May 28, 2015

हकलाहट को स्वीकार करने के लाभ

मैंने हकलाहट की स्वीकार्यता को एक व्यापक रूप में
अपनाया है और महसूस किया है। इस दौरान मैंने पाया कि
स्वीकार्यता सिर्फ हकलाहट ही नहीं, बल्कि जीवन की हर
चुनौती का सहजता से सामना करने का मूलमंत्र है। अगर
आपने स्वीकार्यता को पूर्ण रूप से और खुलकर अपना
लिया, तो आपका जीवन सुखमय बना जाता है। आप दुःख
होते हुए भी दुःख का अहसास नहीं कर पाएंगे, क्योंकि
स्वीकार्यता आपको दुःख का सामना करने की हिम्मत
देगी। यहां स्वीकार्यता के कुछ लाभों की ओर आप सबका
ध्यान आकर्षित करना चाहता हूं, जो मैं समझ पाया हूं।
1. स्वीकार्यता जीवन को सहजता प्रदान करती है। जब
आप खुलकर हकलाना स्वीकार करते हैं, तब आपको पता
चलता है कि अरे! फालतू में कितना बड़ा बोझ लेकर हम घूम
रहे थे सालों से! स्वीकार करने के बाद हकलाहट से संघर्ष
खत्म हो जाता है।
2. जब आप हकलाहट को स्वीकार करते हैं, तो आप अपनी
हकलाहट के बारे में अधिक सकारात्मक हो जाते हैं। आप
अपनी हकलाहट को लेकर सभी नकारात्मक विचार त्याग
देते हैं। जैसे- हकलाहट मेरे करियर में बाधा है, लोग मेरी बात
समझते ही नहीं, लोग मेरा मजाक उड़ाते हैं, मेरा जीवन
व्यर्य है। इस तरह के सभी विचार सकारात्मकता में बदलने
लगते हैं।
3. हकलाहट को स्वीकार करने से हमारे अन्दर एक हिम्मत
आती है। साहस आता है दूसरे लोगों से बातचीत करने का।
खुलकर हकलाहट के विषय में चर्चा करने का साहस आता
है।
4. स्वीकार करने से हकलाहट की शर्मिदंगी, डर, भय और
चिन्ता से हम मुक्त हो जाते हैं। हमें पता चलता है कि
हकलाहट है भी तो क्या हुआ, हम हर स्थिति का सामना
कर सकते हैं।
5. हकलाहट को स्वीकार करने के बाद हमें समझ में आता है
कि हकलाहट तो संचार में बाधा कभी थी ही नहीं। बाधा
थी तो सिर्फ हमारे अन्दर का डर जो हमें बार-बार समाज
के लोगों से जुड़ने और उनसे बातचीत करने से रोकता है।
6. हम हकलाहट को खुलकर स्वीकार करके संचार की
बारीकियों को सीखते हैं। तब हमें अहसास होता है
धाराप्रवाह बोलना जरूरी नहीं है, बल्कि अर्थपूर्ण और
सार्थक बोलना जरूरी है।
7. हकलाहट की स्वीकार्यता हमारी प्रगति के द्वार
खोलती है। हम कल तक जिन कामों को करने से कतराते थे,
आज उन्हीं कामों को बड़े उत्साह से करते हैं। खासकर
जिनमें बोलने की जरूरत होती है। बाहरी लोगों से संवाद
करना होता है, वह सभी काम हम खुद करते हैं।
8. हम अपने जीवन में मानवीय मूल्यों और सामाजिक
संबंधों को और अधिक गहराई से समझने और उन्हें पालन
करने की कोशिश करते हैं। हमारी सामाजिकरण यानी
सोशलाईजेशन होने लगता है।
9. स्वीकार्यता केवल हकलाहट की नहीं, बल्कि जीवन में
आने वाली हर चुनौती को खुलकर स्वीकार करना। इससे हम
तमाम मुश्किल हालातो ंका असानी से सामना कर पाते
हैं।

-हंसराज फुलवारी जी  इस ब्लाग के लेखक हैं ,मैं सिर्फ एक माधयम हूँ

May 27, 2015

Skype meeting timetable

Hello Guys,

This is a Skype meeting time table and it will be effective from tomorrow (28/05/2015).


