Let's Talk About Stammering

Hello friends

For a long time I have been thinking of doing this, but as it is said that you need some brute force to cross your limits. So, this time when I met Sachin Sir in Dehradun, I expressed my desire on doing this because it gives me limitless opportunities to speak to strangers.

Today I went to Cubbon Park, Bangalore to try this activity. I reached at 10:00 am but today it being a raining Sunday and also a long weekend, so not many Bangalorian were there in the park. So I sat on a bench with perplexed thoughts. I was thinking that if I go and stand on the walk-way then no one would turn-up. But then, I changed my thought and I reconciled myself that - to do this activity today I woke up early than on other Sundays. I traveled 12 Km and walked 3 km and if I don't do this then what is the point in coming here and waking up early. So with a scared heart I stood up with the thought - LET'S GIVE IT A TRY. 

I hold the poster in hand and stood at one tri-junction. Many people passed reading just the Poster. But this gave me confidence that at least people are noticing me. 

Soon after, a group of 4 boys come towards me and I wished them Hiiii...They asked me "What is Stammering" and I being a stalwart TISA member explained them everything I knew about Stammering. 

Then came a group of 5 students. They were all doing PG in Christ university. They told me that they have some classmates who stammer. Actually, with them I wanted to talk on stammering but the conversation took a turn and we talked on everything other than Stammering...😄😄. They were very friendly and with them I spoke for more than 30 minutes. 

Then, a old friend of mine who met me in Cubbon Park only through stranger talk activity long back saw me and approached me. He is having Salon Business and he and I are so comfortable talking with each other that we had a conversation which lasted for more than 30 minutes. 

It was just an awesome experience because through it I realized that I can do those thing that had scared me for a long time.

Same activity I did around 2 months back and I'm attaching some pics of that activity too.

 

Ravi Kant Sharma

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हाँ ,मैं हकलाता हूँ

नमस्कार दोस्तों ,

मेरी Stammering Interview  देखने के लिए नीचे दिए 3 लिंक्स पर क्लिक करें।  धन्यवाद 

1     https://youtu.be/4cROjSPpzYE

2    https://youtu.be/OTCZTgIsVnU

3   https://youtu.be/QGeRaZwmJxw

---संदीप राजा 

Bundle of joy

It's been a month since my daughter was born. I have realised from day one of her birth that my affection for her is very strong, similar to my feelings for my mother and wife.. It seems God plants this affectionate feeling in every parent's heart, so that they take best possible care of the new-born..
         I have observed steady shift of personal goals and ambitions since her birth.  There is a feeling of belonging, a feeling of self-assurance.. It seems that I have reached my destination, my goal of life..  My stammering has taken back-seat, her care and well-being are of utmost priority as of now. My focus has shifted from I, me and myself to her. It seems God teaches us love, care and selflessness by letting us take care of our child. She is indeed a bundle of joy.
        

राष्ट्रीय सम्मेलन 2019 l भोपाल l 27, 28, 29 सितम्बर l पंजीयन प्रारंभ l

द इण्डियन स्टैमरिंग एसोसिएशन तीसा वार्षिक सम्मेलन के लिए भोपाल में आपको सादर आमंत्रित करता है। 

प्राकृतिक सौंदर्य से भरपूर एवं झीलों के शहर से नाम से मशहूर भोपाल में हकलाने वाले व्यक्तियों का राष्टीय सम्मेलन 27,28,29 सितम्बर, 2019 को आयोजित हो रहा है। इस सम्मेलन में देशभर के हकलाने वाले साथी सम्मिलित होंगे। 

सम्मेलन में शामिल होने के लिए एवं जानकारी के लिए इस लिंक पर विजिट करें:- पंजीयन करें

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मेरी पहली ध्यान केन्द्रित कार्यशाला

