Stammer Stories: Jaipur Comm WS: Atul Singh Sainger

Hello all! I developed stammer when I was in 3rd or 4th standard. And by 6th I became fulltime stammerer. Bunking schools in oral tests, persuading friends to attend my roll call, Literally avoiding each&every situation where I have to use my speech. Became quite silent person, cause I know if I’ll speak I’ll stammer, and if’ll stammer rest of the world with their arsenal to fire their advices, cures, “Nuskha’s”, and more over their tease. I was just fed up with everyday advices like be confident, don’t get nervous, pull your tongue, stretch it (like it’s a rubber band huhh).
I grew up with advices like”muh me kalimirch rakha karo” & all that crap. By the time i passed +2 I became quite a stubborn. Since I joined TISA in august 2014, and met with Sachin Sir, my perception towards my stammering changed completely. I no longer feel as stammering is a problem for me. Its more like a part of me. I have many awsm frnds like any other random guy, I enjoy life like any other random guy and the best part is people focus on what I say cause of its content & not how I speak. Stammering also helped me improving my writing skills. Yes It may sound funny but due to my stammer only I focused very much on what to say and which word/language to use, so much so that I can now proudly say that I'm an okay okay type poet/shayar or whatever.... The point is I feel that It is because my stammering only that I am the Atul singh which u all know. If I wouldn't stammer I might have been a completely different person and might be not better than I am today. Stammering not only effects your speech, It effects your thoughts, your body language, your nature and in my case your soul too. I feel like me and my stammering are kind of made for each other. We often compete with each other , every time I have to give any presentation in my Institute.  And I quite enjoy that.
Here is the Youtube  link for my Video bio:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sXDgkINzWCo

The Stuttering Hexagon - The Theory Behind Stuttering and How TISA Acceptance is linked to it

Hi, I am Suraj Kumar. I am 23 years old. I am an IIT Delhi graduate. To more about me, visit my page at www.thinkingonindia.in/suraj-kumar

The Stuttering Hexagon

The Stuttering Hexagon is theory put forward by John. C. Harrison (look at Source below) to explain stammering. It is the most complete theory behind stammering as believed by the author. Author has mentioned, in brief, the components of the theory below. For more details refer to Author's book Redefining Stuttering

My story..

Hi everyone! Myself Prasannajit, an M.Tech student. I am writing this as a part of my acceptance towards stammering.

हकलाहट की स्वीकार्यता के 10 फायदे!

मैंने हकलाहट की स्वीकार्यता को एक व्यापक रूप में अपनाया है और महसूस किया है। इस दौरान मैंने पाया कि स्वीकार्यता सिर्फ हकलाहट ही नहीं, बल्कि जीवन की हर चुनौती का सहजता से सामना करने का मूलमंत्र है। अगर आपने स्वीकार्यता को पूर्ण रूप से और खुलकर अपना लिया, तो आपका जीवन सुखमय बना जाता है। आप दुःख होते हुए भी दुःख का अहसास नहीं कर पाएंगे, क्योंकि स्वीकार्यता आपको दुःख का सामना करने की हिम्मत देगी। यहां स्वीकार्यता के कुछ लाभों की ओर आप सबका ध्यान आकर्षित करना चाहता हूं, जो मैं समझ पाया हूं।

A little walk in the mountains

  As the alarm rang at 6.40 am, on this cold January morning, I did not want to get up for the planned hike. Then, I tried to visualize what a wonderful experience it would be – walking up the mountain, on a beautiful sunny winter morning! How nice it will be to see the distant ranges of adjacent Himachal! And the snow on the higher ranges- gleaming like a silver line! The trick finally worked. Carried by the sharp sunny images in my head, I rolled out of the bed, got dressed and got into the taxi, which was to drive me 14 km, to the starting point.

Now, this was the sudden anticlimax...

Everything was wrapped in a thick mist outside! Visibility was poor. The mist had condensed as dew drops on the gate outside and everything else besides. Should I cancel the trek? What fun could it possibly be to walk alone in a freezing drizzling mist like that? 

