इलाहाबाद टीसा स्वयँ सहायता समूह की मीटिंग का रिपोर्ट

हम तीन हकलाने वालों ने यह मीटिंग इलाहाबाद  के कम्पनी बाग में शुरू की। हम तीनों ने सबसे पहले अपना -अपना परिचय दिया। दूसरे एक्टिविटी में हम सभी ने अपने एक़ -एक अनुभव शेयर किये। तीसरी एक्टिविटी में हमनें ब्लाक कॅरेक्सन टेक्निक का यूज़ करते हुए एक -एक टॉपिक पर अपने -अपने विचार रखे।  इस राउन्ड में हमने हकलाते हुए अपने सेकेंड्री  को कंट्रोल करना सीखा और हकलाते हुए भी  बेहतर बातचीत करने  के तरीकों का अभ्यास किया। चौथे एक्टीविटी में हम तीनो एक सर्कल में खड़े  होकर आखों में आखें ड़ालकर अपने -अपने नाम पर जमकर हकलाया और दूसरी बार अपने -अपने नाम को एक छोटे से  बाउंसिंग के साथ बोला। अगले राउंड में हमने पार्क में मौजूद अन्य लोगों से बातचीत की और हकलाने के विषय पर उनके विचार जाने। कुछ लोगों ने बताया की उनके भी घर में कुछ लोग हकलाते हैं लेकिन वो बहुत ही कम हकलाते है हमने उनसे हकलाने पर खूब खुलकर बात की। अंत में हम तीनों ने एक साथ चाय और समोसे का आनंद लिया और इलाहाबाद टीसा स्वयं सहायता समूह को रेगुलर करने का संकल्प लिया। 

Kolkata SHG.....

Dear All,

        Owing to heavy rains all over Kolkata, t last SHG meet was washed out.
Without any dampening of spirit.... a newbie has taken the initiative to call an SHG meet.

His name is Arman. (I havn't met his as of yet).

With utmost sincerity, he has asked me to hold a SHG @Victoria Memorial, this coming Sunday, [3rd November], at 3:00pm.

Amen, to such sincerity.

All invited.

His contact no is: 7278137149 / 8961404675.


 

Me ,My stammering and TISA

I have been attached with Tisa since last one year.When I joined Tisa I came to know about concept of Acceptance.It was very difficult for me to accept my stammering from which I had been a life long Animosity and I tried to surmount through out my life.I argued with some of senior members of Tisa(I still feel guilty and smile at my immaturity) about concept of acceptance.The concept of Acceptance  is profound, it takes some time to understand.

           Before joining Tisa I had some knowledge of speech therapy techniques but by those techniques I never became free from fear of stammer.And that could be done only by acceptance.Sometime I get a feeling that I am just one year old (J) ,because one year ago I had no planning for future ,I wasted 20 years of my life only thinking that first I will cure my stammering and then world will see real Amit (oops) .I was alive but  not lively.

Let the TISA SHGs bloom..

It’s good to see that there are many SHGs blooming.
They should not wither away during dry and hard times!
Here are the few basic observations which will help in smooth functioning of SHG.

Issues faced by SHG in order of their priority
1) The biggest challenge - Low attendance - This is the heart of the problem

भगाइए - डर, शर्म और झिझक

कल मैं एक मंदिर में गया था। वहां पर कई भिखारी बैठे थे। एक महिला ने झल्लाकर कहा- तुम लोगों को भीख मांगने में शर्म नहीं आती है। कुछ काम क्यों नहीं करते? हालांकि भिखारियों को यह बात सुनकर कोई फर्क नहीं पड़ा।

मैंने देखा कि भिखारियों को भीख मांगने में जरा भी डर, शर्म और झिझक महसूस नहीं होती। वे खुलेआम भीख मांगते हैं। ऐसा वे इसलिए करते हैं, क्योंकि वे मन से स्वीकार कर लेते हैं कि अब भीख मांगना ही बेहतर है। अपनी गरीबी और लाचारी को मन से स्वीकार करने के बाद भीख मांगने का डर, शर्म और झिझक खत्म हो जाती है शायद!

Weekend with Jasbirji

Jasbirji, was in Goa last week. He was on his official visit, but was gracious enough to extend his stay by two days to spend time with the local SHG. And what an eventful two days we had..!

Kapurthala SHG meeting Report of 29th October

Today on 29^th Oct. First time, SHG meeting was held at RCF, Kapurthala in Punjab. 

We were 2 members Hemant Jangid(host), Mr. R.P. Singh.

We have started meeting with formal introduction Round.

Young PWS looking for jobs, just an advise.

In National conference i met a  number of young PWS who are looking for jobs and their stammering issue is making it difficult for them to get the jobs.

I also know a number of such PWS personally as well who are struggling to get jobs.

Most of them as i perceive are staying at their homes and giving interviews here and there.As per my past experience, because there was a time when i was also struggling to get a job, to be at home in such a situation in not the very good option.

TISA Hyderabad Chapter News - 27th Oct

We were 8 members for the meetup w.t.r below pic

1.Sumanth 2.Raja Poladi ji 3.Ramu 4.Ramandith 5.Vallikranth 6.Asif 7.Siva 8.Rajesh.

Raja Poladi ji has given us TISA badges and DVDs which came all the way from Delhi NC event so our shg meeting started with more happy smiles with those badges and DVDs.

He has given a good info on controlling stammering by slow speaking and stressing each word’s first sound.He always inspires us with his character.

We had below activities in the meetup.

1)Formal Intro

2)Q and A round where members will ask questions and their answers will be solved. Its an interactive round where everyone says their view.

Delhi SHG meeting Report of 27th October.

Delhi SHG Report by Vishnu, Bhatinda

As usual Delhi SHG Meeting was at Rajiv Chowk at 12:00 pm.

My first day @ office after a long leave...

Good afternoon Everyone!!

After spending some wonderful one month time on travelling, meeting peoples, coordinating a communication workshop and spending some time at herbertpur, I returned back to my workplace on 26th October.

Even when i was boarding the bus from herbertpur to chandigarh, there was a fear in myself.It was mainly stammering fear, but i don't know exactly the nature of this fear.

