March 24, 2017

Bangalore SHG March 19, 2017 meeting report

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We started our meeting with usual introduction round. In this Rohit explained how communication workshop has helped him to devise new strategies towards stammering. Making phone calls to strangers and practicing voluntary stammering in public places. This was followed by extempore round. This is aimed at improving ability to speak spontaneously and places a test on subjective knowledge. Next was self-description round. We need a select a line that describes us and speak over that line. Pramod took “beauty is in simplicity”. Fourth activity was an interesting game. Group members have to select a word which could be anything. Player has to find the word by asking questions to the group. This activity helps in improving our observation skills since you have to read other people thoughts. Organization of meeting was excellent. Time limit for each member was strictly followed. Attendees - Pramod, Rohit, Rajkumar, Anupam, Shobith, Abhinav, Jonali
Written By - Raj Kumar

Stammer Stories: Jaipur Communication Workshop ~ Sunoy Garai

I am a male PWS. I was born in 1996, now 20 years old. My parents originated from Shanti Niketan, West Bengal and are currently living in Gurgaon. Currently I am pursuing hotel management from Instiute of Hotel Management, Pusa, New Delhi.
For the first time in my life I realised that I was a stutterer when in 5th standard my teacher asked to recite a poem from a book. I realised that some words didn’t come out smoothly as they were used to before. The teacher asked me if I was nervous. But frankly, I wasn’t. I just went home and realised how much of an issue this can be.
Years passed and life went on and I just grew up with mild stuttering but was able to participate in an extempore or speech competitions and even won a few of them. After my secondary exams I changed my school. The people were new there and I felt lonely. I was slowly becoming an introvert person as I hesitated to speak to the new faces as I feared that they might judge too quickly. I made a couple of friends but was never the first one to start a conversation.
Two years went quite lonely for me as there was almost no interaction with any of my classmates and I always chose the corner seat where I would not be disturbed. My practical board exams got start and I was preparing for them. Things were going well until the viva. The viva I something like they are throwing stones at you and you have to dodge them. It was tougher for me than any theory exam. The teacher divided the students in groups with each of them having 5 students. When my group’s turn came I was the first one and I knew what I would be going through. The teacher asked all of us to tell the names. I stuttered in my name but somehow got it out. It was my turn and the teacher asked me question. I stuttered horribly and wasn’t even able to complete a whole sentence. The teacher asked me to have a glass of water and come back later. I went outside to drink water and I was thinking that when did I become like this. I was shocked to my core. I came back later and the teacher suggested to the take the viva with only me and not in any group. I agreed. He asked if I was nervous and uncomfortable. I was but I told him I wasn’t. He just told me to relax and answer the questions. Somehow I managed to complete the viva and the teacher wished me to do well in my life and not care about what people say.
After a few months, I moved to college. It was a new chapter of my life and I was afraid that the same would happen in college knowing what happened in school. On the first day itself, I made new friends and I always initiated the conversations. They asked if I had some problem in speaking and I frankly told them that I am a stutterer.
During my second year I noticed a boy was stuttering while ordering something from the canteen. I went upto him and asked if he was also a stutterer. He smiled and said yes. We became buddies after that. One day he said that he found a website which helps people overcome there stutter. We found a contact number from the website and we did not call but messaged, because of obvious reasons and found out that he was the admin of TISA Delhi SHG group. Soon we got the details and attended the first meeting and we were surprised that there were so many people like us. After that we attended some meetings and we felt much better and our morale was quite good.
The college was the best part of my life until the campus placements started. I always kept quiet in Group Discussions and was mostly out of the first round itself. One of my subject teacher told me that I should speak in Group Discussions as the panel won’t know that I stutter until I speak.
He even made me practice to speak in GD’s. Many companies came and I tried hard but couldn’t clear the GD’s. My first break came when Burger King came for placements and I was selected for the Panel Interview. I was nervous but happy. My interview went good and I wasn’t nervous as they already knew that I stuttered. The result came out the next day and I was selected. I couldn’t believe
that I was selected. I informed my parents and they were very happy and proud of me.
My college is about to get over and I have my final exams in May. After that I would be joining Burger King and finally I feel that I have achieved something inspite of the fact that I am a stutterer and it makes me feel very proud.

