March 5, 2015

Faith, in yourself!


(TISA interviewed Soma, a Kolkata SHG member, now doing P. hd in IISc Banglore. Very inspiring for all of us! Read on... Ed.)

Myself Soma Roy. In this interview I want to share something with all you guys.
I am really very lucky to have very supportive parents. My father is an agent in LICI and my mother is a classical singer. I have a cute brother who is very brilliant student. He stood 13th in the Higher Secondary examination in West Bengal. He is in first year in Physics hons. in Belur Ramkrishna Mission Vidyamandir.
After passing the 12th exam from Siliguri Girls’ High School, I came to Kolkata for higher education in 2009. I got admitted in my dreamed Jadavpur University in Chemistry subject. I passed both B.Sc (2012) and M.Sc (2014) from Jadavpur University. I got 55th­ rank in all India GATE exam and 48th rank in CSIR-NET in 2014.
Now, I am a research scholar in the renowned Indian Institute of Science (IISc). After competing with many students from all over India, I got through in IISc. I want to devote my education in the Cancer research field and I want to help the whole society.
I was always in toppers’ batch in my school. But I never went to any debate competition or any exhibition in my school days - even though I am a very ambitious girl! After 12th exam, I decided to go to Kolkata (Kolkata is 550 km far from my hometown Siliguri!). I applied to 5 colleges and got chance in every college- among which I chose Jadavpur University as it was my dream to get admission there. My parents were very very supportive. My idol is my father who went to Kolkata with me and told me that he can cross every barrier for my education. As my family condition was not well at that time, I was little worried about my education, but later I got INSPIRE-DST scholarship from central government which almost ended my tension with the same.
Now, the real thing is that I am a stammerer. Earlier I thought that it must be some problem of my tongue, but I was surprised that when I sing, I never stammer! It can be a simple problem for others, but for me, it represented everything, stopping me from a happy contented life! Gradually it increased and began eroding my self-confidence. But I never lost hope. I practiced some traditional speech therapy and boost up my confidence myself. My father helps me a lot. Whenever I feel low, I remind him. He told me a simple thing that to write the advantages and disadvantages of mine in one page. I found some 14-15 advantages and just one disadvantage i.e stammering! Then, I thought how this one disadvantage can destroy me from inside. From that day, I determined that I will never give up my hope.
I had to compete with students from all over India for getting admission in IISc. Now, I have got the best lab here and I am very happy with my work. But it was not so easy at that time. I was worried about the interview as I had to face a bunch of professors at a time. I practiced slow reading, mirror talking etc. I didn’t give up hope for a single day. As the result, my name was at the top of the list and I got admitted to IISc...
Now-a-days my life has changed a lot. I come in lab at 9.30am and go to hostel at 1am (yes!!!! at night). I have to stay in lab for 14-15 hours everyday (don’t be surprised :-P). I have given 8-9 seminars after coming to IISc. Though I stammer, the extent has been reduced, as I have reduced my speed also. My fear has almost gone and I am becoming confident day by day. I could have been a shy girl, married to a guy after passing graduation, could have had a family, been a good housewife etc. IF I would just hide my stammering. But it is my life and I can and should do whatever I want to do. I wanted to do research and I know that nothing can stop me if I want it heartily. This thought, this realization has changed my life and now I am doing what I always wanted...
I just want to tell other pws that do whatever you guys want and don’t give up confidence. Your life is in your hand...

Editor: Thank you Soma! And a big THANK you to your family, teachers and friends. You have brought up two important things: stammering makes things a little difficult, no doubt - but not impossible. If you set your heart on something, you can do it, as well as others- and as you prove, even better THAN others!
Second thing: society (family, teachers, colleagues, friends etc.) can play a huge role in recovery from stammering mindset. In fact, it appears that Society creates "stammering" and Society again, dissolves it. Disability is largely a social "construct". If society makes up its mind that it will treat a pws no different, then there is no problem left to be solved. This is what we in TISA are hoping to achieve through our small efforts. Thanks again for your precious time and thoughts. Keep charging ahead!