मैं राकेश जायसवाल। हाल ही में तीसा की विकासनगर देहरादून में आयोजित संचार कार्यशाला वर्जन-2 का हिस्सा बना। वैसे तो मैं कई कार्यशालाओं में भागीदारी कर चुका हूं, लेकिन यह कार्यशाला थोड़ी अलग रही। अलग इन अर्थों में की तीसा ने पहली बार अपनी कार्यशाला में ध्यान को प्रमुखता से शामिल किया। हम सभी साथी प्रतिदिन सुबह 7 बजे से शाम  7.30 तक सत्र के हिसाब से कुल 6 घंटे ध्यान करते थे और बाकी समय में हम हकलाहट और संचार से जुड़ी तमाम बारीकियों पर बातचीत करते थे। मुझे इस कार्यशाला में आने से बहुत लाभ हुआ और हकलाहट के साथ ही ध्यान की गहनतम गहराईयों में जाने और उसे समझने का अवसर मिला।वैसे देखा जाए तो हमारी हकलाहट में भी ध्यान की बहुत अहम भूमिका है, क्योंकि भले ही हकलाहट जुबान पर होती है, पर उसकी जड़ें कहीं ना कहीं हमारे अंतर्मन  से ही जुड़ी हुई होती हैं। ध्यान के जरिए हम उस तक पहुंच सकते हैं और अपनी हकलाहट को काफी हद तक नियंत्रित भी कर सकते हैं। प्राकृतिक सौंदर्य के बीच हम सभी साथियों ने इस कार्यशाला में ध्यान और संचार के नए पहलुओं को बारीकी से महसूस किया। 

- राकेश जायसवाल, उत्तरप्रदेश।
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Report on Chandigarh Communication Workshop held on 2-3 March 2019

A communication workshop was organized by Chandigarh SHG of TISA (The Indian Stammering Association) for Two Days i.e 2^nd 3^rd March 2019 including boarding and lodging.

The workshop saw the participation of approx.33 people from different walks of life varying from doctors, engineers, Ph.D. scholars, Garments shop owner, Retired veterans & students age from 19 to 65 years and yet they all were very similar to each other when it came to stammering. Organizers and guest were people of repute from their respective fields who shared their experience with stammering and also explained that stammering is a very minuscule part of life and one can achieve anything if he accepts stammering. The duration of the workshop was of 2 days. These two days were packed with activities and games to make you understand the importance of acceptance, ways to manage stammering and acquire good communication skills.

AGENDA...

A Day Before...

13 PWS reached one day before on 1^st march itself and welcomed by Host and Doast Jasmeet Singh who take care of their belongings and booked their rooms at Bhawan.

DAY 1...

The day started with some instruction and ground rules for the upcoming two days. The first message of the workshop was HAKLAO MAGAR PYAR SE (stutter freely as much as you can in these two days).

 In the Beginning, we were shown a video on acceptance by TISA founder Dr. Sachin Shrivastav and National Coordinator Mr. Harish overviewing its importance in dealing with stammering and congratulating all participants and organizers.







Icebreaking session...

 The icebreaking session was organized just after breakfast and we all knew each other by name within an hour while performing different interesting activities. Importance of listening in good communication was also explained to participants via icebreaking activity.

Practicing Pausing Technique after eating Chocolate

Techniques such as Bouncing, Prolongation, voluntary stuttering, and pausing were explained to participants.

In addition, JUSTDIAL activity was done. We were told to call them and talk with voluntary stuttering. The purpose was to explain that the person in front of us is more interested in the content of speech rather than the manner of speaking.

After lunch, there was a Presentation Delivered by Dr. Renu Goel briefing What is Stammering? Why do we Stammer? How Stammering develops in a child? Helpful tips for parents of PWS, Stammering in Adults and at last what can be done to improving our Stammering.

 After that, we all gathered in front of the building and told shopkeepers and bystanders that we are stammerers and there is nothing to be ashamed of in it. With this activity, individual have overcome the fear of public speaking. It was the first time for some people who have spoken boldly in open and do some practice of acceptance.

Now after that, we were divided into teams and given instruction to go to different places such as Punjab University (PU), Sukhna Lake etc for stranger talk and know their perspective about stammering.

 This activity was done to better accept ourselves as stammerers and get rid of the psychological burden which we stammerers have accumulated after years of stammering and feeling of guilt.

Day finished with debriefing in their individual teams. People shared their experience of the stranger talk and the activities of the day.

Stranger Talk

DAY 2....