March 21, 2017

JAIPUR communication workshop_Minutes of meeting

With a hope in my heart and smile on my face, I boarded the train for Jaipur to attend the communication workshop organised by TISA. A fear of the unknown was there too, which just vanished when I saw fellow PWS at the station, all of us moving towards the common journey. The workshop kick-started with a warm welcome by Soumya, Sachin sir and team Jaipur. A quick introduction round, the one we as PWS dread so much, and we came to know the participants. The rules for the workshop were clear and well defined, smile, even during stammering, do not advice others, clap and cheers for the speaker, take care of the time. We practiced bouncing and prolongation, while giving our introduction and again and again, till we stopped fearing speaking out name. Well, that was a relief. We also conducted mock interviews with a list of questions in hand, with our workshop partners and carefully examined the communication pattern of the partner. Then we provided our feedback and then, roles were reversed. A completely fruitful exercise and with the feedback, we came to know our strengths and weaknesses. A delicious lunch and we moved on to our 'Thanks-giving' session. More often,we forget to give thanks and show gratitude to many things that we benefit from, in life, well, this session just made the day. We wrote things we are thankful for, in our lives and we realized many reasons to celebrate life. A quick tea break and we moved on to our outdoor activity. Central park in Jaipur made our evening. With the questionnaire in our hands, we went on to stop strangers and chat with them (politely, of course with Sachin sir acting as mediator, I must say, he knows how to convince someone to stop and chat). Many agreed to discuss with us about stammering, and many politely declined, which we took in a very healthy spirit and moved on. Each member must have talked to 11-12 strangers and all were very excited, which was evident in the later debriefing section, in which everybody shared their experiences of 'stranger talk' activity and were beaming with confidence. This was followed by a lovely dinner. Jaipur greeted us with downpour which cheered our faces. We also listened to some beautiful sufi songs by a Rajasthani crew, which performed just for us. We went on to enjoy our icecream's and bhel's near 'Amar jawan jyoti'. The day ended with some clicks on Jaipur roadside.

Next day kick-started with parantha as a breakfast and tea. Our first session included an inspirational talk with Sachin sir. He also explained about a phenomena called 'valsalva' which was very interesting to know about. We discussed our experiences about the 'stranger talk' and discussed other ways by which we can approach strangers. Dhruv facilitated a session of 'SMART' goal setting, both for individual and respective city SHG's. We discussed and a representative from every city shared their goals for next 6 months or a year, which we will be followed up regularly. An evening tea did its job and we did some role plays. We also did dancing, thanks to Anuprita for the wave step she taught us. We did some other fun filled activities, sher o- shayari in the evening. A mock interbiew session was also conducted for many SSC/CGIL/IAS aspirants.

A good bye underwent and we concluded the workshop with some pictures. These two days made an impression on all of us, which was also a life changing experience. We wish to imply all the techniques we learned and follow all our goals.
As Lao Tzu said, 'The journey of a thousand miles begin with one step''. Keeping this in mind, we took our first step towards self improvement.

March 20, 2017

CHANDIGARH STAMMERERS ----> SHG 2016-17 <-----

HELLO EVERYONE ITS CHANDIGARH CONNECTING BACK...!!


CHANDIGARH SELF HELP GROUP IS CONTINUOUSLY  GOING ON EVERY WEEKEND THAT IS ON SUNDAY MORNING 8am TO 11am. 

I Request New Members of Tricity should join this activities of improving Communication skills and removing the fear of stammering ...

I have upload some pictures that have been continuously captured during SHG ..



Recently we get together on 19 March-17  


From Right Mr. MANOJ VISHNOI, RAVIN, PRAMOD JI, JASSI. PARAMJEET SINGH


From Right NITIN ,ASHMEEET SINGH From Delhi, Sumit, Ravin, Alok, Jassi, 


RAVIN, JASBIR SIRJI, PRAMOD I, JASSI , KAPIL ,SUMIT


MANOJ, PARAMEET SINGH

Jasmeet and akhil 


JASSI, GAUTTAM, SUMIT, KAPIL



PARAMEET BSNL, ALOK RBI, JASSI ZTE, RAVIN IT, SYED LAW :-)

Video Practising



Learning to prepare for speaking to a large audience and leading a workshop are great ways to gain confidence and develop your ability to Communicate effectively.

I will be back with more pics and stories of Chandigarh SHG... Stay Connected ... 




