened he has become on unable to clear the interviews of top notch companies. There was a rude remark given by one of the HR to him "If you are a stammer why you have done engineering". (May not be exact words but kind of like that only). This has discouraged him more. His vision is to open his own business instead of giving interview.


Here is the song sung by Karthik: "Karthik Unplugged"
(As per I and Sudhee remember; He never told that he sings)

The intro was followed by success story by "Tejaswini". She shared her story how "Brahmavidya" has helped her to overcome her problem. The video quality was not good and hence I cannot upload it.  She is an Ex-stammerer. She was explaining us how she got over stammering. It was a very inspirational speech. She explained us how EFT and Brahmavidhya helped her from getting over stammering. She is still practicing Brahmavidhya and  EFT on daily basis EVEN TODAY which is much appreciable. She has not left the habit of practicing which shows her commitment and sincerity towards her Goals.


This was followed by Dinesh vision for SHG and thoughts.
- Intro for 1-2 weeks
- Then, Ice breaker sessions 


Check the pics below for few more information.

1. What benefits do we gain from SHG meetings?
- Gives us space to talk - no fear of failure
- Builds confidence as we speak in front of group
- Sharing of different techniques
- Self-realization of one's own mistakes and weak areas
- Emotional relief - as we share.. keeps as calm
- Can be used as a stepping stone to graduate to Toast Masters..


2. Why do we avoid SHG meetings?  
- No time - Because of work and family 
- No returns
- Afraid to face public
- I know everything attitude
- No scope for improvement


For the point 1, No time - Because of work and family : Here Dinesh explained us that each one's priority is first Family and then work. All rest comes only next But here he beautifully explained how a good speech can enhance a person's involvement in family and workplace multifolded. The growth for all areas in life is in effective Communication. 


For the next week, as an agenda, every person needs to come up with an icebreaker speech. Everyone was handed over a hard copy of what an icebreaker speech is and we concluded there.


The event ended by 1PM sharp. The session was enriching and in some instances we laughed to the core. Overall, every person enjoyed the session and it was fun filled activity.


Group Pic :) (Myself Missing)

Members:
Dinesh, Sairam, Anbu, Alok, Biju, Murli, Manoj, Sudheendran, Arvind, Karhik,  Chandhan


Writeup By:
Karthik, Tanoy


Video and Pics By:
Tanoy

How to treat stammerers

Hi ,I was thinking from a long time to make an instruction guide for my family so that they know how to treat and deal with stammerers .I want each and every law of this guide to be accurate so that no stranger gets a wrong impression or knowledge about stammering .We all can give this guide to our family ,this will be a step forward in acceptance.Please help me to add points and and discuss points that I have added.
1.Slowing down your own speech when you talk to your child will make it easier for him to follow what you are saying and help him feel less rushed. This can be more helpful then telling a child to slow down, start again or take a deep breath.

2.It may help to pause for one second before you answer him or ask a question. This slow, less hurried way of speaking gives your child time before answering.

3.Show your child you are interested in what he says, not how he says it. Look at him when he talks, then he knows you are listening and won't rush his speech.If you are busy doing something and cannot stop, tell your child that, although you are busy, you are still listening, or explain why you cannot stop, but give him your full attention later.

Shimla get together final participants list

finally tickets are booked, here is detail of participates :

1. Jai prakash
2. Dhruva
3. Anupinder
4. Pramendra
5. Umesh
6. Amit
7. Gorav
8. Saurabh
9. Jitendra
10. Vinod (join us in shimla)

Coach Seat No.

C-3 / 0008 to 0013

C-3 / 0020 to 0022

Any one can join us from kalka by booking in following train:

52455 Himalyan Queen Narrow Gauge and hurry up!!! Still 70+ seats available

departure from Kalka on 12:10 afternoon

reach Shimla at 5:20 Pm

or in shimla directly

for any enquiry contact
Anupinder: 9779977441

Problem statement.....

Recently I attended a Problem solving session organized in my company. This Problem solving session was specific to company projects. The scope of the session was to find out the root cause of any Project issue.
After attending the session I was wondering to apply some of the technique in my personal well being.
The technique is called a fishbone diagram and it says:
1. Take a paper and draw a straight line and put a text describing your problem statement post the straight line.
2. Now create branches from that main line for various causes of the problem.
3. The branches may also take the shape of problem and you can draw another sub branch to indicate the causes.
4. After all the branches that indicates symptoms of the problem is defined, you can easily identify the root cause.

We can try this approach to find some of the answers to our stuttering issues. It is really helpful.
Here is the glimpse.

Welcome to Regional Get Together::Shimla

we decide to go to Shimla For Regional shg meet-Cum-get together on 2nd to 4th march

via Toy Train, this is narrow gauge train which starts from kalka, Enjoy the fascinating, full of scenic ride on this historical Kalka-Shimla line with 106 tunnels and single & double arch bridges.

we will enjoy whole journey...accommodation at shimla will be managed by dhurva kathuria..next day we will roam shimla and than come back via road on 04-03-2012

Approx expenditure beyond kalka is 2000-3000 Rs.

we are going on following train:
52455 Himalyan Queen Narrow Gauge and departured from Kalka on 12:10 afternoon and reached Shimla at 5:20 Pm

all participants from different states are coming directly to kalka on trains...then in group we carry forward rest journey to shimla....

after 21-02-2012 you are still able to join us in shimla directly. in that case you should make your own reservation/booking in above toy train and arrange accommodation in hotel/lounge in shimla....

we are always happy to help u.....

for any information about meet please contact us at:

Anupinder : 9779977441

Umesh : 9068322345

Some words............