The interview

Another true incident:
Hi guys!  I wanna share my experience. My technical interview started at 11 am. The interviewer was a kind man. First he asked me to introduce myself. I said my name fluently,  first time in my life I guess. Then I got stuck on my college name. The interviewer asked me are u nervous or u have some problem. Then I told him about my stammering like V.... sir told me. I told him I am a member of TISA. I am working on my stammering from 2 months. He said fine and asked me to drink water and be relaxed. Then he said to continue. Then I told everything in a prolonged way. Then he asked me about my project and some oops sql and C questions. I answered as well as explained with example. Then he said fine- I am done with interview and told me If I wanna ask some questions. I asked sir whether my stammering will be a hindrance to getting selected in the interview. He said no that's not the problem but you need to improve on it alot cz you will need to meet new persons and clients. I said ok sir I will. Then he asked some sql questions and said me.to.wait outside for result. I and my friend both thought we won't be selected. But then the representative told me that anshu you are through to the hr round. I was happy as anything. Me and my friend both went to hr round together with 2 girls. Hr was simple. We needed to speak on the essay we wrote i.e social media boom or bane. I spoke for 2 mins then he said ok and like wise all spoke for 1 to 2 min. Then hr said ok guys are you willing to relocate and join by 22 nd dec. We have 3 months training etc. Then he told us to leave and he will mail us within one week. Very lengthy message I guess equivalent to my essay ...

One more prisoner escapes..

" HAYLEY Rawlings has always tried to hide her stammer. But after attending a youth conference in Holland and meeting other sufferers in the summer, she wants to shout out loud about it. "

Read
http://www.walesonline.co.uk/lifestyle/lifestyle-opinion/how-ive-learned-live-stammer-8121141

A CONFESSION Need to be confessed......

Hi....

As some of you knew me, I am Upasana from Bangalore SHG.. I am not new to TISA Blog..I read each every Blogs post by PWS and WWS...but yes I am not a regular blog poster..

After one day the year 2013 is going to finish.... A new year 2014 will come having new hopes, new challenges, new problems, new solutions, new ups and downs...  And 2013 will remain in Past mixed of failure and success..

Acceptance and Commitment

We have received a link from Vivek (Pune). It is an interesting article. Here is the "soul" of it:
"..The fact that all participants appeared to benefit from this study's combination of treatment focused on speech management and treatment focused on acceptance of speaking differences also speaks to another important debate within the field of fluency disorders.

Out with it...UPDATED

Today i tried a new stuff with my speech.....the basis of my trial was that the biggest fear that occupies me is that i will get entrapped into a big block and will not be able to speak at all.

So, why not try it consciously??

Why not, with a stranger, I just go into a long long block intentionally and see what happens..

So, while returning from the office, i tried it with a stranger.....and i observed that even if i was pre-decided to go into a deep block and  not to complete my sentence...still I was in a hurry when i saw that guy leaving the conversation in between as i was not able to get the words out  and then unconsciously i hurried and complete the words for him to listen and he replied the answer.

So, lets see how it goes after 8-10 attempts.

I will do these 8-10 attempts by next 2-3 days and then write back here


Trial Day 1:-

Today during my return from office to room, i tried this 'forever block' trials with 2 passengers.But, they were so relaxed and committed to listen to me that I couldn't went into a forever block.Although, I also observed that somehow, I was reluctant as well to fall into a long block.I would say that if I could have tried staying at the block for some more time, it would have been better.Lets see how It goes in further trials.I have to focus on going into really long stretches of stammering and then only i can think of going into FOREVER BLOCK as my internal inertia towards blocks will melt by doing this only.

I was wrong!

When I was 18, I used to think that I will rather be dead at 50 because life of old men can be so tragic and painful!
I am 54 now, and think that I am doing fine. In fact, sometimes I feel that quality of life has never been so good: free of impulses, worries, more warmth, more creativity, spontaneous.

EXPERIENCES to Share.....

Hello to Everyone.....

I am Upasana Nayak, a WWS (Woman who Stutter). I belong to Bangalore SHG.

After completion of B.Tech, I came to Bangalore with an aim that I will find a job in MNC as a software engineer.  I started searching job with full enthusiasm but failed to get results as the way I want. Then after 2-3 months I felt that my stammering is coming the way of finding job, as I got rejected from many companies in the Group Discussion round or in self introduction round, where they check one’s communication skill. I was in the peak of my frustration, at that time I got to know about TISA and joined Bangalore SHG, which was truly a GIFT for me. And I started Loving my life. And in the month of October I got job in a telecom company. And I am Happy and trying to grab the knowledge. Now I am going to share my First Job Experience as a WWS.