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Bangalore SHG Communication Workshop Report


Here is a brief report of Bangalore Communication workshop (4-7 March 2017):

Timeline was an exercise done in pairs and it was about cultivating openness and a deeper understanding of who we are, based on significant past events – and patterns in our lives. It also helps you to decide which way you want to go forward. It also involves counseling skills (=empathetic listening). Most pairs, felt closer afterwards: their earlier friendship took a deeper dimension. Some people also felt lighter. As a follow up, we shared Kristin Chmela’s story, written by herself, documenting her own struggles in early life and insights. Then, Tarak shared his thoughts followed by Animesh’s play – Taramandal; It consisted of 5 short plays, inspired by Satyajit Ray’s stories.

On day two, we moved on to expressive communication: reciting poems and talking to a stranger. Both exercises were video graphed and reviewed. Art of pausing and dealing with secondaries (facial and body symptoms) were discussed and practiced. Both exercises were done in pairs- with a “buddy”.

Third day: In retrospect, it was the best day since we left the “safe” indoors and went out into the real world. In metro, we did some amazing fun activities with immediate benefits! At Cubbon park, we did an opinion poll about 8th March (International Women’s day). After asking all the questions about women’s issues, we asked at the end: Did you notice me stammer? Was that a problem in communication? What can be done? By you and me? Etc.

Most subjects were aware about the women’s day and the issues women face. Young women gave most coherent answers- and were also appreciative of what TISA was doing. Choosing such a social and relevant topic for stranger talk is a GOOD idea. It encourages good discussion.
Finally, back to Montfort center, we did a Road Map exercise, both individually and for Bangalore SHG as a whole.

Three days, Sachin had been pushing others. Day four was a worthy challenge for him. Abhinav and he, drove off to Nandi Hills for a day-outing. Driving a Kinetic Honda scooter on busy highways was a NEW experience for Sachin. Everything went well and they had a very relaxing time at Nandi Hills. Thanks to Abhinav and Pratim!

(I got to meet all old friends: Sudhi, Dinesh, Mohit, Anupam, Naman & Rashmi, Jonali, Mansi, Nishil, Shobhit, Rohit, Hari Krishna, Upasana, Tarunidhar, Reuben, Pramod… Thank you, all of you! Sachin)

March 18, 2017

Jaipur Comm WS

18 March: Day one. We began with 'partner' intro😈. Then,we talked about some house keeping issues 😆 and then sachin😎 reminded everyone of some essential truths: no cure, but mindset cure! YESS mindset cure is the only cure! Anyday, anywhere, anytime - and for free😁 💨🆒
And also the need to practice for a long time, the ideas introduced in the 2 day workshop etc.🛂⏳ Because it is like learning a new language. So, give yourself some time. Dont be in a tearing hurry.

Then, we discussed and practiced in three small groups : Bouncing, Prolongation - and finally voluntary stammering😱. We used various ways to explore these techniques- like using them in one line intro, then in 3_4 line formal intro, then on 3-4 'feared' words, then in an impromptu story telling exercise....😟 🏇

Later, in the evening, we went to central park (beautiful😸) to practice stammering interviews with strangers 😵(we had practiced it in pairs already 👥). This was a challenging exercise for almost all of us 😜. Audience of course was good and cooperative 😏. Some of us jogged along while asking questions 😂 from the fitness freaks, all wired up with headset and other gadget..🎧 - but they were kind enough to say: yes yes , ask anything... 🏃 🏃

Before leaving the park, we had a nice debriefing and a group "high five" - mai Hakla / hakli hu! Wow! 🐙🐲

Next day, we began with Thank you list exercise. Over about 45 Minutes, we all discovered that we had so much to thank! It led to a total reversal of polarity!🌞 Then, in three groups we brain stormed how to sustain this positivity, in the face of daily setbacks..☔

Oh yes, we also did mutual videography, while phoning strangers. Some ambitious participants ordered a new Scorpio, some explored exchange options, some phoned the bereaved families..


Yes, we all had put on our Van Heusen shirt with brightest possible orange fashion statement,  haklao magar pyar se..👕💓👅👄 Some of us even slept in our designer shirt..