हकलाने वाली युवती की कहानी - पत्रिका न्यूजपेपर, सतना

आज 27 अक्टूबर, 2013 के पत्रिका न्यूजपेपर, सतना में मेरे द्वारा लिखी गर्इ एक कहानी "बदलाव" शीर्षक से प्रकाशित हुर्इ है। इस बार त्रुटिवश मेरा नाम प्रकाशित नहीं हो पाया है। कहानी में एक हकलाने वाली युवती कैसे हकलाहट का सामना करती है और टीसा से उसे क्या मदद और साहस मिलता है जानने के लिए पढि़ए यह कहानी। कहानी काल्पनिक है।


http://epaper.patrika.com/177593/Patrika-Satna/27-10-2013#page/14/1

- अमितसिंह कुशवाह,
सतना, मध्यप्रदेश।
09300939758

रविवार 27-10-2013 को सुबह 9.00 बजे से 10.00 बजे तक स्काइप कॉल में आपका स्वागत है !

प्रिय मित्रों ,
   कल सुबह 9.00 बजे से 10.00 तक हिंदी स्काइप कॉल होगा।  इसमें आपका स्वागत है. जो लोग इसमें भाग लेने के  इक्छुक हैं वे कृपया मेरे ईमेल id पर आज रात तक अपने स्काइप id भेज दें।

अभिषेक कुमार
ईमेल abhikumar.bsnl@gmail.com
skype id : abhi.3561
मोबाइल 9418002112

 Invitation for TISA Allahabad SHG meet up 27 Oct 2013

        

Hello friends , you are welcome to the The Indian Stammering Association self help group meeting first time in Allahabad.In this meeting we will practice the basic technique of stammering and how can we use  these technique in our practical life and also we learn how to control our breath afterall the main focus of this meeting is how can we communicate better. 

   We are three member for the meet up

   1-Vinay tripathi (08874483583)

   2-Amit srivastav (08423675801)

   3-amit tiwari  new member

  Venue and Timing –

      Sunday-10AM till 2PM

      Company Bag  near SRN Medical Hospital Allahabad

      IF YOU STAMMER YOU ARE NOT ALONE

      

TISA Hyderabad Chapter Meetup - 27 Oct

Hello Friends, You are welcome to THE INDIAN STAMMERING ASSOCIATION Self Help Group meetings.These meetings will make you know what stammering is about and how we can control our speech patterns in day to day life.Here We Stammer at Ease.It is proved that if we stammer with easiness then stammering can be dissolved from speech.We use many techniques which help us in clearing blocks in speech.

Kolkata SHG meet

All Invited to a SHG meet, to be held on the 26th of October ( 2morrow !!).

Venue:  Nandan. [Let creativity flow !!]
Time:    5:00 pm

For any queries, please contact Mr Pratim Bandhopadhay. Ph no: 8017772710.

इतिहास के पन्नो से

इतिहास के पन्नो से

(टीसा ब्लॉग की शुरुआती पोस्टो में से एक 2008)

Stammer freely* celebrated ISA Day(international Stuttering awareness day) Live on Hangout on 22nd Oct

We were 10 member there and we discussed following question with our own experiences

What is Stammering ?
what is acceptance ?
what do you think when people bully you and laugh at you ?
what message do you want to give to non stammerers and stammerers ?

Meeting Jasbirji

Jasbirji is presently in Goa, and I had an opportunity to meet him today at the lodge where he is staying. The evening spent with Jasbirji today is a lasting memory I will cherish for my life time. Jasbirji’s smiling face welcomed me, and within no time, I was very much comfortable talking to him, even though it was our first meeting. We exchanged a lot of things, and there were a number of things to learn from him.

Chandigarh communication workshop- 19,20 Oct'2013 (day 2)

After a prett good experience of day 1, we started the second day a bit early at about 8.30 AM at Sukhna lake with a meditation session followed by quick recap of day 1 activities.

We were expecting a few new participants who promised to join on second day. We waited for them, but none of them appeared.

Then sessions on Acceptance and voluntary stammering went one after the other.

Most of the participants were comparatively new to TISA, hence, a question answer round conducted after each session separately to take all their queries and give them relevant answers.

Then, we made small paper chits having relevant info about TISA like website,blog,local contact numbers and approached various groups of tourists there to educate them about TISA.

Each of participant was asked to deliver atleast 5 chits to 5  groups of people and educate them about stammering and TISA.

It was a very good experience for most of them.

Then we shifted our base camp from Sukhna lake to Elante Mall.

First of all, we celebrated the then progress by having a nice treat at Pizza hut.Then some hang out in the mall.

Then at some of the alleys in the mall, we had the Extempore round where each participant gave a 4 minute speech at any instant given topic while standing a distant apart from rest of the group so that people can notice us.

Then we approached various outlets in the shopping mall in small groups and bargain for some products with some bouncing and prolongation here and then.

Then we get out of the mall and disperse in small groups of 2 participant each and caught various groups of people sitting outside the mall for stuttering interviews.

Most of us come to know that People are quite supportive towards stammering and none of them took it at any disease rather they took it as LOW self confidence issue.

Then we all shared our feedbacks for this workshop and see off with a promise that we will be in touch with each other.

The summaary of feedback is 

i.) No of participants (8) was low.We were expecting about 12-15 guys.
ii.) All the sessions, especially question-answer round in sector 17 market and stuttering interviews in Elante mall were very good
iii.) No need of any meeting hall was felt during the whole workshop
iv.) More respect towards Time limits and Team work in future workshops.
v.) More such events should happen on regular intervals.

बोलने के अवसर सृजित (Create) करें . . . !

