February 12, 2012

Yes, We can speak well !!

This time delhi shg meeting was attended by four members. Parmendra, Sikandar, Umesh and Arun (sorry picture is old). First We each set our motto about what I would try to do during whole meeting. After a formal introduction with the group, Each of us shared their feelings/change in feelings after attending SHG meetings/NC and our parents perception about it. I have lot of new queries and emotions which I was facing these days and eagerly waiting to share them. As Parmendra started to share his emotions with his family life, almost all of my queries melt down on that way. It was because I was not alone who was finding himself in similar situation but others are also feeling the same. It is natural, as we accept our stammering so why we became tensed to accept these phases of high and low speech struggle in day to day life. 
          Sikander sir told us how positive affirmations works, if we start to say ourselves that I can communicate better no matter with stammering or what else, then our focus shift automatically from the fear of speaking situation. After spending some time in discussion at park, we went outside in crowd. We tried bouncing with unknowns. Arun was quite afraid to do that but we pushed him again and again. Parmendra did a great job to lead all of us. He was always in front to do any task like an expert (I am afraid he is converting in j.p :-)  First time in life, Arun talked to some girls on the streets. He was quite nervous but at last he did this. I also got my answers. I was lot of tensed about this thing that why I was struggling and forcing in my speech even I am quite open about my stammering. I stutter openly in my class because I have told them but still I was not satisfied because I was stuttering with forces to keep myself fluent too. Then what is the benefit of stammering openly if we can’t stammer with ease. We all know how to speak fluently but the thing that we don't know is how to stammer without struggle. Depressing stuttering and fluency shaping techniques doesn't work in the long run. Most important thing we have to learn is "how to Stammer openly but with ease”. I almost forgot the stammer on purpose and bouncing. It is quite necessary to learn the technique of stammer with ease. Thank god!! I got the point again. I again used to bounce with my friends and in stores. Thanks to parmendra and Sikandar sir who always give me immense motivation and strength. It was quite learning experience. We missed Lalit, Pinakin and Delhi shg hero Abhishek.

8 comments:

sachin said...

Great post! Yes, stammering easily is the core of "Stuttering modification" approach to therapy..
Haklao - magar pyar se!

Mohit kumar said...

Great job Delhi SHG. Well describe by you umesh, i like your's line "stammer openly only with ease". we always in so much hurry that we forgets some basic rules. We must follow those conventions.

J P Sunda said...

Delhi group I must say is one of the most lively group! Great report Umesh

Anupinder Singh said...

great meet delhi...delhi shg is very motivating....keep it up :)

Govind said...

hello evryone.. main bhi delhi se hun. nd i hve also stammering problm.. no one cn understand me. i wanna defeat my stammring. i feel alone in d whole world.. plz mujhe b apne delhi wale group me join kar lo bhaiyon. main bhi aap sab ki tarha he hun. nd theek hona chahta hun. jaise jaise lyf aage bad rhi h main kho sa rha hun. plzzz i request 2 evryone give me their nmbr. main delhi me he rahta hun. my nmbr is 09818536393.. plz evryone dnt ignore i vry serious nd w8ng 4 ur rply.. thanxxxxxx

Anupinder Singh said...

u can contact
mr. umesh rawat 9068322345 or
mr sikander singh 9810654407

Er. Umesh said...

don't worry Govind...I will call u in evening. Nice to see the youngsters are coming in front.

lalit said...

good umesh..delhi shg rocking again and again