We also discussed about valsalva phenomena and discovered that :
when you r in an interview-
u r not in the loo 🚽🚾 -
so why strain? And have pain?
With no gain? 🗿🐝

Then, Dhruv facilitated a session on goal setting, individual as well as for the group. Also, how to hold ourselves accountable to these goals...🔨🔧🙌 🎯

Then, some truly funny role plays,  ðŸ’ 👺 Which I am sure only Pws can conceive and execute!🎭

Anuprita 👸 taught us some graceful dance steps.💃. Mock interviews, self assertion role plays, sher o shayari..👻 Then, we parted as family parts 😩.. Sad but sure that we will meet again. 👼

Soumya's parents came to greet and bless us on the last day!
If you think I have used too many emojis in this post, it is not my fault: this is what happens when you spend 48 hours with young, cool and hep crowd like Sunoy, Akshay and company! 

March 17, 2017

SHG Report 12 March 2017

Despite of it being Holi, PWS showed up in Cubbon Park with full enthusiasm and wisdom a week after the great coomunication workshop.

Secondary Symptoms(SS): We began by an activity based on our secondary symptoms.We were supposed voluntarilyplay around with our secondary symptoms.Some of us were not aware of their SS, they were supposed to make a phone-call to a person with whom they usually stutter.Everyone made a great attempt at discovering their SS while giving their introduction.

Stranger Talk:We divided our into 4 group and went around cubbon park speaking to strangers.we began b asking them about why we celebrate Holi but invariably ended our conversation with brief overview of Stammering and TISA.
Group Discussion: GD was the last activity and we tried voluntary stuttering here. Topic was complicated"Is our society becoming A POST-Truth Society and way forward " Everyone came inteligent points. Quality of the GD was vey good as most of the PWS are well-read and aware.
From Left to right Naman, Anupam, Hari , Mohit , subrat , Rohit , Taruni , Shiva (Photo credits : Shiva.)
 (Report Shared by Anupam Saxena)

March 5, 2017

So guys on 5th March 2k17
It was day out with S-S Stammerers with  sunny weather!!! 

As usual, we all gathered at Vastrapur lake because it's prime location to meet  for everyone.

 Agenda of the day  was created by our Respected co-ordinator of Ahmedabad Shg
Mr. Vipul Ubhadiya

Participants of today meeting were 
Vipul ,Vivek ,Shailesh , Mitesh ,Anil , Maitrey , Parthik, Roshan , Harshil& Ketul. Mithesh specially came from 180km to attend this SHG!!! 






Wow!!! it's was first time we were 10 members who were together  to have fun with  our stammering!!

10-11am                                                                                                                                               
 So Activities had been started with energizing game. In this Activity we played a ZIP-ZAP-ZOP and ANA-PANNI game which looked to be funny and intersting also which made the opening of Sunday with full cherishment of JOY and Happiness!!                                                                                                                                         
11-12am                                                                                                                                                 Then we did  set up for  "Mock press conference"
 In conference celebrity role was performed by Mr Roshan as a  Mr Raghuram Rajan  , Mr. Pratik as a Virat Kohli and Ketul as our Honorable Prime Minister  Mr Narendra Modi Ji and all other participants were journalist. Journalists were asking frequent questions to celebreties in a sequence manner and  for a while it looked conference was going actually with lot of questions and answers which were getting exchanged from both ends!!!







12-1pm
Then we all  shared about journey of our life with  stammering ,hurdles, etc and boosted ourself that stammering cannot stop us all in manner of  studies,career  and to achieve our goal of life...

We were with full of hunger and need to take delicious food to charge ourself to have more fun with S-S-Stammering 
So it's  been 01::30 pm then we went for lunch at  restaurant!!! 

2.30-04.30pm
After lunch the activity which was first time which we involved in  Ahmedabad Shg was Stammering Survey 

We  conducted survey on  
"What's peoples think & react on person who stammer "

So we got official permission by Authority of "Alpha One Mall" to  conduct survey in which we  involved our self with the stammering power!!!

As per survey .
Young  generation  truly believed in the output of workdone 
rather then the  personal weakness  which motivated us to move towards way of Goal rather then being hopeless for stammering.

One  beautiful thought I would like to write

'Your stuttering is something you do, not something that happens to you. It is your behaviour and is extremely modifiable'


Day successfully completed with many more moments that we don't want to forget..

Written by 
Ketul Gandhi

Regards

Charity and empathy..