एक बार हकलाने वाले एक दोस्त से बातचीत हो रही थी। उन्होंने बताया कि टीसा की वर्कशाप में शामिल होने पर हम बहुत कुछ सीख जाते हैं, लेकिन हकलाने के बारे में अपने शहर के लोगों से बातचीत करना थोड़ा अजीब लगता है, हिम्मत ही नहीं होती। अपने मित्र की इस बात पर मैंने भी सहमति व्यक्त की।

बाद में चिंतन किया कि ऐसा क्यों होता है? हम अपने ही शहर में, अपने ही लोगों से हकलाहट पर बातचीत करने से झिझकते हैं। जो लोग हमें अच्छी तरह से जानते हैं, उन लोगों से भी हकलाहट पर खुलकर चर्चा करना अरूचिकर पाते हैं। हमारे पास बोलने के ढेरों अवसर मौजूद होते हुए भी उनका इस्तेमाल नहीं कर पाते।


मेरी समझ में हम हकलाहट के डर से पूरी तरह उबर नहीं पाते। हकलाहट को लेकर चिंता रहती है कि लोग क्या कहेंगे? कई बार हम खुद ब खुद अपनी सीमाएं तय कर लेते हैं। जैसे - अपने बास से हकलाहट पर चर्चा करना ठीक नहीं, किसी अनजान युवती से बात करने पर पता नहीं उसका रिएक्शन क्या होगा? अधिक लोगों के सामने अगर हकलाहट पर बातचीत की तो वे हंसेगे? कोई हमारी बात को महत्व देगा भी या नहीं? कहीं कोई हकलाहट को सुनकर हमारा मजाक न बनाए? ये सभी सवाल हमें कुरेदते रहते हैं।

International Stuttering Awareness Day 22nd October 2013

Today is International stuttering awareness day(ISAD) so please share this to aware non stammerers that how should they behave with the stammerers. please share it  

Bangalore SHG Oct 19, 2013 meeting report

Today’s topic: Cinema and acting

Today we were 11 members, (Anish,Abhinav,Nyaneshwar,Nayeem,Navdeep,Nishil,Dinesh,Thenna,Pramod,Sairam and Akash(me)).

रविवार २० अक्टूबर का हिंदी स्काइप कॉल

  कल सुबह हिंदी स्काइप कॉल 9 बजे से थी . 9.30  तक मै इंतज़ार करता रहा मुझे लगा की आज कोई नहीं आएगा  और प्रैक्टिस नहीं होगी!तब जाके प्रीतम बर्मन( जबलपुर) स्काइप में लॉग इन हुए. हम दोनो ने बौंसिंग के बारे में बातें  की और अभ्यास किया।  हमने इस बात पर  भी चर्चा की कि हम किस प्रकार से स्पीच तकनीक का इस्तमाल सहज रूप से कर सकते हैं और  विभिन्न परिस्थियों में तकनीक का इस्तेमाल कैसे किया जाये।

अभिषेक कुमार
9418002112
ईमेल : abhikumar.bsnl@gmail.com 
            

Delhi SHG Meeting - Naya Savera.......

I have attended the SHG meeting on Sunday the 20th Oct 2013 at Central Park, Connaught Place.   This was my first ever meeting ever since I first came to know about it in National Conference at Indian Social Institute in Delhi.
Today a total of nine PWS attended the meeting.  The meeting started with a silence for two minutes.  Then a formal introduction was given about every PWS stating his name,occupation and address.

Bangalore SHG - The Next is here..

"We all have capability to do a lot more than what we think we can do"
SHG platform will help you realize this.

Volunteering in SHG and taking-up responsibilities in SHG is one of the surest, fastest and best approach for self-growth.

I'm happy to announce that Abhinav will take over as Bangalore SHG coordinator.
Feel free to contact Abhinav - abhinav.singh8@yahoo.com - 95389 73341.

Please extend all your support and good wishes to Abhinav.

Thanks
Dinesh.

Chandigarh communication workshop- 19,20 Oct'13 (DAY 1)

On First day, Communication Workshop starts at 9AM at Rose Garden, Chandigarh.

Workshop Began with a Welcome speech by Ashish Agarwal, followed by basic ground rules of workshop

After that all participants introduced their self by including “Name, city, profession & one positive attribute about their self”

Following Participants Attended Day 1

आईना झूठ नहीं कहता....!

   टीसा से "संवाद" हिंदी पीडीऍफ़ पत्रिका प्राप्त हुई, जिसमे तारक जी का व्यंगात्म्त लेख किन्तु बहुत गहराई से लिखा गया लेख बहुत पसंद आया तो मैंने सोचा चलो हमसफ़र भाइयो से शेयर किया जाये, हमसफ़र का मतलब है की हमारी समस्या एक सी है और मंजिल भी एक तो हुए न हमसफ़र|

अपनी हकलाहट से तंग आकर आईने से शिकायत की क्यों औरो की तरह बोल पाता मैं,

क्यों बस कंडक्टर से आगे-पीछे के स्टॉप का टिकट लेना पढ़ता मुझे?

आईने ने हँसकर कहा- खैर करो हाथ पैर तो सलामत है,

 किसी अपंग की तरह चलकर देखो,

 खैर करो अक्ल तो ठीक है किसी कमअक्ल की तरह सोच कर तो देखो, 

खैर करो स्वयं सहायता समूह में हमदर्द तो मिले,

किसी अकेले की हालत तो समझ कर तो देखो 

मैं घूरकर जोर से चिल्लाया 

अपंग ही सही!

कमअक्ल ही सही!

इस हकलाहट की बेहरहमी से तो बचता!

आइने ने अचरज से पुछा जनाब आप किस हकलाहट की बात कर रहे हो? मैंने तो आपको हकलाते नहीं सुना, 

सुनकर दंग रह गया मैं! सच आईने के सामने कभी हकलाया नहीं मैं, तो क्यों दुसरो के सामने फेफड़े हवा नहीं देते , मुह और जीभ अजब गजब का तालमेल नहीं देते, आखे किसी की आँखों का सामना नहीं करती |

शायद मेरे दिमाग में दो सर्किट है, एक हकलाता है और दूसरा फ़्लूएंट, मन की अवस्था निर्णय लेती है, कौनसे सर्किट का उपयोग होगा | भिन्न-भिन्न स्पीच थेरेपी, धारा प्रवाह (फ़्लूएंट) सर्किट को कसरत करते, नारद मुनि मन हकलाते सर्किट को बढ़ावा देते, विपश्यना, प्राणायाम, ध्यान, मन को शांत करते|

 धाराप्रवाह सर्किट की झील में विहारने,

 आदत से मजबूर मन अशांत हो उठता,

 हकलाते सर्किट के दलदल में फंसने |

इस द्वन्द यूद्ध को प्रेक्षक बनकर निहारते,

एक सत्य तो साफ दीखता आईना झूठ नहीं कहता|

तारक जी और अमित जी कुशवाह के सौजन्य से,

देखिये हिंदी टाइपिंग कितनी आसान है, 

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TISA SHG in Wardha (Maharashtra)

I am Manish Upadhyay from Wardha (Maharashtra).I am basically a Executive Coach, a passionate learner’s Trainer & Inspirational Speaker. On the above, I have recovered myself from stammering. I accept that I had problem in speaking in early days of my life but now I am having reasonable experience in conducting training sessions. I train people on Communication Skills. I am working in the area of Corporate Training and possess an experience in Mentoring and Coaching over 5000 participants on Personality Development. My Strength is ‘My Communication Skills’.