Delhi SHG Report of 12th May at Central Park Rajiv Chowk

Hello everyone, :) here is the report..

 Again it was a nice SHG Meeting this Sunday at our as-usual and divine place.. Central park, Rajiv Chowk We were 9 people gathered at the meeting... Sikander sir, Sandeep sir, Mayank, Ravi, Sumit, Anita, Md. Tahir, Praveen(new comer) and me(Vishal)

 [ “The day is what you make it! So why not make it a great one ? ” ~ Steve Schulte" ]

We all met at 10 am, and the host was Sumit Vashist as we have decided everytime host will change cyclycly so that everyone will have a chance to host the meeting but frank speaking.Sumit was fabulous in his host.

According to Sumit's Agenda.. or with Sikander sir... we started a meeting with lots of new things.

Our task is following ::

1. Welcoming All PWS
2. Discuss Ground Rules.
3. Meditation for 5 minutes with a beautiful song.
4. Introduction Round.
5. Speech by Sikander sir.. towards spirituality and life-Skills
6. Presentation Round. with random Topic with a standing Mode.
7. Volountry Stuttering
8. Role Play Task.
9. Tell to every one that "you are also PWS like me and his one quality".
10. Feed Back, or sugesstion round and planning round for next SHG. 

Sumit explained about ground Rules.. which we followed willingly those were Slow rate of speech, Bouncing, pausing, breathing.

after we all finished our introduction round. then we did meditation for 5 minutes.. and after that every one gave their brief introduction but sudden we saw new comer his name is Praveen, he is working in software company the good thing is Md. Tahir introduced him in Tisa and the story behind how he met with him it was really nice.. i will explain u further but friend its really nice.. that everyone in Tisa Family spreading the awareness about this association or helping other PWS.

After that We all gave our presentation on random topic.
   
1. Sumit gave the presentation on the topic "what is the difference between read motivational thing or implement in life/how skype helping stutterers."

2. Sandeep sir gave the presentation on the topic "Attitude"

3. Anita gave the presentation on the topic "Anger"

4. Sikander sir gave the presentation on the topic "Junk Food"

5. Ravi gave the presentation on  the topic  "how should be the relationship of India-Pakistan"

6. Praveen gave the presentation on the topic "IPL Cricket Match"

7. Mayur gave the presentation on the topic "Time"

8. Tahir gave the presentation on the topic  "what he did in last two months"

9. Me(vishal) gave the presentation on the topic "Yatra(Travelling)"

then we did a ROle Play Task.. and i was happy because some of crowd in the park were seeing our Role play game
and they also were enjoying our role play.. so it was like dam effective.

For role play task we had divided in pair.

1st pair was Sandeep and Mayur (Mayur played a role of salesman and Sandeep played a role of female women)

2nd pair was Me(vishal) and Tahir (Tahir was a road police officer and i(vishal) was the driver)

3rd pair was Ravi and Praveen(Ravi was a Minister and praveen was a common people)

4th pair was Anita and Sumit(Anita is a girl who was travelling in metro train and Sumit was a boy who were fighting with her because he was making un-comfort environment in that coach.)

The beautiful task was 9th one

In which everyone told.. to each stammerer that " yaar tu bhi haklaata hai par tere me ye quality hai" it's like very cute task.. even the crowd of park were also seeing us...

ek baat to hai ki ye task humesha hona chahiye... itne quality sunne ke baad.. "Dil garden garden ho gaya bhawra bagiyan me kho gaya"

After that.. at last.. we gave a feed back to mr. Sumit and also we discussed about our next SHG.. how we can implement new task.. and to make SHG more effective and for kind information to all SHG memeber next meeting will be hosted by Md Tahir.

Thank you Everyone..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :) 

why do people laugh?

Yesterday, a young man (sensitive, well educated, regular guy) came for counselling. After some "blah blah theory" we went out for "practicals". Something happened- interesting but really painful for the young man. I hope he is reading these lines. Names are not important- we are all same- under different labels- fearful and insecure. So, friend, please read this:

Were they laughing at his stutter? The surprise approach by a stranger? Or was it just a coincidence that the moment the stuttering guy walked away, they started cracking up? It was hard to tell, but also hard to brush off as nothing.
Francek didn’t flinch. (more)

STAMMERRING: THE FEAR FACTOR

I do not remember when I started stammering as my stammering may be as old as myself. My mother told me that suffered from whooping cough when I was 7 years old and there after I developed stammering.