          I had run away from my boarding school thrice- once each during class 6,class 7 and class 12 . Except for the class 6th effort, the other two were successful. During  the class 6th escape , a kind-hearted gentlemen got suspicious about my uniform , and on knowing about my escape plan he dropped  me back to school on his bicycle. My issue was that I was a home-sick child, who stammered , and I missed my family so much. But my father was hell-bent that I should complete my schooling from the army school.
                 This is the story of my second escape during class 7. I planned it on a rainy sunday afternoon along with a close friend. To avoid detection, both of us trekked along the agricultural fields for about 8 kilometers to the nearest state highway. Then we boarded separate buses to reach our respective homes. I reached a railway station at night time to board a train to my home-town. While I was waiting for the midnight train, I came across a family which seemed to be that of labourers.

            Seeing a lonely child at a small railway station at night time , they became concerned and enquired about me. I made up a story that I had come for a picnic along with my friends to the nearby tourist place, but was somehow left back alone while they returned. I was feeling scared, so I sat close to that family on the dimly lit pavement. Having had nothing to eat since last many hours , I was very hungry.  It was dinner-time for the family. Each family member was given some  chapattis and mango pickle. They shared their food with me. I could feel  some dust particles as I was chewing the dry chapatti, but it felt so tasty as I was very hungry. I finally boarded the train to my home-town at midnight. That night, the kind family demonstrated to me the meaning of charity and empathy .

March 2, 2017

"TaraMandal" - A play from Bangalore SHG






Hi All,

Theatre Hat-ke is presenting their play "Taramandal" on 4th March, 2017 at Montfort Spirituality Centre.

Taramandal received the Hindu MetroPlus Playwright Award in 2010. It's written by Neel Chaudhuri.

About Theatre Hat-Ke:

Theatre hat-ke is a group originated within Bangalore SHG and as a result of the acting classes, we have had since January. The first batch of acting classes culminates with this final performance of Taramandal.
SYNOPSIS:

February 26, 2017

Ahmedabad self help Group

26/02/2017
Shg report

Today'S  report
Date :26/02/2017


So it's Sunday morning!

Weather was cool and sunny🌞✨

So wait with anticipation is liked to be over.

Vastrapur lake was more  beautiful as usual today.
 so  we were 5 members  me, Vipul ,Vivek ,Harshil ​, Anant .

A meeting was Hosted by Harshil Damor he came with some unique agenda which we never had  seen before.

So Harshil did guide us for first activity which was speaking on any Topic  for 5 min  but ..but... with   closed eyes so moral was This activity  speak anything that in your mind without seeing anyone face expression so ya that can be reduce the fear while expressing yourself to anyone.

Then second activity was something like same but with closed eyes as well as Ears so obviously  it's like funny but we did for once

And we appreciate an idea and dream of  Mr Vipul  for opening a school for stammerers.. was really well

In final activity we did individually shared our  a parrelel journey of life  towards joining TISA from a  bad stammerer , we shared our all efforts that we all  did  for manage our  stammering

So A new member Anant showed up with brilliant idea to make documentary  on life of stammerers  so on next SHG meet we will start working on that