NC report

National conference report is out at http://www.stammer.in/newsletter/480-nc-report.html

स्वीकार करें, मज़बूत बनें . . . !

कहते हैं कि एक झूठ को छिपाने के लिए सो झूठ बोलने पड़ते हैं. इसी तरह हमें भी अपनी हकलाहट को छिपाने के लिए बहुत कोशिश करनी पड़ती हैं, और नतीज़ा यह होता है कि हम हकलाहट को कभी-कभी तो छिपाने में कामयाब हो जाते हैं लेकिन हमेशा ऐसा नहीं होता।

पिछले एक साल के अन्दर शादी के सिलसिले में अलग-अलग समय पर दो लड़किओं से मेरा मिलना हुआ। और दोनों ही बार मैंने उन्हें बता दिया कि मैं हकलाता हूँ। इससे फायदा यह हुआ कि मैं जो कुछ उनसे बोलना चाहता था बिलकुल सहज भाव से, आराम से, बिना किसी डर के बोल पाया। और सबसे बड़ी बात तो यह रही कि इन दोनों ही लड़किओं को मेरी हकलाहट के कारण कोई समस्या नहीं थी। इन दोनों ने ही मुझे पसंद कर लिया था। पर कुछ और पारिवारिक कारणों से विवाह की बात आगे नहीं बढ़ पाई।

इससे मुझे यह अहसास हुआ कि जब हम हकलाहट को स्वीकार करते हैं तो हम अपने लिए नए रास्ते खोलते हैं। हकलाहट को स्वीकार करने से दूसरे व्यक्ति को हमारे गुणों और योग्यताओं को देखने का अवसर मिलता है। इससे हमारी विश्वसनीयता भी बढ़ती है। इंटरव्यू में हम यदि हकलाहट के बारे में बता दें तो सलेक्शन की संभावना काफी हद तक बढ़ जाती है। हम जो बोलना चाहते हैं सरलता से बोल पाते हैं।

जब हम हकलाहट को स्वीकार करना शुरू करते हैं तो पता चलता है कि हम अब तक हकलाहट से जबरन ही लड़ रहे थे। स्वीकार करने से हम मज़बूत बनते हैं। और जब समाज को आपके बारे में सही जानकारी होती है तो वह भी आपको सपोर्ट करता है।

- अमितसिंह कुशवाह
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Special Guest at Shimla

We are expecting a radio jockey Sardar Nasir Ali Khan aka RJ Nasir of Srinagar’s FM 92.7 to join us in Shimla. Nasir used to stammer as a child. So what are you waiting for guys ? Hurry up and book your tickets as you may get a chance to visit 92.7's Shimla office and may be even talk l-l-live on radio!

Meditating oneself to transformation

http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fpositiveprovocations.com%2F2012%2F02%2F17%2Fmeditating-yourself-to-transformation%2F&h=LAQG-1SjeAQHiPxe7tbTbE8Pc2okd9tUzegbUp4d6EjUeGw

Project basis assignments

Hi,

Lately I am getting lot of freelance projects and hence need good web designers and developers

If you are interested please email me at jai_sunda"at"xuniltech.com. You may have to start working immediately.

regards,

JP

9915686678

A dream job..

http://www.devnetjobsindia.org/JobDescription.aspx?Job_Id=4890

For web developers with a social bent..

SHG meeting at Herbutpur on Sunday , 19 Feb 2012

Gorav teaching special effects in Adobe photoshop

This Shg meeting was attended by 9 people as follows Dr sachin , Pavan singh rathore , Vijay, Ashish singh rawat , Mukkarum , Paramanand ,Vaibhav , one speech therapist from UP (Raj Kumar, Vijay's brother) and Gorav datta (me )

First of all as usual there was an introduction round.I was as usual struggling to speak. After that Dr Sachin asked that we all should tell 3 points about ourselves . Then there was a round of telling 3 negative things about our self. A common problem with pws is: Many of us are seen as rude people; the "rudeness" is not intentional, it is just that we find difficult to say "correct" things at the right time in formal situations: like it may be very difficult to say pary paina (greetings- I touch your feet) to an elder while talking on phone.. We discussed some ways to deal with this.

Then in the next round we played a game in which everyone had to interact with one another and know about themselves . Then after the interaction round was over , all of us have to come on the stage one by one and tell others about their interaction ie what have we learned about others during the interaction round.

Then after that Dr sachin asked few stammerers to come to the stage and share some joke , I was one of them .It was my first time to share a joke . we all enjoyed this round . Parmanand told an interesting joke about Pawan! All together it was fun and encouraging to attend such meetings. Few days back I was given a chance to conduct a session for DCA students, teaching them adobe photo shop special effects. It was difficult but I was very happy to see that every student was able to understand and do it (photo above).