March 3, 2015

Children and teens who stammer....

Friends, it gives me great pleasure to see a new initiative unfold- for children and teenagers who stammer; This is the most vulnerable group; peer pressure is very high and even the smallest indiscreet or chance comment by anyone, can drive young people to self-harm in so many ways (BBC news). Dhruv and FRIENDS are planning a two day convention in Mumbai. Here are details:

Date: May 23-24, 2015
Venue: Somaiya Vidyavihar, Mumbai
Register at: http://www.speak.company/convention
There is discount in registration for first twenty families (check with SPEAK). Hurry!

How can you help? Take a print out of the PNG graphic on left; Get in touch with families which have one (or more) children or teenager who are facing stammering issue. Tell them that help is available - and that it is the whole family, which must participate and understand their role, because they TRULY have a huge role in helping CWS, help him/herself. Tell them- above all, it would be lot of fun to meet other children and their families and people from FRIENDS and SPEAK. (I think Pune and Mumbai SHG are best placed to help; Get in touch with Dhruv if you need more ideas as to how to go about it..)

March 1, 2015

Regional Meet at Goa - A Report

First of all, please accept my sincere apologies for posting this very late. I can give a hundreds of excuses, but I'll take the responsibility for this delay.
We concluded the 2-day regional meet in Goa, on 21-22 February, 2015. The venue was the International Center Goa, Dona Paula. A total of 12 participants, 6 from Bangalore, 5 from Goa and 1 from Mumbai attended the program. It was an informal and fun meeting.
On Day 1, we had a few guests invited. After the traditional start by lighting of diyas, we had Mr. Colin Coelho, a writer and columnist speaking to share his experiences with stammer with us (Colin singing here). His story from being called "Co-co-colin", to being invited in France to welcome a Portuguese delegation, because he could speak and understand Portuguese. This roller coaster ride, he said had only one secret, which he learned from his mother- "Practice". The story uplifted the spirits and we had a good start.
We then had another sharing of an inspiring story by our very own, Rajesh. Rajesh spoke about converting weaknesses into strengths. His speech was overflowing with positivity. Rajesh shared how just introducing himself was a biggest nightmare, and how he converted his weakness into strengths into his business, joining BNI and then toastmasters. Rajesh looked beyond his speech and today he's one of the top architects in Goa.
After the sharing, there was a special screening of an inspirational short film titled- " This book will change your life". This was the premiere screening of the film and TISA Goa chapter is thankful to the crew for arranging the first screening for us. The film had a relevant message for the PWS. It was based on the true story of a Goan musician, Augostinho, who has now several albums of his own. The most inspiring thing about him was, that his both legs have been affected by polio since he was 1. He's not able to walk, but he chose to do away with his wheel chair. He walks on his hands, and stands on his feet... as in, earns his own bread and butter.
Both the director and producer were present as the screening took place. After the screening we had a short exercise where we had to share our learnings from the film with our partner. We also had some participants coming forward and giving testimonials of the film.
Post lunch we had a few fun exercises, out of which the voluntary stuttering competition was both fun, and liberating.
Later in the evening we had a surprise plan. We all set off to meet Augostinho in his village... the real life hero of the film we saw in the morning.
The day ended with a dinner on the shore of Colva beach.
Day 2 was a 1 day session conducted by Goa Vipassana Samiti. It was conducted by two GVS volunteers, Mr. Gordan Maciel and Dr. Melvin Silva. The session introduced us to the meditation technique "anapana", the art of observation breath as it is. We had practice sessions of anapana, and in between the practice sessions, we were shown some very informative and amazing documentaries on Vipassana.
With heavy heart, we all parted away, but making a promise to come together again for the next TISA event.
PS: Due to some technical fault in my cell, I lost all the data on my cell on second day of this program. Hence I lost all the pictures taken on day 1. Request fellow participants to share the pictures they have of these two days.