 So finally proud to say  Ahmedabad SHG is Ready for Next level

#Blessed to be a stammerer
     

February 24, 2017

Stammer Stories: Jaipur Comm WS: My Life with Stammering ~ Gaurav Medatwal

Hello friends, brothers and sisters. I am Gaurav Medatwal (26 year) from Beawar Ajmer.
I am one of those peoples who stammer.
Part1: LIFE BEFORE TISA(7 TO 23)
I found myself stammering since my childhood
My parents told me that I was fluent speaker in childhood and I speak very fast but clear.
I had learnt Gayatri Mantra when I was of 1 yr. I don't have any idea about exactly when
And why I started stammering. I used to run from any situation of speaking since then.
During my school days I avoid book reading, taking part in stage acting ,debates, asking my doubts Talking to all the classmates and schoolmates as well as teachers. Although I get good
Marks but I was unable to express myself in school days, whenever I got into any fight with
Anyone they says phle bolna toh Sikh le. Had a lot of bad experience during school life. It was
Like hell living with stammering ,I was anable to even give my introduction to anyone , I don't
Found anyone stammering like me around. Although my father is homeopathy doctor  he was
Unable to cure my stammering. I have visited lot of other doctors with my parents but nothing works . I have seen my mother crying worrying about my future. My cousins, neibours
School mates copy my stammering in front of me and it was very embarrassing moment for
Me. I was hopeless but living my life with stammering.. I have lot of inside me which I want to
Tell many peoples ,I wanted to speak in public express myself but I was unable. One day my father found speech therapy institute at Amer in Jaipur . They have sent me there for one month
I learn prolongation there and after one month I found myself speaking very fluent and clear. I
Got more confident more energetic enthusiast and optimistic. I thought that I won biggest bettle of my life in very early age(15). Finally I cured my stammering . I was feeling like top of world very happy and my parents were also happy. Everyone telling me that I am speaking very good
Even better and fluent then normal speaker. But after few months it started again and even wrost then before .. I don't understand what is going on with me. I followed all the rules of
Speech therapy but I started stammering again. Hell it was. . After 1 year I was at same place from where I started . Then many times I gave weeks and months to my practice keeping myself
Locked in a room . And I got cured really again and again but it was very difficult to maintain that fluency . After 1 month I pulled back to the same situation. And my whole childhood ruined in it. 
Before going to college I again took speech therapy by same institute but the same story repeated itself for next 5 years..   got bad experience in college. Bunked lectures , presentations
Left debates, acting, Anchoring, avoid girls , seniors . Lived a life in which I speak publicly  very little only in emergency situation. Keeping my friends ahead for giving attendance, asking my doubts and even giving my introduction( Amazingly bad it is)..  this is more then hell. I feel like I am dependent on others. It takes 10 times time to asking for a ticket on ticket counter..  social sites really helped alot making myself social making friends , new girlfriends, and expressing myself. But when that girls ask for mobile number or meeting I was like shitt . Wt I gonna do now to hide my stammering. I always hide my stammering . Even i was full of sweat whenever I have to speak .. but the clock never stops time goes on..
During college placement times I assured that I got maximum marks in written exam round
to compensate my performance in interview .. and it works for me . I got job in IGI AIRPORT as electrical services engineer. But my struggle with stammering was still going on. In my job I have to make and recives many departmental calls and solve the technical issues by Automation controlling for which I was trained. I was doing my job good but talking on calls created issues for me. And I was kicked out of that job within a month. They gave reson that I stammer alot so they don't work with me anymore and promised me that they ll send on another site but this was their excuse they never called me again..   I was crying because everything got finished in my life that time. My knowledge my talents and skills abilities efforts degree all are waste without a fluent voice. Trust on God get overed. I have no courage to share this with my parents. But life goes on . I do another job of building automation engineer and in that I also have to meet clients make calls visit sites meet new people work overnites travel different cities but I was managing because I have no other option..  same time I was searching other methods to get over from this.
Part 2: LIFE WITH TISA
  One day I have seen a boy speaking on stage about stammering and the banner behind him"HAKLAAO MAGAR PYAR SE"  i was stunned by seeing that .. I was thinking what is that I have never seen this before a person talking on stage publicly everyone clapping for him he was stammering badly but he don't stop he was enjoying his stammering and people too.. I got his name in his introduction speech I Facebook that and found that guy. I asked him what was that where was that place then finally he gave me contact of DELHI SHG MEMBER.. and I go for my first sgh in March 2014 in Delhi central park. I had meet there many ppls with same stories and experiences and talking openly about stammering and enjoying their life . . By meeting Sikander Sir , Vishal, Amitji , Himanshu , Aashish Lakra and many other persons I feel really good . I have a wonderful experience with lot of them. One new word I hear with them was" ACCEPTANCE" .
I was totally unaware about this. Sikender sir tell me about acceptance in my 4th 5th shg meeting. Then I decided I never run from situation from now I have to face everyone and every situation courageously and get over my fear of public speaking .. then day by day I opened up myself about stammering.. I tell everyone about me in office  ,clients ,meeting, metros, new friends ,on social media  , new girls , to my boss , family members, copassengers .. and relise that it was U TURN for my life. I was getting over from my long years depression. I started enjoying doing this .. and till now I am working on it.. I lived in many cities in last 3 years Delhi , jaipur ,Ahmedabad, Jamnagar, Mumbai,and from last 1.5 yr in my hometown. But my way of thinking about stammering and my life is totally change. Now stammering doens't embarrassing me anymore .. I don't feel bad anymore when I don't able to give my introduction . All this I got from MY TISA JOURNEY. .

I am very thankful to Sachin sir, sikender sir ,Vishal and all my Tisa friends.