Gorav datta (stutterer)
Yamuna nagar , haryana

tisa(delhi shg) welcomes govind and ravi...

There was a meeting on 19/2/2012 at central park. two new faces govind and ravi join this meeting. in this meeting myself(abhishek),  umesh rawat, sikander sir, saurabh, lalit sir,jitendra, govind , ravi, prabath, amritesh, attend. in first round we start with intro and seeing that there were a lot of people sitting  around our circle so we decided that every one will stand and and give the intro with loudly. we were very nervous because many people were observing that what are we doing? because there is a condition that every one first observe all people and taking 20 second and try to feel our body and mind sensation and then give intro. in second round is REFLEXATION....in this round we had to give some challenging task to the right hand side pws. but at last according to definition of reflexation we had to perform given task itself. in this round umesh give task to jitendra to intraction with strangers but  unfortunataly umesh had to perform and he intracted with three beautiful girl .so umesh and saurabh give the pamplet of tisa and a brief discussion about stammering with girls. they were very happy. a non stammerer person join the meeting name amritesh and he was interested to join every meeting  to improve their  communication skill and persionality. in third round we practice of  VOLUENTARRING  STUTTERING.with a loud voice. winner of this round was lalit panday. in forth round we gave  presentation..in fifth round we played a game counting 1,2,3,,,,,,,...........with clapping. winner of this round was umesh and 2nd winner was saurabh. in fifth round we practice a telephonic conversion with pramendra because due to fever he could not  attend the meeting all of us ask a question one by  one. overall we enjoy a lot and every one feel very confident. i hope that in next meeting more and more member will attend . AJ KE LIYE BS ITNA HI. AGLE MONDAY KO MILANGE DELHI SHG MEETING  KA AANKHO DEKHA HAL SUNANE KE LIYE TB TK KE LIYE NAMSKAR.......  thank u.

Delhi SHG "Travelling Plan" for Shimla get together

Delhi to Kalka:

01 March 2012 by 12311 Kalka Mail from OLD DELHI railway station on 9:15PM. The train is supposed to reach Kalka around 5AM.
Three seats already booked for people who have confirmed are S9 57, 59, 60.

Kalka to Shimla:

02 March 2012 by 52455 Himalayan Queen exp from Kalka station on 12:10PM. The train is supposed to reach Shimla around 5:30PM.

Seats are yet to be reserved.

Kalka to Delhi:

04 March 2012 by 12312 Kalka mail from Kalka on 11:55PM. The train is supposed to reach Old Delhi railway station around 6:30AM.

Three seats already booked for people who have confirmed are S10 41, 43, 44.

For any other query...
Please contact me.

Regards
Pramendra (9654363005)

Hakklistan zindabad

I am in a country which is known as hakklistan, here all peoples are stammerer, to visit this country you should have membership of any stammering association. in this country there is no pressure of being fluents, All phone calls in this country are answered with bouncing , we stammerers can freely talk in this country without any fear, shame , guilt . All citizens in hakkalistan sleep in the night with no fear in there mind , to wake up tomorrrow and to behave like a normal speaker, we have accepted that we are stammerers and we will get blocks , in this country stammering blocks are appreciated. But in this country also there are some speech handicap who are fluent in this country. Fluency and normal speaker are treated as handicap in these country. for them there is a speech therapist who teach them how to talk like a stammerer how to get blocks ,speech therapist teach them techniques like 1) Talk very fast   2) dont respire normally ,practise respiration by your chest  3) And finally accept that you are normal speaker dont be ashamed of it accept i am normal speaker.                                     
In these country stammers dont cry at night ,of being ashamed of themselves, stammeres are not rejected in job interview on basis of speech in hakklistan, we stammeres are able to express every thing and each word we want to express. Hakklistan have schools were roll calls for presente are not answered orally , here paper sheets are provided to sign for presente . stammeres are not laughed by there classmates or friend they are not teased for there speech . they are not socially tortured for being fluent , to speak slow and many numerous things we face any everyday life . By knowing such great things about Hakklistan you definetly want to visit Hakklistan, i will show you a path to visit hakklistan . My friends there is no need to visit hakklistan because haakklistan is Beneath you . it is silently in your mind Just thing is that we require a sure courage to activate it when these Hakklistan will get activated in your mind then the whole world will get change for you and it will become Hakkalistan a dream home for we stammeres

The Interview

(Editor's Choice: A real life story from a NC participant; Must read!)

After facing 16 rejections in different company here I was for another interview for getting a job (desperately). There is a wise saying "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want" and after every interview i was getting the "Experience" , which i guess many would not like to taste (as it seems to be bitter).

There was  a time when  i was well focused for further studies but then, it all started when everybody around me was in a race to get placed (and that too in a well paid "Good" company), this happens only in our country where engineers are raised like cattle for some sort of race!

हकलाहट से दोस्ती करें . . !

अच्छी जिन्दगी जीने के दो तरीके हैं -

१. जो पसंद है उसे हासिल करना सीख लो . . .
या फिर
२. जो हासिल हुआ उसे पसंद करना सीख लो . . .