If you can't see this image just click on it and it will enlarge.

Feedback and comments are welcome.

Thanks,
Akash

Skype meeting minutes

Date : 27/05/2015

Today the strength was good we were 11 guys,

Karthik, Anshuman, Saurabh, Manoj, Baljeet, Vikas, Prasad, Dragoon and Me(Akash).
Ram and Abhishek are not in this snap because they dropped.

Agenda was,

1. Short Introduction
2. Passage reading for 2 mins per person
3. Round Robin

The meeting was really nice.

If anyone like to join the meeting please add my skype ID: akash_super1

Timing : 10pm to 11pm (daily)


Thanks,
Akash

Skype Calls Reborn

First I would like to thanks Ram and Vinod who were coordinating the meeting in absence of me. I was on leave so I’m not able to attend any meetings. After I was busy in office to finishing my pending work. 

Now I’m free and start again our Skype calls.

Interested people please join the calls. Tisa is the only platform where you can speak which you hesitate to speak in outside world. We have our SHG meeting on every weekend but that is a Power punch. If you want to charge up that energy which you gain in the SHG meeting, then I recommend that you have to attend Skype calls daily. That will really help you.

If you would like to join the calls then please add my skype ID and send me request on,

Skype ID: akash_super1
Timing: 10:00pm to 11:00pm (Indian standard time, IST)

If you don’t know how to download Skype or make account in Skype then, please take help of Google and I’m sure he will tell you each and every step.

Note: I’ve created whats app group where you can see the updates of Skype calls and I ping in that group before 10mins.

Any questions please holler!
Thanks,
Akash
+918095987170


For Parents & Children

This resource is for parents or siblings who have a child who stammers. As of now, there is not very much by way of therapy which could be given to a child DIRECTLY. But dont panic. You can still do a LOT- and the child may have a complete recovery too. Chances of recovery is highest among children- that is, before psychological changes take deep roots in our personality.

May 24, 2015

Bangalore SHG Meeting on 24th May :Traffic free Sunday in Cubbon Park

Bangalore SHG Meeting on 24th May :Traffic free Sunday in Cubbon Park


Ateendees: Anshuman,Anupam,Akash,Dinesh,Pramod,Pawan,Sid,Ruben,Nishil,Raman,Sharath and me(Rohit Mishra)

It was good sunny day ,I reached Cubbon Park on time but came to know that from now on wards
vehicles are not allowed in Cubbon Park on Sundays,So it took some time to find proper parking
place and  I could reached the meeting place 15 mins late and saw 3 people at the venue.

and without wasting time further we started slow reading from "AHJ".Everyone read one Paragraph
and Finally Dinesh Read last Paragraph which illustrates a story from Akbar and Birbal.

Story goes like this

Akbar sitting in his count draws a  line and asks his courtiers to make this line smaller without
touching, everyone tried but could not make line smaller drawn by Emperor, finally Birbal
drew bigger line next to smaller line and told,job is done.
Now it was our turn to express ourselves how we can make out lines smaller and according to each of us, what is our bigger lines and which is our smaller line. everyone participated in this topic and expressed their views.

As it was traffic free Sunday first time in Cubbon park, A Reporter from Kannada TV channel also approached us to know our views, it was good opportunity for us to express our self in front of Camera.

Dinesh ,Nishil and Me spoke on our views and concerns on traffic free Sundays in Cubbon Park.

Now I was time for Prepared Speeches.Speeches. Akash gave very good and inspiring speech on Mobile and its addiction.
Then We came to know a Lady ,who is doing PHD in Stuttering/Stammering is coming to meet us,
and she wanted to talk us  and want to know more about direct  source of stuttering.
Each one of us introduced us on microphone and she recorded our voice for further analysis of our voice patterns.
It was on the spot and sudden activity so it had to be natural.