Delhi SHG Meeting on 20th October

Hello Everyone, 
                        This is to inform you that we have meeting this Sunday at "Central Park" (infront of Rajiv Chowk Metro Gate no. 6) 

Timing :  11 am

Agenda :-  1. Introduction. 2.Reading round(specially tongue twister or words) 3. Eye Contact Speech  4. Presentation Round. 5. Round Robin Game 6. Drama Reading(juliah caeaser) 6.Story Telling round. 7.Making Promo.

Topic for presentation is :- 1. railway reservation   2. Increasing population 3.How IT field is going high. 4. Mobile App Trend 5. Why India is better than other country 6. Why Govt. job is like Gold. than pvt. jobs. 7.Attitude towards positiveness. 8. Why acceptance is necessary for a stammerer. 8. why practice is necessary for an stammerer. 

Note : - Each presentation will be of about 5 min.*

If you are new in this TISA and want to join this meeting then feel free to call me at 8447882161 and you can also send me email at vishal.gupta67@gmail.com

रविवार दिनांक 20-10 -13 को सुबह 9 बजे से 10 बजे तक हिंदी में स्काइप कॉल

प्रिय मित्रों,
         कल सुबह ( दिनांक 20-10 -13) 9 बजे से 10 बजे तक हिंदी में स्काइप कॉल में आपका स्वागत है।
इस कॉल के दौरान हम prolongation , bouncing  आदि का अभ्यास करेंगे।  इसके साथ-साथ हम हकलाहट  के विषय में अपने अनुभव भी शेयर करेंगे। जो लोग इस कॉल में भाग लेना चाहते हैं उनसे अनुरोध है की आज शाम ( शनिवार) तक मुझे अपना स्काइप id ईमेल करें या फिर इस पोस्ट के कमेंट में लिख दें।
   
मेरा स्काइप id : abhi.3561
email: abhikumar.bsnl@gmail.com
mobile: 9418002112

TISA Hyderabad Chapter Meetup - 20 Oct 2013

Hello Friends, You are welcome to THE INDIAN STAMMERING ASSOCIATION Self Help Group meetings.These meetings will make you know what stammering is about and how we can control our speech patterns in day to day life.Here We Stammer at Ease.It is proved that if we stammer with easiness then stammering can be dissolved from speech.We use many techniques which help us in clearing blocks in speech.

Fluency के पीछे मत भागिए . . . !

कुछ समय पहले एक हकलाने वाले मित्र से बातचीत हो रही थी। उन्होंने कहा कि बस, एक साल बाद वे Fluency पाने के बाद टीसा को छोड़ देंगे।

मित्र की यह बात सुनकर मुझे आश्चर्य तो हुआ, लेकिन उनका उत्तर गौर करने लायक है। हर हकलाने वाला यही चाहता है कि वह धाराप्रवाह बोलने लगे। इस चाहत में कई लोग अपना समय और धन दोनों बर्बाद करते हैं। बोगस इलाज/क्योर के जाल में फंसकर शोषण का शिकार होते हैं।

Online Self-Help Groups

Difficult to Join SHG? 
Then, join one of the Online Self-Help Groups below:
SKYPE (with Karthik or Akash) or Google Hangout(with Vishal). For Hindi sessions contact Abhishek (below).
In these online sessions, we do not work on stammering; Rather we work on improving communication skills, which in turn helps people to improve their overall outlook on life! You talk, we listen! With patience, respect and acceptance.. 
Just two ground rules: Respect others and stammer freely!
Feel free to leave your feedback- good or bad.. so that organizers improve and feel encouraged!
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Skype with Karthik
daily from 10pm to 11pm
Skype ID: aishkarthik 
If you are new, ping Karthik @ 9:30 pm 

SKYPE with Akash
skype id : akash_super1
email id : akashdxt25@gmail.com
Mobile no. 8095987170
Name: Akash ;-)
Note: Please don't be hesitate to call Akash, message or email anytime before 11:00pm.

Google Hangout (Video) - Stammer Freely

http://stammerfreely.blogspot.in

10 pm to 11:30 pm

Six days a week (Saturday is off)

To join, click here: http://stammerfreely.blogspot.in/p/loading_6704.html

Stammer Freely, an online conversation between PWS globally, has been running since October 2012. Stammer Freely Hangouts are held six days a week (Saturday is officially off) with three hosts between 10 pm to 11:30 pm India Time daily. As of October 15, 2013 we had over 150 PWS both Indians and non-Indians. 

Stammer Freely hosts: 

Vishal Gupta (New Delhi, India) on Monday, Tuesday, Sunday

Nenad Rendic (Split, Croatia) on Thursday & Friday 

Anshul Neema (Gurgaon, India) on Wednesday

What do I need to join?

Gmail Account, Webcam, Microphone, Fast Internet Connection, a Quiet environment 

How do I join? Sign up here: http://stammerfreely.blogspot.in/p/loading_6704.html

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In HINDI: 
Consider joining Abhishek for a Hindi online session :
http://t-tisa.blogspot.in/2013/11/17-11-2013-900-1000.html

Also, Amit Dikshit is offering a phone session in Hindi, especially for BSNL users; check out:
http://t-tisa.blogspot.in/2013/11/up-bsnl-telephonic-shg.html

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What activities can I expect in an Online SHG? 

Activities will vary per session based on participant feedback - we try to keep things fresh!