At the start of day 2, we all had to speak for 10 minutes in front of friends and share whatever we want. For many of us, it was the first time on the speaker. Everyone was listened patiently and encouraged to stammer freely.

The aim was to get the people out of their comfort zone and start speaking with stammering from today.

The second activity was more of training on Vipassana and the importance of deep breathing and pausing in our speech. We had the Vipassana meditation for around 1 hour. Participants had very enthusiastic Q/A session with Vipassana teacher.

 After lunch, everybody had to come on stage and practice techniques in front of everyone.

   

Participants helped each other with techniques and pledged to use these techniques in real life situations.

In the afternoon with some more discussions done and after that everybody enjoys dance on Punjabi beats. For the next activity participants were called to showcase their special talents. We were amazed to see so many talents such as mimicry artist, folk dancers, theater artist & singers among us, additionally an individual group skit is performed.

Sheet 1 Goal Setting

Sheet 2 Goal Setting

     

 After completion of activities, we all set the goal to be accomplished in next 1 month to get better on acceptance and to overcome our fear of stammering.

 In the end, everybody was given memento and certificate to appreciate the fact that we have shown the courage to confront our stammering.

All in all, these communication workshops are tailor-made for you if you are a stammerer. You get to meet so many stammerers for the first time that you stop feeling different from others. You make some excellent friends for life in these two days. Everybody is so supportive of each other. The tagline Haklao Magar Pyar Se will sound ridiculous at first but as you proceed through the workshop you will understand its true meaning. This workshop can really get your inner potential out if you are willing to take all its learning with yourself, at least for me it was the case.

Priyanshu Mishra

Tata Motors Ltd.

Rudrapur Uttarakhand

So, let me conclude by thanking all of you for your time and valuable insights.

Thank you so much for joining us and participating in this workshop and for bringing your expertise and experience around the table and engaging in such fruitful, constructive and open exchanges throughout the two days.

We look forward to welcoming you again in Chandigarh

We have a Regular Self Help Group Meetings Organised on every Sunday for 1:30 hours at Punjab University Student center Chandigarh. For  more Info Contact me on Mobile No. #9988990330 Jasmeet Singh

                                                              Financial Statement

Registration Fee for 2 days :

1.       Locals ( No accommodations Required ) - ₹1000

2.       Dormitory (1-night stay on 2/3 march ) –₹1200

3.       Double bed Room (1-night stay 2/3 march Without attached toilet ) - ₹1575 cost for 1bed only

4.       Deluxe Double bed Room (1-night stay 2/3 march attached toilet ) - ₹1875 cost for 1bed only

 NOTE:- Registration fee including 2 days breakfast/ lunch/first-night dinner and evening Tea/lassi

EXTRA:- Dormitory 1bed - ₹80

                Without an attached toilet 1 room includes 2 bed -₹750

                 Attached toilet 1 room includes 2 bed - ₹1350

Note. Check-In check out at 12 Noon

 

Invent Role: Create Opportunities

 Many of us, after desensitization and having learned a few techniques, often wonder: What next? Where do I go and practice my new communication skills? Many pws keep waiting for the “right opportunity”. Some, smart ones, create these opportunities by inventing a social role for themselves.

Pankaj, a young man from Almora, has done Diploma in Mechanical Engineering and is now preparing for competitions. I met him a year ago- then again, he visited me at SMTA sometime back. We discussed a few basic ideas about stepping out of comfort zone. He was also active in MOOC 3 then.

Then, as it happens frequently, we lost touch; we were busy in our own mad worlds. Yesterday, I received a phone call from him, followed up by some pictures on whatsapp. He had followed ONE idea to its fruition.

After Pulwama tragedy, he contacted local traders, shop keepers, cab drivers in his little sleepy (but picturesque!) town (Bagwali Pokhar) and organized an awareness rally about the need to support our defense forces and to be vigilant about terrorism in the country. To his surprise, he discovered that local schools supported his initiative whole-heartedly and the students were happy to take out a rally. Day after day, he noticed a change in his communication style. He was more confident, he was taking quick decisions and he was speaking in public at last! (He can be seen in a blue shirt, with a megaphone in his hands in the top picture!)