यदि हम बात हकलाहट कि करें तो हमें दोनों तरीकों पर गौर करना चाहिए। अगर हम अच्छी कम्नुकेशन स्किल चाहते हैं तो हमें लगातार कोशिश करनी होगी, थोड़ी मेहनत करनी होगी और धैर्य भी रखना होगा।

हम अपनी हकलाहट को पसंद करना यानी दिल से स्वीकार करना सीख लें, तो यह हमारे लिए बहुत फायदे की बात होगी। अकसर हम दूसरों से उम्मीद तो करते हैं कि वे हमारी हकलाहट को समझें और सपोर्ट करें, लेकिन हम खुद हकलाहट को अपना दुश्मन मानते हैं, उससे डरते हैं, लड़ते हैं या फिर दूर भागने कि कोशिश करते हैं।

टीसा के एक बैनर पर लिखा था - "हकलाओ मगर प्यार से । . . !"

तो अब आप भी हकलाहट से दोस्ती कर ही लें . . .

- अमितसिंह कुशवाह
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Under the blazing Sun, 3 PWS have FUN !

After a rather long gap, we here at Goa met here today, on a bright, pleasant and sunny Sunday morning.

We were three of us- I (Harish), Babaji and a new member (name not disclosed on request) who attended an SHG meeting for the first time with us.

After formal introductions, we started with the activities planned.

An Ice-breaker activity

All of us had to draw something on the paper which symbolizes or represents ourselves. Then each one of us had to show the picture that we drew to the other two, and explain the picture and also share why we think this picture represents us.

Babaji drew a man sitting in a box, and the sun rays outside. He explained how he thought about himself as a person confined into a box, deprived of the sunshine outside. He also shared that now he feels he is out of the box, into the sunshine and beaming with confidence and feeling okay about stammering.

Our new friend, an MBA graduate and working in a job in which he has to speak for most part of the day, had an interesting picture. He drew a person standing at the foothills of a huge mountain. And below that, he drew another sketch in which the person was standing on the top of the mountain. He explained how he saw his stammering as a huge mountain that he had to climb, and shared the journey of how he climbed it and how on present the day, he feels that he is at the top of this mountain. The story of how he pushed himself and forced a change was indeed inspiring.

Practicing Techniques

Then we stood in circle and practiced Bouncing, Prolongation, Pull-outs and Cancellation techniques. We also had a round in which the person had to speak about a positive thing about the person standing to his right, using any technique he is comfortable with.

Communication Game

We then played a communication game, in which one person had to think of an action / activity (eg. Swimming, cycling, driving), and others had to guess it by asking him questions. We had lots of fun while trying to guess what activity the other person is thinking about.

The second game was a role play. Citing the election atmosphere in Goa, we all decided to play the candidates of our constituencies and campaigned for our respective constituencies and how would we appeal for votes. We all unanimously thought that we had better manifestos than our candidates ;)

Talent Show

As we neared the end of the meeting, we thought of displaying some of the talents which we thought are our strengths. The new member sang the melodious song “Mitwa”, and we discovered that he indeed had a great control over his voice. Babaji sang a Kishore Kumar song, while I tried to entertain with some mimicry which I enjoy doing the most.

Before we dispersed, we discussed about how we felt about today’s meeting and gave feedback. Babaji suggested about a day outing or a 1 or 2 day workshop. I handed over Samvad Digest copies to Babaji and the new member, and then we had a casual discussion on the conference and stuttering in general before we parted away for the day. 

1+1=11

Today Me and Ravinder are alone for fun...
firstly we decide to make a telephonic interview for ravinder ji because, he has problem with both telephonic and personal interviews...he feel very fear and his heart beat rate increase in-front of interviewer...for this i make call to abhisekh verma, as he is unknown to ravinder and never meet him before..then abhisek start interview with ravinder in start ravinder has more blocks then with passing time block rate is decreases and at end... i m shock to see that ravinder is taking interview of abhisekh....:)

Intelligence And Wisdom

 Watching a movie yesterday,I stumbled upon a great explanation of intelligence vs. wisdom..

What I have seen in the stuttering community that all of us (including me) are intelligent-I mean really really intelligent when it comes to stammering.In blogs and stuttering groups and even in SHG's each and every one of us has all the right remedies to our stuttering problems,and the majority of them can be pretty helpful.You dont believe me ????? Just type a query regarding your problem in any of the stuttering group on Facebook and you will get like a hundred replies in an hour.

So if each and every one of us know so much,why are the majority of us still suffering ????? Thats because we are intelligent but lack wisdom.

Still confused ???? Okay let me put it in a simple way-All of us know jogging everyday in the morning has great benefits.This is knowledge.Actually jogging everyday is wisdom.Wisdom means practicing your knowledge in your real life.

You know that voluntary stuttering is good for you,but a wise person practices this in his life.He believes in his knowledge and makes it a part of his life.I can quote infinite examples like this but I guess you have got what i am trying to convey here.

And how to know yourself if you are wise or intelligent ?????? Just ask yourself a simple question-Am I really happy ???? The answer to this question is your answer will tell if you really are wise or just a wiki on stuttering.

DELHI SHG MEETING

Delhi shg will meet on 19/2/2012 at  central park on 11 a.m...we will be very happy if you come and share your experience.....thanks.
    for further detail please contact abhishek(9873492722)..... 

From Nilukshi..