At last I gave my speech on "Condition of Rural education in India"
With this We finally concluded the day, I think this was the double Damaka, buy one get one free
with TV appearance

May 22, 2015

Invitation for Jaipur SHG Meeting dated 23rd May

Jaipur SHG Meeting on Saturday i.e. on 23rd May
Venue :- Central Park, Gate no. 3
Timings :- 4PM to 6PM

Hope to see you all...

For any query, contact
Ravi Kant Sharma
+91-9461257111

May 21, 2015

Official Blog : Manish Upadhyay: दिल तोरोमिंग है....सुबह घरसे ऑफिस के  लिएनिकला। …...

Official Blog : Manish Upadhyay: दिल तो रोमिंग है....
सुबह घरसे ऑफिस के  लिए निकला। …...
: दिल तो रोमिंग है .... सुबह घर से ऑफिस के   लिए निकला। … पार्किंग   में अपनी बाइक निकालने   के लिए जब गया तो देखा मेर...

स्काइप कॉल हिंदी में ?? जरूर , क्यों नहीं :)



कुछ   दोस्तों   से मेरी बात हुई तो मुझे ये एहसास हुआ की ये आमतौर पर धारणा है की स्काइप कॉल सिर्फ इंग्लिश में होती है. 
            एक ने अपनी मनःस्थिति कुछ इस प्रकार जाहिर की - " स्काइप कॉल पर आकर मुझे कुछ समझ नहींआता  है. मुझे इंग्लिश समझ नहीं आती है. तो अब  मुझे पहले इंग्लिश सीखना है , तभी स्काइप कॉल पे आना है "

Lal Bagh ke Sher Bangalore SHG Meeting on 17-May-2015. POSTED BY Reuben Lopes

The rain-gods were napping on Sunday morning, and we had a bright sunny day. The meeting venue was shifted from Cubbon Park to Lal Bagh, due to the diversions caused by the TCS Marathon. Nevertheless, unfazed by this change, 11 of us lionhearts finally managed to meet and assemble between 10 and 11 am. We had a new member - Rahul, making it to the SHG for the first time. This turned out to be a all guys meet, we missed the girl gang. Leader of the pack aka Dinesh, led us into the depths of the jungle and we settled upon a 4 bench square formation, good enough to accommodate us all. 

The first round was the Introductions by each member. A brief of the details:
1. Reuben    - from Goa        - working for IBM
2. Harikrishna    - from Kerala    - working for BEML
3. Uday        - from KGF        - working for BEML
4. Rahul    - from Bijapur    - studying M.Tech
5. Anupam    - from Lucknow    - working for Cognizant
6. Anshuman    - from Jalandhar    - working for MindTree
7. Abhinav    - from Lucknow    - working for Spikadel (hope I got this right)
8. Siddharth    -from Manipur - working for Fidelity
9. Dinesh    - has been regularly attending and coordinating Bangalore SHG for last years
10. Nishil    - from Udipi    - working for HP
11. Jaysinha - from Bangalore - working for EY

After that we had informal speeches by 2 members:
Hari - He described a certain interesting custom he observed in a Andhra marriage he had recently attended. The couple went out and were looking at the sky and pointing towards something in the sky. It was the Arundhati Vashista pair of stars, which are unique in the sense that they revolve around one another. This has a deep significance in marriage that the husband and wife will revolve their lives closely around one another, just like the stars.
Reuben - I shared my thoughts on a book "Speech is like a River" by Ruth Mead. The author conveys that speech is free-flowing and from the inner self. We should not let our minds control how we speak, as it complicates things. Speech should be natural like breathing or heart-beat, and should flow from our thoughts.
There was a healthy discussion on both the topics by all members.

Then, Dinesh suggested that we share 3 of our strengths and 1 weakness, as this is a common question in most interviews. All participated in this session. Most common strengths were hard-work, smart work, etc. Most common weaknesses were procrastination, bad time management and lack of initiative in communication.

This was followed by an impromptu group discussion on Sexual Harassment in corporates/companies and Appraisals in office.