I could hardly speak in school, at home and in public. People called me “Thotha.”I had been a subject of public comedy and fury sometimes. Whenever someone encountered some problems from me, he would try to win me over by copying my voice.

Anil writes from Betul

आजमाले आजमाले आज खुद को आजमाले , फिरता है तू कबसे ये दिल सम्हाले||

   बोल क्यों ये लब(होंठ) पर रुके है, तेरे सजदे में झुके है,पल पल बिखरे है कितने उजाले(प्रेरणा), क्या करू क्या सोचता है,चैन दिल का ढूंढता है, अपनी किस्मत को जगा ले, बीच का पर्दा(खुद और खुद के बीच में) उठाले, आजमाले 

आजमाले आजमाले आज खुद को आजमाले , फिरता है तू कबसे ये दिल सम्हाले||

अपने गम(हकलाना एक खेल समझो) से खेलता है , दर्द कितने झेलता है, सोचता है तू कुछ और बोलता कुछ और है,

दर्द कितने झेलता है, सोचता है तू कुछ और बोलता कुछ और है, अपने दिल को तू मनाले बीच का पर्दा उठाले, आजमाले, आजमाले आजमाले आज खुद को आजमाले , फिरता है तू कबसे ये दिल सम्हाले||

कश्मकश को छोड़ दे तू, रुख हवा का मोड़ दे तू(हकलाने वाले महान काम भी कर सकते है), खाली पैमाना(सामाजिक व्यक्तित्व) है तेरा, हो सके तो भर ले इसे तू, 

कश्मकश को छोड़ दे तू, रुख हवा का मोड़ दे तू, खाली पैमाना है तेरा, हो सके तो भर ले इसे तू, 

एक नयी महफ़िल(दुनिया में एक अपनी जगह ) सजाले तू, बीच का पर्दा उठा  

ले तू, आजमाले आजमाले आज खुद को आजमाले , फिरता है तू कबसे ये दिल सम्हाले||

Pune shg 15-7-2012

Pune shg has a very great day today. Six members attended it

Amol(Myself),Vivek,Aftab,Sanjeet sir,Anup sir and Sachin sir. Out of these me,Aftab and vivek are students and rest all are doing job.

Our usual time for meeting is 10.30am.I came around 10.30 am. Later Anup sir came and after some time sanjeet sir came. Then we decided that we should start our session. We started with meditation in which we concentrated on breathing. Till 11am Vivek and Sachin sir came. Next we have an activity of slow reading. Then we have an activity of self introduction. In the mean time there came some reporters from “AAJ KA ANAND” newspaper to cover Pune SHG. They have recently started a English newspaper “LIFE 365” so they are in a process of writing article about TISA and Pune SHG in paper. They take some of our photos.

On Acceptance, from Dr Sheehan

I found this very relevant passage, from Dr Sheehan, a pws and an authority on speech therapy for pws in USA:
Acceptance of the problem belongs at the start of therapy, not at the finish. It is the role that the stutterer must accept, not the old stuttering pattern. That is what the stutterer entered therapy to eliminate! If he should be asked to accept the old pattern, then he should not have been asked to undertake therapy. To promote “acceptance” at the end of the venture to excuse clinician failure or method failure is an outrage. We need not accept what we can change—and the person who stutters can change. If he had wanted to “accept”, not for the purpose of enabling change, but in order to remain as he was when he came in, then he would not have come. When a clinician heaps blame on the stutterer at the end of therapy, then the client’s hopes have been abused.  More.

It is the role that the stutterer must accept, not the old stuttering pattern.  TISA would say the same thing like this: Accept that you stammer but dont accept poor communication. Keep working on communication skills..

There is misery and there is a way out..

Friends, I was always quite fascinated by Buddha's life and message. He talked about four noble (eternal) truths but remained silent on being questioned about "God".. This silence has been interpreted differently.

Fear Changed To FEARED

There is a girl.

She was excellent in her school life, was average in college and was just good in her engineering. Her performance and passion was decreasing day by day from school to engineering. The girl always thought that what is the reason behind this declination but she never got any conclusion.

That girl is a PWS (people who stammer).  From childhood she has this. So it wasn’t any new thing to her. In her native place all her surrounding knows the girl as PWS, so nobody ever asked or told anything about this. So the girl never concerned about this, and she was just so busy in schooling.