Nilukshi is studying at AUW (Asian University for Women), Bangladesh. She attended our Kolkata workshop sometime back. She and her colleagues have taken up the cause of Kinnar (Hijra) community for acceptance.. Check out this link:
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Wake-Up-Call-Bangladesh/262505713815366?sk=wall

In India, some people like Mahesh Bhatt, the film maker, have taken up the cause. But by and large, main stream society remains ignorant and indifferent.. I think the solution is sharing of correct, unbiased information about the community and their issues.

Enlightenment..... Needed for everybody here

After accepting the fact and reality of my ACCEPTANCE by doing things, i am again here with another path of felicity.
PATH OF REFORMS ------ ENLIGHTENMENT


Everyday, at some situation, our mind plays some kind of game. if i say "Ok.. I will talk to my friend.. but i will not stammer now.." mind always swing the other way round and it will not obey promptly... and we start experience a state of weird emotions and anger.

mind of Enlightenment is needed..

As headed by Eckhart tolle... "The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it."
It says everything and this gives us a clear picture of the game that mind plays with us.


some ways to enlighten our mind:
1. Can we try to think positive thoughts in difficult situations?  Yes..why not.. we can start with a smile... (Try to fake it until you make it)


2. Do we have time from the busy schedule for our mind. our mind do need some rest while we are awake :) ? Yes.. At-least we can do that for our-self.


3.Can we control our emotions and anger.??  Of course. we can talk to our-self and can command our mind to be relax.


4. we can build our confidence with smile.


All answers are within our-self. awareness is needed to enlighten us.

शर्म को छोड़ें . . . !

कुछ दिन पहले एक PWS दोस्त का फ़ोन आया था और उन्होंने मुझे पहली बार कॉल किया था। इस दोस्त ने मुझसे पूछा कि क्या आप हमेशा बाउंसिंग करके ही बात करते हैं। मैंने उन्हें उत्तर दिया कि हाँ, मैं हमेशा ऐसी कोशिश करता हूँ। इस पर उस दोस्त ने कहा कि बाउंसिंग में बात करते समय आपको शर्म नहीं आती, या फिर आप बचपन से ही ऐसे हैं? इस प्रश्न को सुनकर मुझे जरा भी हैरत नहीं हुई, क्योंकि हर हकलाने वाले व्यक्ति के साथ कभी न कभी ऐसा होता है, वह चाहकर भी बाउंसिंग या किसी दूसरी तकनीक का इस्तेमाल करने में हिचकिचाता है, शर्माता है।

अब जिन्दगी का गणित देखिये -

एक इंसान कि औसत उम्र = लगभग 60 साल
हमारी वर्तमान उम्र = 25 साल या इससे अधिक
हमने शर्म करके गुजारी = लगभग आधी जिन्दगी ।
शर्म करके मिला = कुछ नहीं।

. . . तो जब आपने शर्म करके अपनी आधी जिन्दगी सिर्फ अपनी हकलाहट को छुपाने में गुजार दी और मिला कुछ नहीं, तो अब ज़रा शर्म को छोड़कर देखिये, आप अपने आपको बेहतर मुकाम पर पाएंगे। यानी हकलाहट को खुले मन से स्वीकार करें और बाउंसिंग या जो भी तकनीक अपनानी हो उसका सब जगह इस्तेमाल करने में संकोच या शर्म महसूस न करें।

- अमितसिंह कुशवाह
Mo : 0 9 3 0 0 9 - 3 9 7 5 8

Don't try hard to speak

As you all know stammering is a trap ,we stammer on a word and try harder to speak and it increases more .We shouldn't try hard to speak .Whenever we stammer we should remind ourselves don't try hard .By this your frustration will also decrease and you'll feel smarter .
Note:
1)We should not try hard for anything ,willpower is a very important factor to achieve anything and without it your all try are going to go to waste .
2)Don't expect immediate results .

Acceptance

As we are seeing a lot of talk on acceptance on our blog, workshops and National Conference, I think its right time for me to give my two cents too!

So lets start from a very basic question : What is acceptance ?

Acceptance is DOING! Its NOT a thought or affirmation that you need to repeat to yourself 10 times a day - "I accept that I stammer". Actually saying it to your own self may not even help(but create more conflict due to you mental state and outer behaviour/life)! You may feel a sense of relief when you say it the FIRST time to your own self but after that move on to the DOING part because thats 99.99% of acceptance! DOING ?? What DOING ?

DOING involves going out and meeting other people who stammer, writing about your experiences on a blog and sharing it with the world, doing voluntary stuttering in your neighborhood, conducting an awareness session on stammering at your workplace and much more! I can hear - All this is NOT easy! Yes, it is not easy. So start small: Just go to a SHG and sit ( may be even quietly ) between other people who stammer. Tell your pet that you stammer. Talk to another person who stammer, on phone or in person and say that you stammer and slowly become comfortable with talking about your stammering. Then try stuttering on purpose. If you can just allow yourself to be with the feeling of unease, fear or may be pain, when you are doing the above, slowly you will start becoming comfortable with the NEW you : One who ACCEPTS his/her STAMMER.

Moral of the Story: Acceptance is a FEELING of being at ease with oneself and it comes from DOING not THINKING!