01-03-2015 PATNA BIHAR SHG REPORT

 
On the breezy day in PATNA, we had a meet at the BIHAR biggest botanical garden ZOO. We was two people

1. Mohit kumar
2. Suraj chandra deo

We reached at 11:30 am at the venue and our meeting started on 12 noon, where we both started with the most common line in INDIA "Aur batao bhai kya chal raha hai life mein?".

1. We shared our individual experience about stammering and its effect on our life.

2. We read one full page by our respective techniques.

3. Did breathing exercise.

Even while roaming around and talking,  we keep ourselves easy and relax by taking deep breath. I think by keeping ourselves relax we can manage our speech very easily.
In today's meeting,  we also gives emphasis on enhancing our PATNA BIHAR SHG team, because in PATNA there are many stutters but due to some issues they are not getting out of their home zone. I hope this week we might reach others PATNA stutters and gather them.

Lastly we clicked pics and says sayonara to each other with the promise of meeting next week.

                                                                                                                                                                    
                                                                                                                                                                                   Written by : mohit

Morning Meditations

Friends, I love to begin my day with some BBC! So, today, I heard about this trending youtube video about a child- born in girls body, but who feels like a boy. Please check this video, and also listen to him directly, towards the end of the video. I am sure this will help you understand what "acceptance" can mean to us and others - even to a little child. There is an amazing degree of diversity around us - but unfortunately, we tend to see this diversity as "right" and "wrong", "black" and "white", in mutually exclusive opposing terms...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JosFihpK_KI

The second beautiful thought BBC left me with, this morning, was a story about José Alberto "Pepe" Mujica Cordano - the humblest president, from Uruguay. I hope when ever we, the Indians, are in a responsible position, we will remember this man from South America. Here is a link (with video) about him..
http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-20243493
Enjoy!

February 28, 2015

Communication Workshop 27-29 March (Fri-Sun) at Herbertpur

TISA announces next 3 day Comm WS, tentatively planned for 27-29 March (Fri-Sun) at Herbertpur, Dehradun.

28th March –Ram-Navami (national Holiday)
29th March - Sunday
Please reach on the evening before.


This workshop is being conducted by Sachin. Here are two links to let you know about the content and the method used in these workshops:

February 27, 2015

First Post

This is my first post on TISA blog. First time I have decided to write on blog.
This blog is dedicated to Dr. Satyendra Shrivastav who has had an important impact in my life. He has made such an impact that has changed my prospects and personality as well.
When I was in 12th class, I was facing a problem of Stammering  that time I had no idea about stammering, how can I manage or cure it. One day my Uncle told me about Samagrah Ashram (NGO), where Dr. Shrivastav was working as a Coordinator and also working on Stammering. He was a Stammer. I met Satyendra sir, he told me about Stammering and how can we overcome or manage it. He taught me different techniques to reduce stammering like Bouncing, Prolongation, Pausing; Gentle start etc. He also motivated and inspired me so that I can achieve what I deserve.  Sir, encouraged me and I have overcome the difficulties. We can overcome any difficulties if we have courage and patience.


His loyalty and perfection towards his duty made my soul inspired and enriched with a new level of energy. His words and philosophies are really working on me and I am feeling the confidence getting warm inside my blood. That is all I can say about him because perfection can’t be defined in a speech. One more thing I have learn from him "More you speak , More you become better".

February 25, 2015

Please join me in wishing birthday to Dinesh and passing on wedding wishes to Rajesh

Today is Dinesh birthday. If I am not wrong he has turned 34 today (but if you will see him at home with his kids, you can not differentiate between kids and him). It has been 3 years now since I first met friends at Bangalore SHG. He is kind to invite me to his home at times, serves awesome home food (all thanks to his wife) to my perfect round shaped tummy and give me opportunity to spend time with his cute baby doll and son. Wishing you a very happy birthday. Have a great year ahead.