Above all, he felt that he was connected to an idea bigger than himself. He was feeling happy and fulfilled. No therapy, could have given him this feeling and this sense of achievement and Self-confidence- he was convinced.

How did he do this? He identified a social need, he created a role for himself and stepped into it, without worrying about - “Mujhe kya milega?” (What will I get out of this?).

If we look around ourselves, Life is offering us many such opportunities to help and serve others every day. Why wait? Look carefully at your neighborhood, your office, your city. Surely someone needs your skills, your help. Jump into it with joy. This is your McMera Program - 100 percent free and 100 percent effective.

Fear, Adventure, Performance, Prep, Joy...

Fear, Adventure, Performance, Prep, Joy.. all these have such a huge role in learning and growth. Recently, I had a chance to go to Delhi after a long long time. Transition from Herbertput to Delhi is like sudden beaming up from Jhumari Talayya to New York central square - for me at least. So I was a little nervous. That nice kind of feeling: You are frightened but you also are itching to go ahead! That kind of feeling.. many of you must have felt it when you raised your hand in the class for the first time. The trick is move into this feeling- instead of running away from it. You can even begin to savor (enjoy) this kind of inner tension.

OK, back to Delhi. Kundan who works in Delhi Metro had gifted me a smart card sometime back. Yes, the two things I was dreading that day, were- riding metro and calling an Ola cab! Yes, yes, I know these are the signs of old age when you set your ambitions that low..

Any way, I phoned Kundan. He assured me that that smart card is still valid. He sent me a metro map. I walked from Ginger Hotel to nearby New Delhi station metro. There was a huge crowd. I took an auto to Rajiv Chowk and entered the quiet metro station there. My card worked like a charm. I boarded a metro for Noida. Few minutes later I was calm and thoroughly enjoying my experience like Cindrella in the palace..

Then, I got off at the last Noida station, called an ola cab on my phone and began scanning the crowded traffic like Agent Bourne, expecting machine gun fire from any of the moving cars swishing around him.. After couple of phone calls, we connected and I boarded the cab. As I entered, my name was announced and I was welcomed.. !

In a nutshell, everything went well and my little sense of anxiety began to be replaced by a warm glow of "Oh, I have done it- and done it right!". I had done all this in the past too. But then, I forgot these skills due to non-use over years. Learning and relearning is dependent on couple of things: How do we interact with initial emotional discomfort and how we anchor the entire learning process into positive emotions- sense of joy, achievement etc. The last makes for deep memory.

Finally, if we have a little sense of adventure, it helps- like jumping in a pool or venturing out in the rain without umbrella. This sense of adventure can be cultivated.. This is what TISA NCs are all about: a big adventure! Those who land up there, even accidentally, discover that they always were very social deep inside. Communication is just one small part of being social. When you are social, you automatically become good communicator.

So, look at the big picture. Dont get lost in the details. And get ready for the next Kumbh (NC)...
May 2019 bring you lots of adventure and travel!

Acceptance - Five years review

         It has been a little more than five eventful , roller coaster years since I accepted the concept of acceptance. My acceptance journey started by attending the TISA communication workshop of June-2013.

         What triggered my desperate search for help were two events . The first one was that I had to attend a meeting with senior officers and I was not able to introduce myself-I got severe blocks. The second one was during an informal party in a restaurant , when I left  my seat for a few minutes for the introduction round to pass.

         The first event was public embarrassment  for me- stammering in front of senior officers. The second event, to avoid introducing myself fearing stammering ,was a personal embarrassment. 

          I attended a party yesterday. I had to introduce myself to my colleagues and seniors of company. During introduction  I got stuck in my name, I stopped , used prolongation and bouncing combination and finally succeeded. After some time our newly appointed company-chief of   state arrived and we had to introduce ourselves to him one by one. He was accompanied by our district head and they went to every individual's seat for introduction. 

        The state head shook my hand, I greeted him and then fumbled in my name. I stopped and again tried and said my name with prolongation. While introduction, my district head helped me out once when I had another block. The chief listened patiently to me , and then advised me something related to my work.

          So, what did I achieve with all these years of acceptance? I am now able to communicate along with my stammering. For me , this is a big achievement-for I try not to avoid speaking situations. I try to speak , accepting that I may stammer. 