1. Introductions
2. Round Robin Game
3. Story Telling
4. Role Play Game
5. Story Making
6. Group discussion
7. Question & Answers
8. Tongue Twister Reading
9. Experience sharing
10. Small Quiz Game
11. Mock interviews
12. Debates
13. Prepared speeches
14. One sentence story building
15. Slow reading 

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Finally, if you have learned ANYTHING from these online interactions, you must go to the next level: call customer care numbers and try some voluntary stammering!

Agenda of Chandigarh Workshop 19-20 Oct'13

We will meet at 9 AM (preferably 8.45 AM) sharp in Rose Garden on 19th October.

The workshop agenda is -Click Here to Download PDF

The booking for 19th night stay has been done at Chandigarh. If anyone is arriving on 18th night, then please inform us in advance so that stay arrangement can be made accordingly.

Ashish - 9882082910

Anupinder - 9779977441

The Law of Reversed Effect

There are many physical laws that we live by. For example , jump off a chair and we experience the physical law of gravitation. In the same way , there are mental laws, just as real that we can use them for our benefit or detriment. The law of reversed effect States: “The greater the conscious effort, the less the subconscious response” Or “Whenever the will and imagination are in conflict, the imagination always wins.” Conscious efforts or will power resides in our conscious mind. It is what we consciously do. Whereas imagination or what we imagine “to be true”, resides in our subconscious mind. Insomniacs show the law of reversed effect perfectly. The more effort and will power we use to go to sleep, the more sleep evades us. Forgetting a name is another example. The more we try to remember, the more we can’t. It is only after we have stopped all conscious effort that the name magically pops into our head. When I was young and learning to ride a bike, I consciously used all my will power to not hit a tree that was looming up towards me. To no avail, as my imagination of hitting the tree was stronger than my conscious effort to avoid it. Inevitably, I hit the tree.


Friends, if we imagine ourselves as having any type of fear or anxiety and there are thousand of them, no amount of conscious effort in facing this fear will overcome what we imagine to be true.

The same principle applies to Stammering too.

It is all about helping ourselves to imagine we are okay and that is ACCEPTANCE with whatever was fearful to us in the past.

I wanted to share it in the recent NC at Delhi , but time did not permit.

Communication workshop at Chandigarh - 19,20 October'2013

TISA Chandigarh chapter is going to conduct a 2 days communication workshop at chandigarh.

The concrete idea behind the proposal is that most of the members of chandigarh  chapter have not attending the national conference, hence why don't we organize a workshop then.Also, the last workshop that happened in chandigarh was way back in mid 2011.

Workshop dates are 19 and 20th October'2013.

This workshop would be MORE PUBLIC SPEAKING based experience where we will be trying to expand our comfort levels and interact more and more with in public.

The workshop agenda and tentative schedule will be updated soon.

Already 6-7 participants have confirmed.So hurry up!! 

Requesting all interested members to comment with their mobile numbers.

We are in process of connecting to every potential member.

Contact :- Anupinder (09779977441)
                Ashish       (09882082910)

पत्रिका न्यजपेपर - विदेशी यात्रियों का मौन . . .

आज 13 अक्टूबर, 2013 के पत्रिका न्यूजपेपर पर मेरा एक संस्मरण प्रकाशित हुआ है। ‘‘विदेशी यात्रियों का मौन’’ शीर्षक से प्रकाशित इस संस्मरण में इस बात की चर्चा की गई है कि मितभाषी होना क्यों जरूरी है? पश्चिमी देशों के लोगों से हम क्या अच्छी बातें सीख सकते हैं? और अधिक जानने के लिए इस लिंक पर जाएं।

- अमित 09300939758


http://epaper.patrika.com/171871/Patrika-Satna/13-10-2013#page/14/1

TISA's YouTube Channel

Hi Friends!

TISA now has an official YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/indianstammering

If you would like to upload your TISA videos to this channel, please comment on this post and we can add you as a Channel manager.

When adding a video please remember to write a short & catchy title, relevant description and tag keywords.

Kind attention SHG Coordinators

Dear SHG Coodinators,

Pl kindly give your mail ID's and mobile numbers to me for record purpose. Also kindly forward messages to all your chapter members whenever I requires to so .

Thanks & Regards,

The best Question yet..

I have been in touch with a SHG for some years. How do I measure my progress?
Are you more comfortable in company of other people- whether speaking or quiet? Are you able to listen calmly to others, without worrying about what you are going to say next? Do you recall better, what people told you, what happened in the office or college? Do you ask more questions in class now? Do you raise your hand more often now, whenever there is a volunteering opportunity? Do you initiate discussion more often with strangers at work or in park? Do you laugh and joke more with your friends?
If answer is yes, you are definitely making progress- even if you are still stammering. Measuring progress by number or severity of dis-fluencies is simplistic, erroneous. Comfort in social situations is a better indicator of your progress.
We have known people who have "stopped" stammering but feel threatened when some one else is stammering in their presence OR when discussion about stammering comes up. This is NOT cure. Becoming free of the FEAR of stammering, fear of being different, fear of being who you are- is the true and lasting cure. Once you are free of fear and are comfortable in different social interactions- then you should, like anyone else, practice and hone your communication skills- which includes listening, empathy, initiative, problem solving and other social and intellectual skills.
Let your focus be on "comfort", Communication and becoming a whole authentic human being. Only you can judge how far you have travelled along this path. Dont let others pass judgement on your speech and progress. You too dont judge others superficially.

TISA Hyderabad Chapter Meetup on 13 Oct

Hello Friends, You are welcome to THE INDIAN STAMMERING ASSOCIATION Self Help Group meetings.These meetings will make you know what stammering is about and how we can control our speech patterns in day to day life.Here We Stammer at Ease.It is proved that if we stammer with easiness then stammering can be dissolved from speech.We use many techniques which help us in clearing blocks in speech.

X men: Born this way (Final NC questions)

I have heard that our problem is because we try to complete one whole sentence in one breath. I need some advise on how to break a sentence in smaller chunks.

This is true for many of us. A simple solution is: Instead of saying it, imagine, you are writing it; wherever you use a punctuation mark (comma, hiphen, colon, semi colon etcetera) – THAT is the place where you should stop and breathe and then carry one (while maintaining a normal eye contact). These are the points which often represent a natural break, a point where one thought is ending and a new one is beginning. Example:

I took a two year break not because I did not get an offer but because I thought doing MBA at this point in life will be easier than trying to do it later in life..