Stammer Stories: Jaipur Comm WS: Atul Singh Sainger

Hello all! I developed stammer when I was in 3rd or 4th standard. And by 6th I became fulltime stammerer. Bunking schools in oral tests, persuading friends to attend my roll call, Literally avoiding each&every situation where I have to use my speech. Became quite silent person, cause I know if I’ll speak I’ll stammer, and if’ll stammer rest of the world with their arsenal to fire their advices, cures, “Nuskha’s”, and more over their tease. I was just fed up with everyday advices like be confident, don’t get nervous, pull your tongue, stretch it (like it’s a rubber band huhh).
I grew up with advices like”muh me kalimirch rakha karo” & all that crap. By the time i passed +2 I became quite a stubborn. Since I joined TISA in august 2014, and met with Sachin Sir, my perception towards my stammering changed completely. I no longer feel as stammering is a problem for me. Its more like a part of me. I have many awsm frnds like any other random guy, I enjoy life like any other random guy and the best part is people focus on what I say cause of its content & not how I speak. Stammering also helped me improving my writing skills. Yes It may sound funny but due to my stammer only I focused very much on what to say and which word/language to use, so much so that I can now proudly say that I'm an okay okay type poet/shayar or whatever.... The point is I feel that It is because my stammering only that I am the Atul singh which u all know. If I wouldn't stammer I might have been a completely different person and might be not better than I am today. Stammering not only effects your speech, It effects your thoughts, your body language, your nature and in my case your soul too. I feel like me and my stammering are kind of made for each other. We often compete with each other , every time I have to give any presentation in my Institute.  And I quite enjoy that.
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February 16, 2017

Stammer Stories: Jaipur Comm WS: Sunil Kumar

So, if you are too tired to speak, sit next to me, because I, too, am fluent in silence. –R. Arnold