We had another discussion on office Presentations as it is common experience for all of us at some point of time. Some key points worth noting:
+ Have very good knowledge (atleast 90% level) of the topic as this will give us mental confidence
+ Try to simplify things, so that everyone can grasp the idea
+ Know the content of your slides and memorize key points
+ Practice your speech (maybe in front of a mirror)
These will help to reduce our fear and deliver a better presentation.

After that we posed for group photos.

But we were not done yet. We decided to go out for a movie. Four of us - Dinesh, Nishil, Anshuman and myself finally made it to Vision Cinemas and got first-row seats for Piku - Motion Se Hi Emotion. Never before have I been so close to a screen. We were literally rotating our heads from left to right, as the characters moved across the screen. It was a light-hearted film on constipation and family, and we all enjoyed it.

Thanks to all you guys and especially Dinesh for this memorable day!!!

For those pws who are reading this report and would like to be a part of Bangalore SHG, please join us in our weekly meetings every Sunday at Cubbon Park between 10 am to 1 pm (near Central Library). You may contact Dinesh (9880050526) or Reuben (9591745252) for any more details.

Children's book on bullying..

Arti has written a book (Price Rs 150 on Amazon) on stammering and bullying:
Also this is a review which they can read 
me-arti-sonthalia/

May 20, 2015

Last Boarding call...


Friends, help and join: If children could be told that "stammering is OK" - they will need neither therapies nor SHGs later on in life! This would be the cheapest and the best preventive intervention in the field of speech disorders. You can make a difference to someone, somewhere. Talk about it in your SHGs, encourage families with CWS to participate. On another note- well established SHGs should now consider organizing one session, every month, exclusively for CWS and their family. A Good facilitator can quickly learn how to facilitate such a session for children. If you have doubts, please write to us. Meanwhile, dont forget May 23 and 24th, in Mumbai (Somaiya campus)..

May 17, 2015

Doing Push-Ups at JAIPUR SHG Meeting

Hiii friends...
We had a wonderful SHG meeting this Sunday. We were 6 members - Abhinav, Chandraprakash, Omji, Anurag, Hemraj and me (Ravi). Abhinav was new guy but he looked quite enthusiastic.

We reached Central Park on time although I was quite late. From last 2-3 meeting we were discussing more and performing less. So this time we directly got on doing activities. We started by giving introduction and gave introduction using bouncing and prolongation. Bouncing was described by Chandraprakash and prolongation by Hemraj. Abhinav shared his experience of speech therapy. In the midst we were also having a discussion on stammering. And everybody took active participation in it. As Sachin Sir commented to do voluntary stammering, so I explained other members voluntary stammering and gave my introduction using voluntary stammering technique. Others members also got interested and I must say that they did it even better than me. Hemraj and Omji had to leave as they have some urgent work. Now we decided to do outdoor activity. We first approached a Korean couple that was sitting next to us. We asked them several question and the crux was, they took stammering very normally. That filled us with confidence and quickly we approached other two boys who were sitting nearby. They had no idea of stammering so we explained them. We then approached an Uncle and Aunty. We introduced us and asked them some questions. They gave us a compliment that we are doing a great job and suggested us not be feel ourselves less than others in any manner. They told us that the difference between a PWS and and a non-PWS is same as a difference between a taller and a less taller person. 
Finally this made us that our meeting was a success. Then we thought of doing push-ups and I must say that this was the best activity.
oooooooooo.....I forget to tell the winner of Push-Up round in one go
Chandraprakash - 26
Anurag - 8
Abhinav - 16
& me (Ravi) - 36
So Congratulate me guys...hahaha....

Here are some of the pics......



Ravi Kant Sharma (PWS)
Jaipur (+91-9461257111)



Delhi First Indoor Meeting Pictures

## Delhi SHG reached to one more Milestone ## 

A very Nice Indoor Meeting with 22 PWS and 2 NON PWS 
Report Detail will be shortly posted. 
Here are few pics of Indoor SHG 

2nd Milestone is our three members(Sikander sir, Vinod and Abhishek) are going to talk with Himanchal Pradesh CM to give us small help to organize this indoor SHG






Hero is, who hero does.