Imagine saying this with a break after every line – with smile and eye contact- like this:

I took a two year break.

This was not because I did not get offers.

In fact I wanted to do MBA. 

It was easy to do it now than later.

Smaller direct sentences not only help you- by giving you a chance to breathe- but they also help your listener my making processing of new information easier for them. Try this out in your next speech in your self help group!

Is stammering hereditary? Please explain in short.

Yes, in about 50% (or more) of cases- as per the current knowledge. But the transmission of this trait is not regular and predictable. Quite often, the eldest son and the youngest son may stammer. The middle ones and daughters may not stammer. But no hard and fast rules. Check these two links for more info: Ehud Yairy, Dennis Dryna

But this should not mean “the end of the road”. There are possibilities of genetic engineering in future. Also, as we discussed earlier, stammering among adults consists of 95% or more, of psychological issues, which can be successfully dealt with. This is as good a cure as any. Secondly, a fear often unstated: what about my children- will they inherit my stammering? Cant be predicted but IF they did, why fear? They too will learn to deal with it, as we have done, successfully. IF YOU and I work hard, we can definitely make the world a little bit more sensitive and accepting for the next generation of X men and X women!

What can be a good technique to slow down the speed of talking?

If we realize that tongue does not move on its own- but is moved by our mind, then we will understand that stammering, for many of us is a mind game. There are bound to be MORE than ONE, ways of winning this mind game. Find out, why are you speaking fast? Are you running away from something- some feared moment? Some chance event – like a block? Or the fear that I may be found out for who I really am, inside, a stammerer?

For dealing with such deep fears and phobias- a best technique is to join a SHG where members are regularly challenged by activities like “Metro challenge”, which many of you took up during this NC. Bouncing, prolongation, pausing, Voluntary stammering- all these techniques are helpful by slowing you down - and can be learned and practiced in SHG. Vipassana or any other form of regular meditation can also help, by slowing our thoughts and making us more aware of our inner motivations. Many people do not persist, because they do not find a supportive environment. So, start a SHG or a meditator's group or anything which helps you.

National conference, Oct'2013 - A participant's take

There is a lot of fuzz and noise; people are giving their feedbacks and suggesting how to make it even more better next time.

So, as a TISA volunteer and the recognition given by the TISA core committee to me, I am not able to sleep tight till I share my opinion :-)

1.) When I lead a few activities during the conference, where I was responsible to satisfy a group of 5-6 participants.I got to know that it really takes a lot of efforts to make your team members feel satisfied.So, making efforts to satisfy 105 participants is never ever an easy task at all.

All the organizing commitee members of this event are really respectful for me from the core of my heart.I am very much satisfied and I know the majority of participants do feel the same.

More NC questions..

Here are some more questions from NC2013 and the answers.
1. Difficult words- how do we deal with them?
Before you attempt difficult words- you must learn how to deal with "easy words", using a technique/ approach in DIFFERENT, but increasingly challenging circumstances. Once you have done that you are ready to do the same with difficult words.
But remember- always move from easy to difficult situations (and words) in a phased manner. If you face difficulties, dont lose heart- just go back to the previous phase and start again. Your SHG (real or Internet or phone based) is the best place to learn this.
2. Do pws suffer from "low confidence"? 
Low confidence is not the cause but the effect (outcome) of stammering. When we stammer in presence of others, we feel bad and "low". Next time, when we meet the same situation or person/s, we suddenly remember the last "bad" episode and feel less confident. This can be solved by gaining small successes in our self help group and re-building our self confidence in this fashion.
3. What is the biological factor behind stammering?
Recent brain scans and genetic studies indicate that stammering may be caused by certain genes, which give rise to certain neuro-physiological changes in our brain as we grow. BUT by the time we are 18 or so, we have developed a lot of psychological side effects (shame, fear, guilt, "victim" mentality, "persecution" complex, self concept- that I am a stammerer, what can I do in life? etc. etc.).
THESE psychological factors become 95% of the problem, by the time we reach adulthood. In comparison, biological factors are less than 5% of our problem at this stage.  
You can successfully deal with these 95% psychological issues (Sheehan's iceberg) through self help groups over 6-9 months.
4. How to raise awareness about stammering in public?
Very simple! YOU give up shame, fear and guilt of stammering. YOU write about it. YOU talk about it- starting from family, friends, neighbours and finally in your school, college, workplace. If you feel scared, do it in a group with your SHG members..
5. TISA is such a wonderful platform. Why dont you charge money for the workshops?
"One barber does not charge money for hair cutting from the other barber!" We ALL are stammerers!
But yes, if we want high quality services, we will have to contribute towards direct costs- which we are doing in the form of Registration fee. All expenses are approved by the Coordinator and shared on internet.
6. Sometime I stammer more in front of my parents- but not at all with strangers- why?
It could be due to a variety of reasons:
1. May be you are very comfortable with your parents and subconsciously, dont feel any need to hide your stammer. And therefore you stammer FREELY in their presence.
2. To the contrary: May be your parents have ticked you off, interrupted you with advise, many times when you were a child- and because of that, now- years later, whenever you open your mouth in their presence, all that subconscious fear (of being interrupted) comes to your consciousness unbidden- and you start to stammer.
3. Do you subconsciously hold your parents responsible for your stammering? A solution could be: sort your relationship out with them; try and "forgive" them internally; have a heart to heart chat with them and tell them what you expect from them-
like:

Please look at me and give me time when I talk to you instead of interrupting OR looking away OR looking at your watch/ cellphone. 
Please maintain a normal eye contact with me when I am in a block.
Please dont ask too many questions at the same time, the moment I come in etc etc.

Good relationship is the background for good communication.

Can I request Hemant, Anil plus anyone else, to translate these in Hindi and post it? (I will do the corrections if needed.) Thank you in advance.