Also I came to know on Monday that Rajesh (From Hyderabad) is getting married on March 4. I had a good fight with him over phone for letting us know so soon. I always used to tease him when ever we used to talk on phone with "When you are getting married". Finally the moment has come. Please join me in wishing him a happy marriage life. May you always find the light in each other that guides you both towards a beautiful union.

Stammer ? Is it Really A Hindrance ......?

I think Stammering is not a hindrance to what we  want to achieve ......provided if we really want to achieve something. Since Two Years of my association with TISA , I have seen people doing well in their professional Life as well their family Life. There have been successful  politicians with stammering issue, actors who have achieved what they wanted to .Yes Stammering is a complex struggle but then every person on this Earth has to face Struggle.So beyond Stammering , there are plenty of things that we must experience since we have got just one Life.....!!!

February 24, 2015

SHG Meet Chandigarh


After a gap we decided to meet on 21.02.2015 at 11.00 am  at our usual place in sector 33 park Chandigarh. I reached there by 5 minutes past 11, but was pleased to see that Jasmeet Singh was already there for the meet. We sat on a bench and started talking. Jasmeet has done B.Tech and is looking for job. Meanwhile Paramjeet Singh who works with BSNL also joined.  Alok who has recently joined RBI was to join but could not come because of pre-occupation in office. We had open session and all shared views for what should be done to come out of the mind set for stammering. First step towards recovery is meeting regularly and sharing our views. Paramjeet expressed that meeting is always one step forward for more confidence and freedom. Jasmeet shared that he is feeling great after meet and feeling positive and confident.
     We concluded the meet at 12.30 pm with a decision to meet again shortly.
TISA members in and around chandigarh are requested to join the next meet.  

February 22, 2015

The blind woman..

I was going to give off this reader's digest to the junk dealer- when I saw a very meaningful story- so good that I promptly scanned it and decided to share it with you. It is jpg file. Just two pages.. but what a deep message!

February 21, 2015

School Revisitation

Yesterday I again went to some schools. My motive was to visit some Hindi medium schools as last time I visited only English medium schools. So I started my visitation beginning with a school near my house. I met a teacher there. He was my maths tuition teacher in 10th standard. I told him every thing about TISA and also my life after 10th class. Finally I gave him the pamphlet.
I then moved to a school where my nephew was studying as he told me that there are 4-5 stammerers in his class. I met the Principal and explained him about TISA and stammering. But to my surprise she told me "We don't have any child who stammers". I don't understand why people are ashamed of talking about stammering. I gave the pamphlet to her and urged her to put it on school notice board.
After that I visited 4 more schools. But I was able to speak to only 1 principal as the other 3 were busy.

I feel that still people are not very much aware of Stammering and doesn't want to talk about it and that too in a big city like Jaipur.

So I will keep on visiting schools and colleges and other public places & the next episode will come soon guys.

February 20, 2015

Goa Regional Meet - Countdown begins!


(Friends, go for it- if you are anywhere close- even if you attend one session..Ed.)
Well, the countdown begins! Just 2 days to go..! Read more to get a sneak peek of what's in store...

A Very nice discussion this week, on air(live) Stammer Freely Hangout Session on Youtube

Stammer Freely once a month Live Conversation for awareness and  discussion
Topic was " On purpose stammering or voluntary stuttering and also on other components of stammering which makes our stammering severe or worst sometime.

#www,stammerfreely.com

February 19, 2015

Accepting the UNSPEAKIBILITY

When you are trying to speak something to a person and you end up struggling very hard inside your mouth to utter those words and that person just move on because he is not aware actually that you are making any attempt to speak because nothing audible is coming out of your mouth and even your facial reaction is not giving any hint to that person that you are making any effort to say something.Your face is reflecting a calm person while every single muscle of your tongue inside your mouth is putting all the efforts to get the initial word out, but in vain.

Well, that person went away and I faced one of my biggest humiliating experience again.

