(Repost from IPWS Yahoo)
Dear friends,
Mr.RG,
a PWS from Abudabhi has called me on 29.12.2012 and asked some advice
about controlling stammering in a day to day life. He also informed that
the thought of stammering is always lingering in his mind and requested
the ways of overcoming it. I have given him some advices which I am
posting here for
the benefit of
others.
Yes,
before joining TISA I always used to think 90% of my time (Except
sleeping) about stammering only, is there any cure, or to suffer
lifelong, how to avoid talking situations, substitution of words, very
reluctant to talk with ladies, ordering the food in restaurants where
the name of the food coming out easily that time rather than the food of
my liking, etc...etc...etc... Which had drained my entire energy and I
was not the actual MYSELF because of stammering.
After
joining TISA, the above were all HISTORY. Now I am thinking about my
stammering not even 1% of my time. yes, in 4 years after joining TISA
this mindset came to me. My speaking has been improved by leaps and
bounds and thanks to TISA and Dr.Sachin,(who had made me the
co-ordinator of the Chennai SHG where I am the most beneficial PWS)
without their help still I would have been the same self pitying
Manimaran cursing God and others. Though I am still stammering here and
there, I am comfortable with it without feeling any guilt, fear or shame
what so ever.
Coming
to my advice given to Mr.Rajagopal, I wish to say one thing here.As
per scientific research, it has been proved that about 90-95% thoughts
of average human beings are repetitive only. Hence during our awaking
period, it is enough to do three things only rather than thinking the
same one repeatedly. 1) Concentrate on your profession (studies if you
are a student)ie enhance your professional skill
with help of books, internet and learning relevant softwares which
will defiantly offset your stammering problems. 2)play indoor or outdoor
games if possible, study self help books or any religious book for
about 1/2 an hour every day,watch useful TV shows and 3)while travelling
or no other work to do, just watch your breath thro your nose (simply
watch and do not control). After one minute the breathing become slow
and you feel calmness. Whenever we got agitated, our breathing pattern
become abnormal. Whenever our mind is calm, our breathing pattern
become slow.If this theory is applied whenever we have no other work,
our mind become calm. This is almost next to meditation.
In
this connection, someone may raise doubt without thinking, how to get
proper solutions to the problems. Yes, you are correct. I also used
to think in this way 6 months back. I started doing the above type of
meditation six months back everyday for about one hour and now I am
started harvesting the benefits. My mind is mostly calm now a days even
in tense situations. I am getting solutions to the
problems instantaneously whereas previously I have to think hours and
sometime days together to get solutions. Now I understand that calm mind
always give faster solutions.
By
following the above three principles, we can always keep our
mind engaged and left very little time to think about our stammering.I
am following the above three principles and reaping benefits every day.
WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? START FROM THIS NEW YEAR AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE!!!OFCOURSE
CHOICE IS YOURS!!! I WISH YOU EVERY ONE A VERY HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS 2013 NEW YEAR.
Regards,
Manimaran
Ed: Bhuwan thanks for reminding us about this great post at IPWS yahoo..
5 comments:
Mani Sir is not only a wonderful human being but also a super writer as well. Thank you Mani Sir and Sachin (I will no longer use Sir or Dr as prefix!!)
The post is apt to kick start the new year!
Very educative and wonderful write up Mr. Manimaran. Congratulationss. Kindly keep sharing such useful thoughts frequently.
Yes observing things(breath) as it is, certainly helps in keeping our mind calm and benefits in controlling speech problems.
Wish you all a very Happy and Stutter free New Year 2013.
Dinesh & Others: Pl do not use prefix such as Mr or Sir or Ji for me also.
Noted please.
But jasbir and others pl note also that you should put into practice what seniors have told. That way only myself and sachin will be more happier. Atleast try for a week.
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