An assignment for people who may want to get into DOING mode right away: Make a call to any call center and say - "I Stammer " or "मैं हकलाता हूँ". (You brain will give you 99 reasons, NOT to do it. Mine also did, but I still went ahead and did it just now. Your thoughts are conditioned from past - Don't believe them :-) Search for Eckhart Tolle and see what I am talking about! It can help you on the journey of acceptance and your life!

voluntary shuttering

myself ritesh , i am from mumbai. and i am a stammerer . voluntary shuttering is s great practise it removes fear from our mind. i am following voluntary shuttering from 2 weeks on phone . I am calling on a no of just dial that is 8888888888. i am practising voluntary shuttering with them , i start conversation with them by bouncing and i say to them in bouncing " hello sir me hakalata hun , please phone mat rakhna mujhe thoda time lagega explain karne me". my friends it is great exercise to remove fear from our mind , it is a procedure of acceptance. I want to share a some incident with you , tomorrow i was on the facebook, i met a friend from delhi he was also a stammerer , then i asked to my friend that Did you follow voluntary shuttering? . he was in shock he told me hum janbuchkar kyu strangers ke samne hakklaye . kyu apna mazak banaya? my friend told me my speech therapist which is a famous in bangalore for treating stammerer, has not told him to follow voluntary shuttering.by following voluntary shuttering i may stammer more.THen i explained him that by following voluntary shuttering you may develop control over your stammering, and this will overcome your fear . but my friend from delhi not understood because his famous bangalore speech therapist has not told to follow voluntary shuttering. But i will recomend to all stammerer who are working on speech should follow voluntary shuttering to increase confidence .My next goal is to follow voluntary shuttering directly face to face because from 2 week i am following on phone

Roaring Lion Pose for Stutter People.

PUNE SHG

Pune shg meeting will be conducted on 19 feb 2012.

Following are the venue and time details:

Meeting will be started at 10.30 am.

Venue:

Senior citizen hall (also known as desai hall),

Near Ganpati Mandir,Dhole patil road,

Near Ruby hall,

Near pune station




for queries contact: 9763951322

The Real meaning of Acceptance....

Most of the Blogs and websites that deals with stammering/stuttering issue often describes Acceptance as the foremost step to prevent this beautiful problem.

Initially I was not able to understand the inner meaning of Acceptance. I always used to say "Yes! I stammer". But something was missing. I need to find the basic answer of this question that was hammering in my mind from the last few months..

After speaking with one of the TISA Core member, today i realize the anatomy of Acceptance. Here is the equation.. :)

ACCEPTANCE = Yes! I Stammer

ACCEPTANCE = No Shame (You know, I Stammer)

ACCEPTANCE = No Fear (of course, I Stammer)

ACCEPTANCE = No Worry (never-mind, I stammer)

ACCEPTANCE = with smile ( :) Yes! I Stammer)

It is of-course more than the above

If we accept the above basic equation, only then we would be able to prevent this mathematical problem from happening.

I Accepted...................... DID YOU???????????

Lets Clean Our Past

Find a place where you can sit comfortably and quietly, free from interruption. Close your eyes and mentally go back to your childhood and then come forward by separating your life into blocks of time, such as preschool, early school, summer vacations, trips, moving from one home to another, different ages, memorable events, different jobs. As you remember the events that seemed hurtful to you because of things that others did to you. Those events can reflect any kind of hurt – physical, financial, moral, or emotional.
One by one, review each incident in as much detail as you can, and carefully switch it onto a positive track. See the incident as beneficial in every way. Think of the extra-nice events that have occurred since that hurtful event took place. Realize that those hurtful events were just events that you needed in order to gain the information, wisdom, or experience that would someday prove valuable in leading you to happier events. Realize that hurtful event was an essential
part of a sequence of events that brought about that later, happier event.

one best way to look at past is to sit comfortably then focus on your for few minute(just observe) then slowly remember your.

when you find any bad memories Stay with it until the hurt is gone and you’ve freed yourself from the burden of carrying a hurt from your past. Just as it's nice to live in a clean home, wear clean clothes, and be cleaned yourself, it's nice to have a clean past. It provides you with a happy now and expectations for a bright future. Stay with this exercise until it's done, dissolving past pain related to stammering will increase your level mean more better life
( modified article by speaking tree)

कामयाबी का सन्देश . . .

"हारता नहीं जो मुशकिलों से कभी,मकसद है मंजिल को पाना,
धूप में देखकर थोड़ी सी छाया, जिसने सीखा नहीं बैठ जाना,
आग जिसमें लगन की जलती है, कामयाबी उसी को मिलती है."