So what?

I am not dead.I am still alive after this episode.I can ask the same question to next guy coming across.After all, we are living in a country having more than 120 million people.

I think nothing is bad enough to be afraid of.I will not write any more regarding this because I haven't embraced this idea enough yet.


Documentary by Bringhomestories.com

"Speech is like a river"
Credit Goes to Abhishek(bringhomestories.com)

February 17, 2015

A Cup OF COFFEE with BUDDY Stammerers in MORADABAD,UP

Hi Friends,
Its my pleasure to invite fellow stammerers from Moradabad for a discussion  over 'How to Improve your Speech with a cup of coffee @ My place GMD Road ,Moradabad on 25th Feb,2015 at 6:00 PM.

All Stammerers are requested to please come and start improving your speech from Day 1.


THANKS !!!

Regards,
Himanshu Kapoor
8755636066

February 16, 2015

how does it feel to stammer...

Friends, I found this amazing discussion about baldness on Quora. If you replace " bald" with stammering, you will find that the whole page reflects our experinces - and the real life solutions people have shared, are quite useful for us as well. Pease read the whole page and especially the answer by SANJAY MUCHARLA . There are deep lessons hidden here.
http://www.quora.com/How-does-it-feel-to-be-bald

हकलाहट की स्वीकार्यता के 10 फायदे!

मैंने हकलाहट की स्वीकार्यता को एक व्यापक रूप में अपनाया है और महसूस किया है। इस दौरान मैंने पाया कि स्वीकार्यता सिर्फ हकलाहट ही नहीं, बल्कि जीवन की हर चुनौती का सहजता से सामना करने का मूलमंत्र है। अगर आपने स्वीकार्यता को पूर्ण रूप से और खुलकर अपना लिया, तो आपका जीवन सुखमय बना जाता है। आप दुःख होते हुए भी दुःख का अहसास नहीं कर पाएंगे, क्योंकि स्वीकार्यता आपको दुःख का सामना करने की हिम्मत देगी। यहां स्वीकार्यता के कुछ लाभों की ओर आप सबका ध्यान आकर्षित करना चाहता हूं, जो मैं समझ पाया हूं।

February 14, 2015

The story in Deccan Herald!

Thanks Javaid for this great write up in Deccan Herald! and Thanks Vishal and Abhishek and all of you who participate in SHG- in different cities in India! A good idea becomes viable only when lot of people practice it. (Just a couple of unintentional issues like Physical trauma in childhood as a possible cause of stammering- otherwise a very balanced and objective write up.) Let us keep on educating society about this issue which affects us in so many ways...and which has often been - mistakenly - believed to be just a bad habit or lack of confidence or habitual hurry! (check this to see that stammering does have a biological basis; that we are not imagining things!) PS: The cartoon is about "cure clinics". No offence meant! Just laugh and forget...

February 9, 2015

Life before 2 years ago....Life now....

Two years ago i was a shy nervous person , full of negativity towards stammering...But now I am a slightly +ve person... who still gets frustrated with stammering but still try to do what he wants to and what he should do.I didn't dare to travel alone because of the fear. This time around went to Delhi....went to meet my college friends ...den went to meet my Bua.... Today i had a interview in one of the govt company. The old anxiety still crept in.....but today i tried to take breaths in b/w and try to face d situation and the most important i at least dared to attend the interview.Though my interview didn'''t go well.....but still until and unless i give 7-8 interviews....only then i would be able to manage myself more.... I admit that stammering can be frustrating for a person but still you can achieve whatever u want to.....with or without stammering.Who could imagine from Indian society point of view that a stammerer(Hrithik Roshan) can become the most desired man in Asia and deliver flawless dialogues in Jodha Akbar.....But he did..Came to know about a person who is director HR in one of the esteemed MNC's........3-4 days  ago, i got a chance to interact with Sr. President of a good Indian company who also had/has stammer. It is we who are the stumbling block in our progress. Why do we get shy of speaking when we know that stammering is just a slight different way of speaking. I still get shy but at least i try to face  more  situations. Lagey rho Bhaiyon ......agar hum Mehnat karenge tabhi hamara chance badega interview ko clear karne ka... ...Life mein stammering ke alawa bhi bahut kuch h.....