           I have learnt from life that personal  embarrassments, which come from running away from challenging situations such as  speaking, are much more long-lasting and painful than any kind of public display of the fact that I stammer . 

            Thanks to TISA and concept of ACCEPTANCE- which is a lifetime work-in-progress.

"HAKLAO MAGAR PYAAR SE"

       
        

"डर से मत डर"

अभी थोड़ी देर पहले ही बहुत ही उम्दा घटना हुई।
हुआ कुछ ऐसे की मेरी भैया की 2 महीने बाद शादी है और आज उनके ससुर का जन्मदिन है। भैया ने फ़ोन पर उन्हें बधाई दी और जब वो फ़ोन पर बात कर रहे थे तभी मैं सोच रहा था कही उन्होंने मुझसे बात करने के लिए बोल दिया तो मैं क्या बात करूंगा। एक अजीब सा डर लगा। लेकिन फिर ख्याल आया - रवि तू क्यों डर रहा है? "डर से मत डर" और एक वीडियो जो थोड़े दिनों पहले मैंने देखा था उसके बोल याद आ गए। मैंने उनसे बात की और काफी देर तक बात की। सच बताऊ तो मज़ा आया😊😊

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"डर का खेल, निडर हो के खेल"

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टीसा के बुनियादी नियम

क्या करें / टीसा  द्वारा प्रोत्साहित  

1 . टीसा के  स्थानीय स्वयं सहायता समूह , संचार कार्यशाला  , राष्ट्रीय सम्मलेन आदि कार्यक्रमों के विषय में जानकारी शेयर करें।
2 . हकलाहट सम्बन्धी जानकारी जैसे कि  लेख, विडियो  , ऑडियो , वक्तव्य इत्यादि शेयर करें।

3  . हकलाहट पर चर्चा करना ( सामान्य या  किसी विशेष सन्दर्भ में ), स्पीच  टेकनीक /ट्रिक पर चर्चा करना।

4  . हकलाहट सम्बन्धी नए रचनात्मक विचार इत्यादि साझा करें , जिससे कि  हम सभी  की उन्नति हो सके।

5 . पुरुष व् महिला सदस्यों को टीसा  कार्यक्रमों में भाग लेने के  समान अवसर प्रदान  हों।

क्या न करें / निंदनीय

1 . धर्म , सेक्स  व राजनीति  पर चर्चा न करें।

2 . अभद्र भाषा का प्रयोग / गाली-गलौज करना  पूर्णतः प्रतिबंधित है।

3 . किसी स्पीच-थेरैपी सेंटर / स्पीच थेरैपिस्ट का प्रचार न करें  एवं हकलाहट का सम्पूर्ण/100 %  उपचार जैसे दावों पर चर्चा न करें।

4. अन्य संस्थाओं/ कॉर्पोरेट आदि  का प्रचार-प्रसार न करें  , विषय (हकलाहट ) से असंबंधित  पोस्ट को शेयर करने से बचें।

5 . पर्व-त्यौहार/जन्म- दिन आदि की बधाई न दें ,   हकलाहट के अतिरिक्त अन्य व्यक्तिगत समस्याओं को शेयर करने से बचें।

विशेष(अति-आवश्यक)नियम  

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What did I do wrong?

Quite often a young pws does not return for the second session, with myself or in the SHG. SHG coordinator is often left confused: Did we do something inappropriate that he did not come this sunday?

Changing our life, our beliefs is a tough and slow process. To come to terms with something as simple as, being honest with ourselves and saying, "yes, I stammer and want to do something about it"- may take many months to grapple with, digest fully and come to terms with. Here is a relevant excerpt from a book, meant for counseling students:

One of the more difficult aspects of being a student counsellor is when clients do not return for a second or subsequent appointment, you can feel inadequate. This is known in the ‘trade’ as FOI (‘feelings of incompetence’). ..
Most counsellors will tell you of a least one client with whom they had a really good relationship but who didn’t return, and of how they reflected that something they did or said might have contributed to that decision.
The writer John Shlien, a student of Carl Rogers and himself a well-known and respected therapist, reflected that the client has a ‘right to fail in therapy’. Shlien believed that each person knew everything about themselves. Thus, clients sometimes come to realise that the source of their problems is within them: they know the truth, they know what they have to do, but are not yet ready or able to move on.
For example, a client lived in a loveless marriage, because she did not want the consequences of leaving her husband. For her, being wealthy and miserable was a better prospect than being happy and poor. Once she understood this, she never returned to therapy or answered any of my letters. I later reflected in supervision that perhaps the time we spent together may have prepared her for the next stage in her life – so that, in the future, she might choose to see another therapist when she is ready to move on.