NC : प्रतिभागियों की प्रतिक्रिया

टीसा की तीसरी नेशनल कांफ्रेन्स (एनसी) नईदिल्ली में 4 से 6 अक्टूबर, 2013 तक आयोजित की गई। इस कार्यक्रम में भारत के 100 से अधिक प्रतिभागियों ने भाग लिया। वहीं 4 महिलाओं ने अपनी उपस्थिति दर्ज कराकर एक नए अध्याय की शुरूआत की है। पेश है कुछ प्रतिभागियों की प्रतिक्रिया-

1. एनसी में आकर मैं हकलाहट को एकदम भूल गई। हकलाहट को स्वीकारना करना ही बेहतर है। यहां हकलाहट के बारे में कई रोचक और नई जानकारी मिली, जो डाक्टर और स्पीच थैरेपिस्ट के पास जाने से नहीं मिली थी। - अकृष्ठा सहाय, पटना, बिहार।

फेसबुक में सवाल पूछा गया था की २०१४ नॅशनल कांफ्रेंस कब होनी चाहिए ?

Anil Guhar

फेसबुक में सवाल पूछा गया था की २०१४ नॅशनल कांफ्रेंस कब होनी चाहिए ?

       मेरी ओपिनियन है की अगर साल के शुरुआत में हो तो बेस्ट है, जैसे फरवरी में इसमें बसंत का मौसम भी होता है, जिसमे मौसम बहुत सुहाना होता है साथ साथ सुविधाजनक भी होता है, इसमें न तो गर्मी की असहनीय तपिश होती है न तो ज्यादा ठण्ड |
            

Cool Communicators (NC 2013 Vid)

It's All About Doing

There is no secret to success. If you just do what you want to, there is no limit to what you can achieve. Vikas Ranga has been walking this path and on the way he keeps inspiring everybody!

Top questions from NC!

We will be taking up questions asked by participants during NC. here are the first lot:

1. How acceptance is not “Giving up”? (By Anshuman)
   Both are different. TISA suggests: Accept that you actually stammer and that right now there are no universal, easy magic cure. Because no one really knows the cause. Having accepted these well known facts, you should focus on what is in your hands: Communication skills.
   Learn them and practice them- beginning from your Self help group. Gandhi ji, once said: Non-violence is not same as cowardice- even though they may seem same outwardly. Non-violence is meant for brave only, not cowards. 
   Similarly, Acceptance and "giving up" may seem same in stammering context but in reality both are poles apart. Giving up stems from pessimism. Acceptance emerges from "Realism" and is driven by common sense based on Realism. 
   
   

NC : खुद को पहचानें, खुद को सार्थक करें - डा. सत्येन्द्र श्रीवास्तव

नई दिल्ली में आयोजित टीसा की तीसरी नेशनल कांफे्रन्स के अंतिम दिन 6 अक्टूबर, 2013 को टीसा के संस्थापक, डा. सत्येन्द्र श्रीवास्तव (सचिन सर) ने अपना प्रेरणादायी उदबोधन दिया। प्रस्तुत है उनकी स्पीच के सम्पादित अंश -

एक साथ 100 से अधिक हकलाने वाले व्यक्तियों से मिलकर मुझे बहुत प्रसन्नता हो रही है। मैं आपके साहस की प्रशंसा करता हूं कि आप लोगों को अपनी हकलाहट को सामने लाने का प्रयास किया। यह स्वीकार करने के लिए साहस की जरूरत होती है कि आप या आपका बच्चा हकलाता है। खासकर हकलाने वाली महिलाओं की उपस्थिति निश्चित ही एक नए अध्याय की शुरूआत है।

NC : चमत्कार को नमस्कार!

टीसा की नेशनल कांफ्रेन्स में 100 से अधिक लोगों का शामिल होना किसी चमत्कार से कम नहीं है। एक हकलाने वाले व्यक्ति की जिन्दगी में तो यह एक सपना है, खुली आंखों से देखा गया सपना।

इस सफल आयोजन के लिए टीसा के संस्थापक डा. सत्येन्द्र श्रीवास्व और नेशनल को-आर्डिनेटर जयप्रकाश सुंडा के मार्गदर्शन में दिल्ली स्वयं सहायता समूह के सदस्यों ने समर्पित होकर इस कठिन और असंभव से लगने वाले कार्य को संभव कर दिखाया है।

दिल्ली स्वयं सहायता समूह के प्रमुख अभिषेक वर्मा, जितेन्दर गुप्ता, विशाल गुप्ता, ललित पाण्डेय, प्रमेन्द्रसिंह बुन्देला, सिंकदर जी आदि ने सराहनीय योगदान दिया है।

इस क्रम में टीसा के नए नेशनल को-आर्डिनेटर मणीमारण जी, कोर टीम के सदस्य तारक गढोदिया और सहायक नेशनल को-आर्डिनेटर हरीश उसगांवकर ने भी हर संभव सहयोग किया।

सभी प्रतिभागियों के ओर से आयोजकों को बधाई, आभार, साधुवाद!

जय टीसा!

Bangalore SHG Oct 5, 2013 meeting report

Get Busy Living or Get Busy Dying

Hello All, This week we had maximum no of PWS in last couple of weeks. Thanks to Akash for calling every one. This week meeting was coordinated by Akash.

Attendees - Prashant, Sharath, Pramod, Animesh, Akash, Dinesh, Sairam, Navdeep, Thenna, Sri, Anbu and myself Abhinav 

National Conference: Report of 3rd Day

The third day of National Conference started with Meditation Session by Nilukushi Cooray at 8:30 in morning.

Then we had quick recap of day two activities, where participants randomly shared one activity of day two.

Then we had Speech by two female participants, Akrishta Sahay and Iram Khan.

Group Photo - Day 3

Rajyoga Shivir at Om Shanti Retreat Center, Gurgaon on 19 & 20th October

2 days workshop of Rajyoga Meditation at Om Shanti retreat center, Gurgaon

Rajayoga Shivir

A brief on the philosophy of Rajayoga and also practical meditation experience.

Registration is free but mandatory.

For more information call  9650692017 or email events@omshantiretreat.org

 

• Event Starts on - 19^th Oct, 2013
• Event Ends on - 20^th Oct, 2013
• Venue - Om Shanti Retreat Centre, Off NH-8, Bilaspur Chowk, Pataudi Road

Note :: please inform me at ssstammerfreely@gmail.com so that we all can go together
***There is no fees for staying or fooding there its completely Free ***

TISA National Conference DAY 2 Report

Day 2 started with a quick recap of day 1 activities where randomly people got to share activities briefly.