February 8, 2015

I learnt Holistic healing of Psoriasis (a skin disorder) from TISA

Psoriasis is one of the most stubborn skin condition which is quite similar to stammering in many ways.Just like stammering, exact cause of psoriasis is still unknown.There are many possible theories like - Genetic disorder or an autoimmune disorder.In modern medical science, there is no concrete cure of this skin condition although alternative medical systems like Ayurveda,homeopathy and naturopathy do claim some relief.

I developed it about 9 years back at the age of 21.Since then, it has been a struggle dealing with stammering and those psoriasis patches on my face and other parts of the body everyday.

Similar to stammering,psoriasis can drag you on your knees by destroying your self confidence badly because every time you will see people staring at your face and body and some times, they will prefer staying away from you fearing that this skin condition would probably attack them as well.You can't carry a tag with you always that Psoriasis is not contagious in nature.

Anyways,don't get too emotional because this is not my intention behind writing this post.Since last 1 year,I have started the journey of HOLISTIC HEALING OF PSORIASIS with change in diet,life style and use of some commonly available herbs.Results are awesome.These steps are helping me to keep this skin disorder at bay to live a better life.

Getting motivated from my results,I have started a website (www.psoriasisselfmanagement.com) promoting HOLISTIC HEALING of psoriasis with self efforts.

Remember that quote- "Self to be achieved through self efforts"?

I have used this quote numerously and people have poured buckets of praise on me for this quote.I hope Dr.Sachin wouldn't mind that I am enjoying some praise for his quote because he is very generous :-)

So,Thank you TISA and thank you everyone associated with it.I learnt the idea of ACCEPTANCE from TISA only and it is doing wonder in almost every aspect on my life.

At last but not the least,I would request everyone here to help me in spreading this idea of SELF HEALING OF PSORIASIS IN A HOLISTIC WAY!!

Do share the link of my website with as much people as you can.
Here goes the link:
http://www.psoriasisselfmanagement.com




February 6, 2015

हकलाना एक फिल्म के दृष्टिकोण से

दोस्तों  कल मैंने पी. के. फिल्म देखी  जिसमे एक एलियन धरती पे आता है और यहाँ के लोगो , संस्कृति , धर्म, समाज को किस तरह से  देखता है तथा उस पर कैसे इसका प्रभाव पड़ता है इस फिल्म को मै हकलाने से जोड़कर कुछ देर तक सोचा तो मुझे कुछ इस तरह के विचार आये जो मै आपसे शेयर करूँगा ।

नजरिया :- कैसे  नायक अपने यन्त्र को ढूढ़ने के लिए सभी धर्मो की शरण  में जाता है ।  अपने देखा होगा की कैसे किसी को ये फिल्म अच्छी लगी किसी को ठेस पहुँची संछेप में जितने लोग उतने विचार ।

Delhi SHG meetup at Jantar Mantar on 8th Feb

Meeting Venue :: Jantar Mantar ( walking distance from rajiv chowk metro station gate no 6 )

Timing : 11am (sharp)

Agenda : Hidden

Host : Vishal, Ashish and Shubham

Focus on : An interactive system that's comprised of at least six essential components: behaviors, emotions, perceptions, beliefs, intentions and physiological responses.

Tufaani : Talk with non stammerers.

for any query, call me @ 8447490753

Mumbai SHG Meeting #53

Hello,
Everyone is invited for next Mumbai SHG meet at YMCA.
Date: 8th Feb 2015
Time: 1.30 pm - 4.00 pm
Venue: YMCA, Pantnagar, Ghatkopar E
Regards,
Gaurav
9819721804