जिन्दगी का दूसरा नाम चुनौती है। यहाँ हर कदम पर चुनौती खड़ी मिलती है। हकलाने वाले साथी यह सोचतें हैं कि परिवार, समाज कोई भी हमारा साथ नहीं देता, सब हमारी हकलाहट के कारण हमें कमजोर समझते है। लेकिन अगर हम समाज पर व्यापक नज़र डालें तो पाएंगे कि यहाँ हर शख्स को दूसरे से शिकायत है। हर कोई दुखी है। कोई किसी की बात सुनना-समझना नहीं चाहता।

अब आप ही बताएं कि हम हकलाने वाले लोग फिर क्यों दूसरों कि इतनी चिंता क्यों करते हैं। अपनी चुनौती का सामना करने में हमें कुछ लोगों का सहयोग जरुर मिल जाता है, पर मंजिल तो आपको खुद ही तय करनी होगी।

इसलिए आज से दूसरों की चिंता करना छोड़ दें। खूब बाउंसिंग करें, कहीं भी, कभी भी। और प्राणायाम जरुर करें। घर पर भी नियमित अभ्यास करें। सफलता को आप खुद हासिल करेंगे।

- अमित सिंह कुशवाह,
Mo. 0 9 3 0 0 9 3 9 7 5 8

Fluent speech or Communication?

Mr Kumar has two sons, Vivek, 12, and Anil, 6. Vivek stammers while Anil has normal speech. One day Anil was told in school by the teacher madam: My head means mera sir. Anil came home and repeated: My head means Madam ka sir. In the meantime, Mrs Kumar returned from market and corrected him: No, no- My head means mera sir. When she went into kitchen, Anil carried on: My head means mummy ka sir.

Chennai SHG meets

Dear Friends,
The Chennai chapter meeting held on 12.02.2012 were attended by 7 pws. I stressed about the importance of speech therapy after accepting stammering.

I learned a speech therapy in the year 2000 but could not continue it. Now, I am doing speech therapy daily one hour for the past one month and I am really speaking well. This is the first time I am trying speech therapy after joining TISA and after accepting my stammering.

I suggest everyone to practice speech therapy especially those who are searching for jobs. I taught the speech therapy to others. There are 2 pws who are searching for job to whom I advised to jointly do speech therapy till get a job.

Then, I asked each pws to answer 3 questions ie what is your personal ambition?, What is your plan for your family? and What is your plan for the society?.

Everyone elaborated their plan of action well. while speaking their plan of action, most of them spoken well with less stammering.

Then, we talked about forth coming next month Chennai workshop.

May be due to one day match, less pws attended the above meet.

That's all from Chennai.

Regards,
Manimaran

And the magic happens!

Last 3 years for me have been nothing short of a miracle. I found about TISA in January 2009; started a SHG immediately; had our first SHG meeting in March 2009; organized regular meetings; organized a communication workshop in July 2009; applied for a 6 month sabbatical immediately and got it approved immediately; worked with TISA for 6 months;went back to my job and felt same frustrations; left my job; struggled with starting my IT venture. While it was looking like I was not making any progress but there was something going on in my life which was healing from Inside : Meeting other pws

Even though it make look like "I wasting my time" because I had no results to "show" but being an active member of a SHG provided me emotional support, helped build my social skills, gave me opportunity to just be myself and see that its OK to be me and helped me improve my communication skills too. It was empowering in a very unique way and brought a sense of peace. It felt so great to have so many friends to hangout with, to go out on lunch with. SHG taught me much more than fluency- it taught me how to live. The best thing was that I was in charge through out the process and it helped me build confidence in myself that yes, I too can work things out on my own and with help from others! If you are willing to be comfortable with those feelings of "not knowing" and uncertainty, SHG is for you too. And if you can find a good speech therapist, that will be like icing on the cake!

SHG at Herbutpur on Sunday Feb,12,2012

Yesterday i attended my second SHG at herbutpur . We were total 10 persons as follows -- Dr Sachin ,Mahesh , Ashish singh rawat ,Gorav datta(me) ,Pavan Singh Rathore ,Vaibhav n his father , Vijay n his uncle and Mukkaram .
In my first SHG at herbutpur I was stammering a lot as usual but I told myself that next time I will come with more practice . Hence I did my practice by reading using bouncing techniques .

First of all we saw the movie “ FRONT OF THE CLASS “ and then shared our view about the movie.

Then there was Introduction round . I was getting scared as my turn was coming nearer . I don’t know why I was getting nervous because I am attending a Self help group in which everyone is a stammerer and it was not my first SHG . May be because some new stammerers had come to attend the SHG . May be I was expecting a fluent introduction because I had been practicing reading using bouncing technique at my home. Don’t know exactly what the reason was. When it was my turn to introduce myself using bouncing technique I had a severe block on the very first alphabet ‘ में’ of the sentence ‘मेरा नाम गौरव है |’ immediately I applied cancelling technique and stopped my speech ,took a deep breath and started again . But again my mouth was now opening on the very first alphabet ‘ में’ and then I left all my technique and started stammering as I used to and gave my introduction . While I was giving my introduction Dr. Sachin told me to use bouncing technique but I didn’t listen to him because I was not able to apply bouncing technique so I continued speaking as usual . I felt very bad that I was practicing bouncing technique at home but what happened here my mouth was not opening at all how can I use bouncing techniques . I was very upset at that moment .

Then members who were new to the SHG were asked to give more introduction about themselves and I was one of them . Now I decided to speak using bouncing technique and soon I found that bouncing is not working because the very first alphabet is getting stuck & I was not able to bounce on the very first alphabet of the word . Then I gave my introduction in the way I use to speak .

After that we had some general talks and then we played few games . After that we gave our Introduction using volunteering stuttering , this I did very well .
After that Dr Sachin told about some vocal exercises and we practiced that . It was a great meeting .