Here is a great story: Tiger Woods writes an encouraging letter to a boy, bullied for stammering:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/sport/golf/tigerwoods/11601980/Tiger-Woods-writes-heartfelt-letter-to-boy-who-considered-suicide-due-to-stutter.html

While growing up, I often worried, how will I fare, if I was ever called to a court to depose? Later, I did go to court to give testimony as a medical doctor couple of times. Nothing very much happened. Many of us in TISA have done that: talked to a police man, gone to court, given high tension interviews, got interviewed on TV etc. Here is a guy who deposed in an American court, with stutter, and received a lot of support on twitter:
http://www.thedenverchannel.com/news/local-news/wave-of-support-for-theater-shooting-survivor-gage-hankins-who-bravely-testified-despite-stutter05132015

So, what does it all mean? You are a hero, if you act like a hero! I dont mean, jumping from tenth floor to grab a bottle of Mountain Dew, No. It just means- acting with courage! and consideration for others! Have a good day!

May 16, 2015

FIRST INDOOR MEETING of DELHI SHG AT HIMANCHAL BHAWAN, MANDI HOUSE


Contact for any query : 8447490753 ( Vishal)

Jaipur SHG Meeting Invitation

SHG Meeting on Sunday i.e. on 17th May
Venue: Central Park, Gate no. 3
Timing: 4P.M. to 6P.M
Let's meet and talk about things other than stammering������������
Agenda of meeting
1. Introduction (in 4 different manner)
2. Experience of last week
3. Discussion on stammering
4. Discussion on latest topic
5. Role of Meditation and and Pranayam
6. Prepared speech (at least for 5 minutes) by each member on any topic
7. A proverb or any other remarkable line by each member
8. Joke by each member(at least 2)
9. Impromptu speech (topic to be given by members to one other)
10. Outdoor activities (most exciting��������)
����
Hope to see you all...

For any query contact
Ravi Kant Sharma
+91-9461257111

Marriage- the old ideal..

Aruna, an old TISA member has contributed this on the original meaning of marriage (Ed.):
 
An excerpt from talks of one of my inspirational souls!
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"Saptapadi or ‘seven steps’ is a very important rite in a Vedic marriage ceremony. At the time of marriage, the couple sit in front of the sacred fire and take seven vows in the presence of the Guru or God that they will both live a blissful married life. These vows in the Vedic marriage have a very deep meaning and are designed to help the couple to evolve together in a holistic way. They pertain not only to the worldly pursuits of the couple together, but also their mental, emotional, social, ecological, and spiritual attitudes. If followed with authenticity they lead to enlightenment itself.
 
The following are the Saptapadi mantras and their interpretation:
1st sacred vow: Concept of sharing
ekamiñe viñëustvä anvetu |
Let us both create, secure and enjoy all the things and comforts related to the physical body like food, clothing, shelter and other wealth needed for the physical body. This very vow hits at the dowry system. The dowry system asks for wealth and other things from the girl’s family. This vow clearly states that the couple will create wealth and sustain it together.’
2nd sacred vow: Mental and spiritual strength, work towards enlightenment
dve ürje viñëustvä anvetu |
Let us join together without ego, to do all that is needed to increase the Shakti (energy) inside our body and thus enhance our intellectual strength by meditation, yoga etc.
3rd sacred vow: Living independently dependent
tréëi vratäya viñëustvä anvetu |
I will not force myself upon the other at the physical or mental level when the other does not prefer it.
4th sacred vow: Transcend maya by teamwork
catväri mäyo bhaväya viñëustvä anvetu |
I (the man) will help the woman overcome the illusions she holds in the form of her fear and insecurity. I (the woman) will help the man overcome the illusions he holds in the form of lust.
5th sacred vow: Social and eco-friendly responsibilities
païca paçubhyaù viñëustvä anvetu |
Let us look after our ancestors and elders who are alive, our Guru, Devatas and all animals that support us, like cattle or pets, and the entire nature like trees, hills, rivers etc.
6th sacred vow: Support each other without suffocating
ñaòåtubhyaù viñëustvä anvetu |
Let us support and strengthen each other in all moods and in all seasons, in all situations, at all times and spaces, not only when one of us is weak or in low mood, but let us share when we feel strong or when we are in high mood as well.
7th sacred vow: Comply with promises and live as friends
saptasaptabhyaù hoträbhyaù viñëustvä anvetu ||
We promise to follow all that is covered here and all that is not covered here as well. There could be many things that may not have been included in the previous promises. So this promise covers all those that have not been covered in any of the previous promises.
After the seven steps are over the husband has to call his wife “sakhe” meaning “Oh my friend”.
sakhäyau saptapadä bhabhüva
By making these seven promises, we both have become friends. I have got your friendship and you have mine. We shall not let this be lost. We shall live forever as compatible companions. By taking these vows the couple agree to be friendly to each other. By chanting these mantras, the union between the husband and wife is solemnized in the presence of the Guru or God. They are united in their thinking and in the way they act. They pray that they may have pure love towards each other. By this mantra they vow to become people who are like-minded in opinion and thus enjoy being together. "
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The excerpt ends here. 
If i may just add a few lines: The concept of marriage 'WAS' sacred in the ancient times.. very few couples in today's era see the divinity in each other and marry to help each other come out of this long dream of birth-death. Alas, marriage has become based on materialistic pleasures, trying to suck out the maximum out of one another, be it physical body wise or monetarily ..etc
Well, it's just a conscious cognitive shift of how we perceive ourselves.. in the same way we see others. If u believe u r the body and mind only, we attract such beings around us! Let's not grab a person, let's grasp him/her
Thanks for reading!
Aruna
(Thank you, Aruna, for this beautiful sharing! Ed.)