My name is Sunil Kumar. I am 23 years old male PWS. I am from Sikar, Rajasthan. I completed my B.tech in Bio-technology from National Institute of Technology Durgapur, West Bengal in 2015. Currently, I am preparing for SSC CGl examination. I have been stuttering since I could remember. I am the only one among three generations of my family and all the near relatives of my family who stutter. My parents tell that I suffered from severe Pneumonia (A respiratory disease characterized by inflammation of the lung parenchyma (excluding the bronchi) with congestion caused by viruses, bacteria or irritants), when I was one or two years old. That time I became very weak. They think this is the reason behind my stuttering. I also believe my parents because Pneumonia is a respiratory illness and stuttering has got everything to do with our respiratory system. Sometimes I find difficulty in speaking because my lungs are out of air. Many a time words doesn’t come out of my mouth.
I did my initial schooling in my village. My childhood was like any other normal child in village. I used to give speech in school on occasions like Children’s Day, Gandhi Jayanti etc till 8thclass. During my speech, I used to stutter a lot; still my teachers encouraged me to speak. Slowly, I started feeling that I am not like everybody else and I became shy and I was losing my confidence. Owing to lack of knowledge and awareness then, my grandmother used to think it was because of a curse from some Devi-Devta.
In 10th class, I was 3rd topper of my school. My parents has always considered me a bright kid therefore they admitted me to an IIT-JEE coaching institute in Sikar. There, I stopped caring about my stuttering still, I hesitated to ask my doubts and talk about my problems to the teachers. As a result, I couldn’t get selected in IIT-JEE with 12th class. My parents sent me Kota, Rajasthan so I could get admitted to a better coaching institute. I worked very hard. There, they reshuffle students on the basis of the performance in monthly tests. There were total 25 batches. Initially, I was in RH5 batch. In the first test, I did very well and I was promoted to RH1 batch. I was very happy. I was feeling myself closer to my dream of getting into an IIT. But unfortunately, it was not my destiny. After 3-4 months, I started to have constant severe headaches and those headaches continued till my IIT-JEE exam. I couldn’t concentrate in my studies. Therefore, I couldn’t make to an IIT. In AIEEE, I got a rank just good enough to get me a seat in an NIT.
I was allotted biotechnology in NIT Durgapur. I did not get to choose what I wanted to study because my rank in AIEEE was not good. Still, I was happy because NITs are institutes of national importance and I got admission in one of them. NIT Durgapur is infamous for ragging. In initial days, I couldn’t talk to anybody. Most of the times, I remained silent, I couldn’t tell even my name when seniors asked me. I found it very difficult to respond on my roll calls for attendance in the class. Many times I used to skip attendance. Deep inside I was feared that I would not be able to make new friends. I did not know if I would be able to survive there but, I did. Gradually, I started adapting myself to the new environment. Things started to change, I made some new friends and seniors also started being co-operative and friendly. Till then, I was running away from stuttering and hoping that one day some miracle would happen and my stuttering would just vanish and I would speak with fluency. But that was a false and mistaken belief.
 I realised one thing that I can‘t always run away from situations where I have to speak and express myself. There was nothing I knew that I could do about my speech. I have a friend (6-7 years older than me) who was pursuing his MBBS that time. I called him, we discussed about stuttering and how I was feeling. He told me to visit a speech therapist. After 3 months in college, I came home for vacations. I discussed about stuttering with my father and told him about speech therapy. He took me to a speech therapist in Jaipur the very next day. She suggested me some exercises for my mouth and tongue and asked me if I can visit her regularly for next 15-20 days. It was not possible for me, since my college was starting next week. I practiced, what she advised me for few days, but I didn’t find those exercises of any help.
When I was returning to college, I saw a sticker of another speech therapist in the toilet of the train. I searched about him on internet and I thought he could help me. After my 1st year in college, I went to him. He claims that he is a recovered PWS and he can cure stuttering. I was taken by his words and the fact that I desperately needed any help to cure my stuttering. I joined his course for 20 days .There were 30-40 other PWS. He doesn’t have any degree like MBBS or any other speech disorder specialisation. He taught us a distorted version of prolongation technique (that we practice in SHG meetings). He told us to speak every letter of each word in prolonged manner like mmmmyyyyy nnnnnnaaammmee iiiissss ssssssuuuuunnnnniiillllll. He told us to speak by singing. Following his methods, I felt embarrassment.  According to him, we should speak less and avoid stuttering at any cost. I practiced his techniques for 2-3 months. By using his techniques, I got little fluency, but his methods made me more conscious about my stuttering. Sometimes my efforts to avoid stuttering made situation worse and I ended up stuttering very badly. I tried to follow his methods for almost one year. But instead of controlling my stuttering his methods brought more stress to me. I used to think, I was not practicing enough and properly.
These are my two failed attempts with speech therapy. Next one year (my third year in college), I again ignored my stuttering. One day, I was attending a class of my HOD (head of the department). He asked me a question, which I tried to answer but I stuttered very badly and couldn’t complete my answer. He told us that he also used to stutter till 10th class in school and his stuttering was worse than mine. He also said that stuttering may be a result of gene mutation (it was a genetics class).  He asked me to visit him in his office after the class. I went to him. He told me about his encounter with stuttering and that his stuttering was cured by homeopathic medicines. He suggested me to visit a homeopathic doctor. I tried homeopathy for 3-4 months but I did not get any positive results.
 There was a personality development class in 6th semester, where we had group discussions, debate and mock interviews. I never attended those classes because I was afraid of stuttering in front of whole class. In my entire engineering course, in all laboratory subjects in which we had a viva, I got either C or D grade. I never participated in any extracurricular activity and kept myself aloof from girls in my entire college life, which I regret now.
Final year of college started, many companies were visiting our campus for placement. Other students were preparing what they would speak in interview and I was worrying about how I would speak. One day, I was searching on internet about interview tips for PWS. This is when I came to know about TISA. I read 30-40 articles from TISA blog that day. I downloaded self help book (Apna Hath Jagganath) and read the whole book the same day. I was feeling some hope. I joined Google hangout, there I met Nenad, Alok, Vishal and others. I sat in 5 companies for placement. I cleared written examination of 3 companies, but I couldn’t clear even 1st round of personal interview of all three companies. I thought, it was because I stutter. Later after some analysis and discussion with friends, I realised it wasn’t completely because of stuttering but it was due to lack of preparation. I joined Vipassana meditation, 10 Days course. I felt good and a bit relaxed after that course. After vipassana course, I went to college. It was last semester of college life, so I chose enjoying college life over practicing vipassana.

After completing college I came to Jaipur. I called Ravikant Sharma, who was co-ordinator of Jaipur SHG group that time. Now, he is excise inspector in Banglore. I joined Jaipur SHG and met some amazing people Chandar Prakash Goyal, Anurag choudhary, Soumya Saxena and Ravi Bhaiya. By attending SHG meetings I realised one thing that we shouldn’t run after fluency instead we should focus on improving our overall communication skills. I always wanted to meet Sachin Sir and attend NCs and other communication workshops, but, owing to lack of time, distance and financial constraints, I was never able to do so. I hope to attend communication workshop in Jaipur on 18-19 March and meet Sachin Sir there.