A few years ago, I had a client who wanted someone to hear and bear testament to his story for one session. When he made a second appointment, we both knew that he would not return. He had got what he needed: another human to share his world for one hour of his life. ..

(From: How to Survive Counselling Training: A Student’s Guide
 January 2018 Edition; by Rory Lees-Oakes)

So, dont feel bad if someone participates in the first meeting enthusiastically, claims to have been totally transformed by TISA etc. - and never contacts you again! This is LIFE and this is STAMMERING.. :))  It is OK. People have a right to their life and their stammering. 

Open Your Eyes

Last summer, I went to this town for some work. Was it Mumbai? May be, not sure. I got off the train and realised that I had no clue, which hotel I was supposed to go to. Then, I realised that I was short on funds. So I was looking for a cheap hotel. I found one at some walking distance from the railway station. I felt relieved when the guy agreed to charge me only Rs 500 per day; next, I felt shocked when the man at front desk, pointed to the vacant plot across the road, as the open air toilet for guests like me. To console me, he said: no one will bother you if you go there before sunrise or after sunset.
Then I remembered that I had to meet Raghav, the guy who was offering me some freelance work, later during the day- somewhere in the south of the city. I had lost the address. I said to myself: let me explore the town in the meantime... So, I went out in a kurta-pajama and slippers. It was hot and flies were bothering me. There was a stink too- like that of an open drain. I could not see it though.
The street I was walking was very congested and crowded. Then, I came to a over-bridge. Many people were standing on it. As I crossed it, pushing and shoving my way through, I thought that the bridge swayed and creaked. I hurriedly got off and entered a slum.
Push carts, open drains, plastic covered huts, beggars, urchins grabbing something and running. Fortunately, I did not have a watch, a bag or a purse on me. But I felt tired and sat down in the shade of a hut.
I woke up with a start: there was a big noise. A JCB was demolishing the huts. A group of policemen were chasing and attacking the protesters, who were being pushed into my direction. I looked behind for an escape route. There was that big drain. As the people began falling on top of me, I jumped across the drain and ran for my life - wondering, why was life being so mean to me...
As I ran away from the noise and violence, I realised that I was somewhere in the area, where Raghav had promised to meet me. And then, I also realised that I was running only in my pajama and barefoot!
Earlier when I had sat down to rest near the hut, I had taken off my kurta because of the heat. In fact, I had put down the kurta on that dirt-heap, as a sort of sheet to lie on. I had taken off my slippers too, to use them as a pillow. And when the demolition squad came, I ran leaving both my kurta nad slippers behind.
Will Raghav, give me the assignment if he saw me like this? I cringed. To make matters worse, as I jumped the drain, I fell in it, and my pajama was all black and stinking..
I sat down by the road and began to cry.. I wanted to go back to the hotel, but did not know the name or the phone number of the hotel. I had neither the purse with me nor the phone. I could not phone any friend since I did not have even a coin in my pocket.. I cried. My sobbing became so violent that my eyes opened. I was in my bed, safe. I touched my eyes- they were wet. But I was so relieved. I smiled a wet smile..
Then, I heard someone say: Whatever the difficulty, you just have to OPEN your eyes. Yes, just open your eyes. That's all you have to do...
There was no one in my room. The voice had come from within. It was five am. I got up, made some coffee and sat in the back verandah, where birds chirp their joyful tunes in the early morning...
I felt that whatever is the "problem" one is facing, we just have to open our inner eyes and look at the REALITY. If we are in a nightmare, we can not solve the problem IN the nightmare; We can only step out of the nightmare by waking up. Life has a dream like quality. And it is easy to forget your SELF, in a dream..