Marriage on mind?

Recently there was a discussion about marriage: Should a pws tell? Abhinav from Banglore SHG has shared his thoughts, (Ed)

Last night I was going through Indian PWS mail chain in which one member from TISA family raised his concerns about marriage

I read the entire chain and was shocked to see some of the responses like girls only look for money, if you have money no body cares about your stammering.

All these are false perspectives to console yourself about your perfect imperfections. Marriage is the very pious relationship in which two imperfect souls come together to live their life in meaningful and peaceful way. Every relationship demands patience, trust, mutual understanding and personal space. Stammering is just one part of our life and it is true that it affects us in mental, emotional and social level. If you think you can give your 100% to this relationship then you should talk to girl and her parents and come to the point of how you are living your life in spite of facing all the challenges. If girl and her parents are sensible, they will understand the issue and will take best possible decision for their daughter. 

In our Indian society, marriage has been considered as ritual. It is true that every one has physical, emotional, social and economical needs and that is why most of us decide to do marriage as it is the relation which is suppose to serve all these needs.  I strongly believe getting married should be the personal and conscious decision, rather than family decision. You must be 100% sure that you want to be in this relationship as there is no going back. Getting married and bringing one more kid in this world is a huge responsibility and upbringing a child is minimum 20 years project. If you think that you can take this responsibility in best possible way and your urges are really strong than only you should take this decision. 

Regarding stammering issue in marriage, marriages in Indian society are hypocrisy and ritual to the core, Every one needs perfect life partner, but no one knows the definition of perfect life partner. It has become more like a showoff and business for families rather than really caring about needs of their daughter and son when it comes to marriage. Every one is going towards the same rat race of doing engineering, then MBA, 7 or 8 digit salary in MNC, home loan for 20 years.  Of course 7 digits salary and job in MNC may bring some comforts in your married life, but in the end it depends only on guy and girl if they can accept each other with all their perfect imperfections and give 100% to this pious conjugal to sustain it effortlessly.

It must be your conscious decision to get married, not  because of family. If you think you are ready for marriage, then talk to girl directly ..no mumbo jumbo. Explain her your shortcomings, discuss her shortcomings and see if both of you would like to be together for rest of your life. Your life will become miserable if you will not present true picture of your shortcomings to prospective bride as she may perceive your challenges differently. Please be honest with her.