Then it was a detailed talk on VIPASSANA meditation technique by Mr.Jasbir Singh (Founding member of Chandigarh SHG).

Greetings to all participants of NC 2013

Greetings to all the participants of TISA National Conference 2013.

Here's sharing my experiences with TISA and how attending NCs helped me-

3rd नेशनल टीसा कोंफ्रेंस, दिल्ली

हेलो फ्रेंड्स मैं अनिल,

      वैसे बोस के तरफ से छुट्टी मिल नहीं रही थी, फिर भी बहुत रिकवेस्ट की तो मान गए | पर वर्क लोड ज्यादा था तो ५ दिन की छुट्टी की जगह २ दिन की ही मिल पाई, चलो ठीक है, कहते है न-   नहीं मामा से काना मामा अच्छा | पर डिसाइड किया तब  कम दिन बचे थे, तो आने की टिकिट कन्फर्म नहीं थी, पर चलता है| कुछ पाने के लिए थोडा बहुत खोना भी पड़ता है|

National Conference,Delhi- 4 - 6 Oct'2013 - Day 1

We kicked off at our scheduled time of 9 Am.

The number of participants were about 40 at the start, hence, the Anchor, Mr.J.P.Sunda get to play a few energizers to make everyone relaxed and familiar to everybody else. By the end of these energizers, good amount of participants were gathered in the hall

Quick update

Just heard it from Ashish (Bhaddi) over a bad phone line:
1. To begin with there were about 40 people at 9 am. But by 10-11 am hundred plus participants were there in the hall..
2. JP shared many energisers which helped participants to get familiar with each other, laugh and relax. (Bravo JP!)
3. Karthik and Vishal gave a very nice presentation about using online services to conduct a virtual SHG..
4. Abhishek was seen zooming around like greased lightning (=very fast) organising many things..

Then we got disconnected! Keep checking for more updates and photos..
Participants, when you are fully energised by JP's ice-breakers, take some time off and share your experiences here- pleeeeeease!

Please read : Important updates about NC

Update: First over-seas participant (Nilu) has arrived (6 pm 2nd Oct). Was received by Abhishek. Many more arriving..Delhi SHG- get ready for the Kumbh mela..

Indian Social Institute is marked by RED Bubble.

1. For the route shown above, please take the "DAYAL COLLEGE" exit. 

2. You can also take "SAI BABA MANDIR" exit and then ask for directions towards SAI MANDIR.  

ISI is situated next to "All India Management Association Centre For Management Education" in the small lane near SAI MANDIR.  Complete Address is -
" Indian Social Institute 10, Institutional Area, Lodi Road, New Delhi (India), Tel.: (011) 4953 4000 "

 Once you reach ISI, come to Auditorium No - 301 . If you need any help, feel free to call the Delhi SHG members -
Vishal 8447882161 ; Jitender 7503189365 ; Abhishek 9873492722 ; 
Sikandar 9810654407 ; Lalit 9911566740

UPDATE -
1. Confirmed Room Bookings (If you have booked your room directly with ISI, your name will NOT be in this list)

A. 3rd October (12 noon) to 7th October (12 noon)

2 bedded room - Mr Manimaran + Raja Bhattacharjee (Booking Name - TISA)

2 bedded room - Abhishek + Jai Prakash Sunda (Booking Name - TISA)

B. 4th October (12 noon) to 6th October (12 noon)

2 bedded room - Subodh +  one spare bed (Booking Name - TISA)

C. 4th October (12 noon) to 5th October (12 noon)

2 bedded room - Raja Poladi (Booking Name - Raja Poladi)

D. 3rd October (12 noon) to 6 October (12 noon)

2 bedded room - Akrshita + Nilukshi (Booking Name - TISA)

2 bedded room - Thusanie + ( one spare bed for a female participant)  (Booking Name - TISA)

2 bedded room - Amit Kushwaha + Karthik (Booking Name - TISA)
2 bedded room - Vishal Solanki + Anupinder (Booking Name - Vishal Solanki)

3 bedded room - Hemant + Rajesh(Karnal) + Ashish Agrawal (Booking Name - TISA)

5 bedded room - Raj + Ram MP + SIVATEJADINAKAR + Mitesh +  Vinay Kumar Tripathi (Booking Name - TISA)

E. 4th October (12 noon) to 6th October (12 noon) 

     (Payment need to be made by the occupants)

3 bedded room - Rajeshwar + Virender Shirje + Shailender (Booking Name -  Virender Shirje)

F. 2nd October (12 noon) to 3rd October (12 noon)

2 bedded room - Nilukshi (Booking Name - Nilukshi) 

G. 4th October (12 noon) to 7th October (12 noon)

2 bedded room - Tarak + one spare bed (Booking Name - TISA)

2.  ALL rooms at ISI are booked. For those who have still not booked their accommodation , please contact Abhishek - 9873492722  OR Sikandar - 9810654407 for alternate options. Since the venue is easily accessible by Metro, you don't need to worry if you are not staying at ISI.

AGENDA :  http://stammer.in/publications/TentAgendaNC2013.pdf

IMPORTANT:

1.  Conference hall for Delhi NC has maximum strength of 150 including family members/friends. Once we reach this figure, we will have to say NO to on-the-spot registrations. If this happens to you, please cooperate. There are many more opportunities to participate in similar events. You are most welcome to SHG meetings and other events in future.

2. If you are coming with a family member or friend, please inform us by sending an email to info[at]stammer.in . You will have to pay Rs 150 per person per day to take care of their food charges (if they plan to have lunch at ISI)

3. Those who are allowed on-the-spot registrations will have to take care of their lunch. ISI doesn't allow on the spot payments for lunch. We will have to inform ISI well in advance about the number of participants and they are very particular about it.

 4.If you have deposited your registration amount, please also fill the registration form given at this link (if not done already). This is important, so that we have your contact details in case we want to contact you!

5. If you need financial help, please email us at info[at]stammer.in . We would be glad to help you.
 
(!With many request pouring in, we have extended the last date to register to 31 August 2013!)

Other Link -
 1. http://t-tisa.blogspot.in/2013/06/tisa-national-conference-on-4-5-and-6.html