Your friend
Gorav datta ( stutterer )

Regional SHG meet in March

We are planning to do regional shg meet-cum-get together , in first week of march most probably Saturday and sunday (3rd and 4th march)....in which jp suggest that we can also do tour to mussoorie & dehradun to make fun....in this meet maximum numbers of members from north-India including delhi, chandigarh, jammu,....etc joins meet.... please help us to choose a date when maximum people can join us...

please contact us for any equiry:

Anupinder 00-91-9779977441 (Patiala, Punjab)

Regional SHG Meet

Yes, We can speak well !!

This time delhi shg meeting was attended by four members. Parmendra, Sikandar, Umesh and Arun (sorry picture is old). First We each set our motto about what I would try to do during whole meeting. After a formal introduction with the group, Each of us shared their feelings/change in feelings after attending SHG meetings/NC and our parents perception about it. I have lot of new queries and emotions which I was facing these days and eagerly waiting to share them. As Parmendra started to share his emotions with his family life, almost all of my queries melt down on that way. It was because I was not alone who was finding himself in similar situation but others are also feeling the same. It is natural, as we accept our stammering so why we became tensed to accept these phases of high and low speech struggle in day to day life. 
          Sikander sir told us how positive affirmations works, if we start to say ourselves that I can communicate better no matter with stammering or what else, then our focus shift automatically from the fear of speaking situation. After spending some time in discussion at park, we went outside in crowd. We tried bouncing with unknowns. Arun was quite afraid to do that but we pushed him again and again. Parmendra did a great job to lead all of us. He was always in front to do any task like an expert (I am afraid he is converting in j.p :-)  First time in life, Arun talked to some girls on the streets. He was quite nervous but at last he did this. I also got my answers. I was lot of tensed about this thing that why I was struggling and forcing in my speech even I am quite open about my stammering. I stutter openly in my class because I have told them but still I was not satisfied because I was stuttering with forces to keep myself fluent too. Then what is the benefit of stammering openly if we can’t stammer with ease. We all know how to speak fluently but the thing that we don't know is how to stammer without struggle. Depressing stuttering and fluency shaping techniques doesn't work in the long run. Most important thing we have to learn is "how to Stammer openly but with ease”. I almost forgot the stammer on purpose and bouncing. It is quite necessary to learn the technique of stammer with ease. Thank god!! I got the point again. I again used to bounce with my friends and in stores. Thanks to parmendra and Sikandar sir who always give me immense motivation and strength. It was quite learning experience. We missed Lalit, Pinakin and Delhi shg hero Abhishek.

Chandigarh SHG 12-02-2012

In Sector 33 Chandigarh, there was a Self Help Group Meet at 3PM, which is organized by TISA coordinator Jai Prakash Sunda following members joins...

We start with an introduction round, then  afterwards JP sir discuss with us various topics like causes of stammering, negative feelings, causes of increase in stammering after joining SHG, and unsteadiness of stammering, like we stammer on a "word" then saying them fluently..

      In this meet we focus on understanding basic concepts of stammering.....then an uncle join us...he is retiree from PWD haryana, we all communicate with them about stammering and they reply to all our queries...he is very gentle and nice.... our meet is over with a idea to conduct joint SHG at herbertpur in which delhi and chandigarh members come together at herbertpur and also go to mussoorie & dehradun..guys please reply about this Idea....:)

PUNE SHG RISING AGAIN

PUNE SHG on 12-2-2012

Pune shg is not taking place from a very long time. But today it takes place. Meeting started around 11am.

Three pws were present at the meeting

1. Amol karale(myself a student)

2. Vivek singh(a student)

3. Ravishankar Gautam(a student)

Vivek and I have attended some shg’s earlier.There was no any senior member present today.So I and vivek have to think how to start.We started with meditation.Vivek gave an instructions for meditation.

After that I told Ravi that what stammering is? What is TISA? When did Pune shg started? Then I started telling him the techniques like bouncing, prolongation and slow reading and also showed him how to perform bouncing, prolongation and slow reading.

After that we gave presentation. I gave presentation on topic psycho-cybernetics starting with self introduction. I told them the exercise of self image.We has an inadequate self image. We think that whenever we will speak we will block. This is our self image. We first have to change the self image.

Vivek gave a presentation on a documentary which he has seen some days ago which was about untouchability in india.He told us the how untouchability was practiced in India.

Ravi gave presentation about India. He told us about number of states, give information on presidents and prime ministers of India.Then I and vivek told ravi about the Tisa self help manual and the books like redefine stuttering.I also told about the Acceptance.I told both of them how to increase Acceptance level.

We share our embarrassing incidents of stammering.We also share experiences of therapy like what kind of therapy you have taken? From where you have taken? .Then vivek told lets practice Group Discussion.Vivek gave first topic as “What should be done to solve the pending cases in indian courts” and later we discussed about “Increasing Divorcing rates in india”.

As we all are students from next week we are planning to have mock interviews and GD’s in the shg’s. Presentation will also be there.

Meeting was over around 1pm.

From now onwards pune shg will be conducted every Sunday.Any body interested in joining shg kindly contacts me at 9763951322 or mail at amolkarale9763@gmail.com.