Most of us in TISA family are in the same age group considered suitable for marriage. Almost every one has same question of stammering running in background when it comes to marriage. Acceptance is the very deep concept and it requires a lot of hard work and dedication to make it deeply rooted in our mind. Until we will truly embrace the acceptance concept in deep of our mind, not many things will change for us and this deeply rooted negativity will sustain forever. This self created negativity must go before entering into marriage. Hope you will lead a meaningful life with this pious conjugal and all the best for your soul mate search.

May 15, 2015

Bungee Jumping


Yesterday Vikas dropped in. Same Vikas- but somehow different. There was a "glow". He was happy in his job, which gave him scope for "creative" escapades. It involved travelling around, conducting trainings, using android apps to conserve and promote water resources in remote mountains ... and Bungee Jumping! He had understood one thing: Life had to be lived before it could be understood. And to live life, courage is the ONE thing one needs- above money, connections, degrees etc.
Another very interesting thing he observed: Just before the leap, his mind was totally empty- the background "chatter" had stopped- and he was 100% alive to the present moment, totally alive to "THIS" moment: Something, which he had glimpsed a few weeks ago, in a ten day Vipassana course.. You may still have questions. So, go out and do some stuff.. Check it out!
What will it be- Bungy or Vipassana?

May 12, 2015

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see page no 17, quoting TISA by Pranjal


MY JOURNEY WAS NOT SO EASY, IT WAS ALL BRITTLE, NOT BREEZY

"Survival of the fittest" is bound to happen, as they say, but what i say " well not always". Fittest in this "Kalyug" means a person who has brains, a person who is smart, a person who can express, a person who can SPEAK, a person who can manipulate, a person who is not me. YES!! I am not the fittest. 

Well, i thought i could not survive, but the fact is- I DID and I WILL. TILL THE END. As i look into the past, i remember it all, was a shade, a mist and a rush.

Now, i have seen a light, and want others to observe the same.

And i am becoming my favourite song- "Hey man, i am alive, i am taking each day and night at a time, i am feeling like a monday, but someday i'll be saturday night" (BON JOVI).

Next few lines are dedicated to all the stammerers: i wish you all good luck...Start to believe and see the wonders....


"I wont say hello when telephone would ring,
Then i would hide when doorbell would ping.

I had fear of talking to all,
i would just go hide and scrawl.

I was shy, i was lone,
i was just into my home.

I was always brainy but didnt realize,
as i lived always in disguise.

Teachers asked: - tell me your parents name,
and i behaved as if i am in a fame.

The fame was just a joke,
as marks were only a cloak.

I didnt realize, i had a stutter,
until in a meeting i had to utter.

Soon "it" became a massive load,
i had to walk, alone, a mile road.

I felt down, was into a box,
used to evade all the talks.

I used to feel like an orphan,
my stutter was getting all worsen.

Years back, with a bad vigour,
i felt as if i needed a trigger.

Soon i felt, an angel came,
Now i wanted to win this game.

I tried hard, i slept little,
I know now, oh please, i am not so brittle.

My friends, i sometimes feel all the blues,
But its me, who always has to choose.

Choosing between, glory and tears,
I have a desire, to face my fears.

Who knows, i will be on top of the world,

With all my wounds, all healed and burled."

TRANSFORMATION NEEDS TIME: BUT IT DOES HAPPEN

There was a time when i was quite hesitant to attend SHG because sadly non of the gals attend SHG meetings (L). This time i was more hesitant. Why?? Because, two of my good buddies at SHG, were also not there (felt quite disheartened when they didn't show up). Uff moreover, i was more anxious because i had to give a 30-45 minutes talk in front of 15-20 people. YES !! You read it correctly (30-45 min, OMG!!). This was actually my PhD defence talk, which i will give on Delhi in front of 100-200 people. It was a nightmare, preparing for this talk and failing everyday, comparing myself with other fluent people of my institute. So i decided to give a talk in front of all SHG fellows.

SO THE DAY ARRIVED FINALLY, when i had to present my PhD work in front of SHG fellows. It was a tiring week. I was stressed out and quite lazy (Huh, what am i saying, Sundays are always laziest of all the days). When i arrived at Cubbon park, 10 am sharp, i felt i was less anxious, lesser than i predicted. Desensitization after attending numerous meetings was quite beneficial i guess. OH NO, this was because i could only two people sitting under the hut. As number of people increased, i felt my heart falling apart ("OMG, 30 min talk in front of everyone, how will i speak?").

Anyways, a total of 14 members came, from start till the end (Huh, i hate people not being punctual)- including Me, Dinesh, Rohit Junior, Rohit Senior, Alok, Anshuman, Raman, Avinash, Siddarth, Tapan, Uday, Reuben, Sharath and Jay.

The meeting started with passage reading where we read the book APNA HATH JAGANNATH. Though it was a passage reading, we did learn a lot. We got to know about EFT (not electronic fund transfer, haha!!), Emotional Freedom Technique. This technique involved tapping body areas to as to release emotions, which could help in healing. We also got to know about JO-HARI WINDOW. Next, this was followed by everyone's introduction. It was good to see really old members who rarely attend meetings, like Uday and Jay. Everyone told about interesting stories about their lives. Rohit Junior told about his life story about how he wanted to be a pilot and how he was rejected because of his stammering (YES, YOU GOT IT RIGHT, everyone of us has a same story). Dinesh and Siddharth talked about their first jobs and how they tackled interviewing for jobs and how the time " after joining" was tougher than interviews. ("This was true for me as well, interviews used to be horrible, with whole panel just LAUGHING upon you"). I talked about why i joined SHG, etc. So next came Prepared Speeches. Siddharth talked about Depression. What is depression, symptoms and how to tackle it, what to do and what not to do. Though it was quite a wonderful talk, but i got more DEPRESSED thinking "Aila, next mera number hai". So i started well, with few blocks, while it was going on, i could see sleepy faces of my audience, which made me confident, haha!!!!  So overall, it was a good talk (Me feeling this about myself?? I guess "Suraj purab se nahi, pashchim se uday hua tha", LOL). So now i will tell what made me think GOOD about myself. Day before this meeting, i was in a bad shape, so i called up Dr. Sachin Srivastava (He is founder of TISA, for people who do not know him). He taught me few of the basic principles which every stammerer should follow while preparing for talks. First, maintain eye contact, oh well, he told me that research shows people who keep their eyes open are more likely to stammer less than people who depend on their secondary symptoms (closing keys, tapping feet, etc) for getting rid of their stammering. Second, always smile while speaking (though i didnt haha LOL), this could keep one calm (Calmness is directly proportional to less stutter). Thirdly, take proper pauses, keep a pause in such a way that it does not look odd and gives you enough time to breathe and prepare for next word. And next, keep breathing, focus on your breathing and try not to stop your breathe. Lastly, try to practice techniques such as bouncing and prolongation while practicing for a talk.


No matter how i feel during meetings, the truth is that, i feel more CONFIDENT AND TOTALLY TRANSFORMED after attending many SHG meetings.  And i will continue to attend the meetings as much as i can. And i must say that i do practice EFT since then, and feel incredible. TRY IT!!! I will end this report by saying - Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible."


May 11, 2015

PUBLIC SPEAKING

http://www.briantracy.com/blog/public-speaking/27-useful-tips-to-overcome-your-fear-of-public-speaking/

Jaipur SHG Meeting Report dated 10th May

Hello friends
We had an awesome SHG Meeting on this Sunday. We were five members - Anurag, Chandra Prakash, Omji, Mukesh and myself (Ravi).
We gathered in Central Park in Jaipur at around 4PM. Omji and Mukesh were new members and are pursuing MBBS.
We started off with an introduction and then we shared experience of stammering. Then as always we had a discussion on stammering. And it was a healthy discussion (as the meeting had MBBS and B.Tech guys!!!!!!). We also discussed on social and psychological aspects related to stammering. Then I explained other members Bouncing, Prolongation, Pausing and Voluntary Stuttering techniques. As humour is very essential so now it was Joke session and I must say everyone seems to be enjoying the moment.
So now it was 8 PM although we planned upto 6 PM only.
We then clicked some pics. Here are some of them....

Ravi Kant Sharma (PWS)
Jaipur, +91-9461257111