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February 27, 2017
February 26, 2017
Ahmedabad self help Group
Shg report
Today'S report
Date :26/02/2017
So it's Sunday morning!
Weather was cool and sunny๐✨
So wait with anticipation is liked to be over.
Vastrapur lake was more beautiful as usual today.
so we were 5 members me, Vipul ,Vivek ,Harshil , Anant .
A meeting was Hosted by Harshil Damor he came with some unique agenda which we never had seen before.
So Harshil did guide us for first activity which was speaking on any Topic for 5 min but ..but... with closed eyes so moral was This activity speak anything that in your mind without seeing anyone face expression so ya that can be reduce the fear while expressing yourself to anyone.
Then second activity was something like same but with closed eyes as well as Ears so obviously it's like funny but we did for once
And we appreciate an idea and dream of Mr Vipul for opening a school for stammerers.. was really well
In final activity we did individually shared our a parrelel journey of life towards joining TISA from a bad stammerer , we shared our all efforts that we all did for manage our stammering
So A new member Anant showed up with brilliant idea to make documentary on life of stammerers so on next SHG meet we will start working on that
So finally proud to say Ahmedabad SHG is Ready for Next level
#Blessed to be a stammerer
February 24, 2017
Stammer Stories: Jaipur Comm WS: My Life with Stammering ~ Gaurav Medatwal
I am one of those peoples who stammer.
Part1: LIFE BEFORE TISA(7 TO 23)
I found myself stammering since my childhood
My parents told me that I was fluent speaker in childhood and I speak very fast but clear.
I had learnt Gayatri Mantra when I was of 1 yr. I don't have any idea about exactly when
And why I started stammering. I used to run from any situation of speaking since then.
During my school days I avoid book reading, taking part in stage acting ,debates, asking my doubts Talking to all the classmates and schoolmates as well as teachers. Although I get good
Marks but I was unable to express myself in school days, whenever I got into any fight with
Anyone they says phle bolna toh Sikh le. Had a lot of bad experience during school life. It was
Like hell living with stammering ,I was anable to even give my introduction to anyone , I don't
Found anyone stammering like me around. Although my father is homeopathy doctor he was
Unable to cure my stammering. I have visited lot of other doctors with my parents but nothing works . I have seen my mother crying worrying about my future. My cousins, neibours
School mates copy my stammering in front of me and it was very embarrassing moment for
Me. I was hopeless but living my life with stammering.. I have lot of inside me which I want to
Tell many peoples ,I wanted to speak in public express myself but I was unable. One day my father found speech therapy institute at Amer in Jaipur . They have sent me there for one month
I learn prolongation there and after one month I found myself speaking very fluent and clear. I
Got more confident more energetic enthusiast and optimistic. I thought that I won biggest bettle of my life in very early age(15). Finally I cured my stammering . I was feeling like top of world very happy and my parents were also happy. Everyone telling me that I am speaking very good
Even better and fluent then normal speaker. But after few months it started again and even wrost then before .. I don't understand what is going on with me. I followed all the rules of
Speech therapy but I started stammering again. Hell it was. . After 1 year I was at same place from where I started . Then many times I gave weeks and months to my practice keeping myself
Locked in a room . And I got cured really again and again but it was very difficult to maintain that fluency . After 1 month I pulled back to the same situation. And my whole childhood ruined in it.
Before going to college I again took speech therapy by same institute but the same story repeated itself for next 5 years.. got bad experience in college. Bunked lectures , presentations
Left debates, acting, Anchoring, avoid girls , seniors . Lived a life in which I speak publicly very little only in emergency situation. Keeping my friends ahead for giving attendance, asking my doubts and even giving my introduction( Amazingly bad it is).. this is more then hell. I feel like I am dependent on others. It takes 10 times time to asking for a ticket on ticket counter.. social sites really helped alot making myself social making friends , new girlfriends, and expressing myself. But when that girls ask for mobile number or meeting I was like shitt . Wt I gonna do now to hide my stammering. I always hide my stammering . Even i was full of sweat whenever I have to speak .. but the clock never stops time goes on..
During college placement times I assured that I got maximum marks in written exam round
to compensate my performance in interview .. and it works for me . I got job in IGI AIRPORT as electrical services engineer. But my struggle with stammering was still going on. In my job I have to make and recives many departmental calls and solve the technical issues by Automation controlling for which I was trained. I was doing my job good but talking on calls created issues for me. And I was kicked out of that job within a month. They gave reson that I stammer alot so they don't work with me anymore and promised me that they ll send on another site but this was their excuse they never called me again.. I was crying because everything got finished in my life that time. My knowledge my talents and skills abilities efforts degree all are waste without a fluent voice. Trust on God get overed. I have no courage to share this with my parents. But life goes on . I do another job of building automation engineer and in that I also have to meet clients make calls visit sites meet new people work overnites travel different cities but I was managing because I have no other option.. same time I was searching other methods to get over from this.
Part 2: LIFE WITH TISA
One day I have seen a boy speaking on stage about stammering and the banner behind him"HAKLAAO MAGAR PYAR SE" i was stunned by seeing that .. I was thinking what is that I have never seen this before a person talking on stage publicly everyone clapping for him he was stammering badly but he don't stop he was enjoying his stammering and people too.. I got his name in his introduction speech I Facebook that and found that guy. I asked him what was that where was that place then finally he gave me contact of DELHI SHG MEMBER.. and I go for my first sgh in March 2014 in Delhi central park. I had meet there many ppls with same stories and experiences and talking openly about stammering and enjoying their life . . By meeting Sikander Sir , Vishal, Amitji , Himanshu , Aashish Lakra and many other persons I feel really good . I have a wonderful experience with lot of them. One new word I hear with them was" ACCEPTANCE" .
I was totally unaware about this. Sikender sir tell me about acceptance in my 4th 5th shg meeting. Then I decided I never run from situation from now I have to face everyone and every situation courageously and get over my fear of public speaking .. then day by day I opened up myself about stammering.. I tell everyone about me in office ,clients ,meeting, metros, new friends ,on social media , new girls , to my boss , family members, copassengers .. and relise that it was U TURN for my life. I was getting over from my long years depression. I started enjoying doing this .. and till now I am working on it.. I lived in many cities in last 3 years Delhi , jaipur ,Ahmedabad, Jamnagar, Mumbai,and from last 1.5 yr in my hometown. But my way of thinking about stammering and my life is totally change. Now stammering doens't embarrassing me anymore .. I don't feel bad anymore when I don't able to give my introduction . All this I got from MY TISA JOURNEY. .
Stammer Stories: Jaipur Comm WS: Atul Singh Sainger
Hello all! I developed stammer when I was in 3rd or 4th standard. And by 6th I became fulltime stammerer. Bunking schools in oral tests, persuading friends to attend my roll call, Literally avoiding each&every situation where I have to use my speech. Became quite silent person, cause I know if I’ll speak I’ll stammer, and if’ll stammer rest of the world with their arsenal to fire their advices, cures, “Nuskha’s”, and more over their tease. I was just fed up with everyday advices like be confident, don’t get nervous, pull your tongue, stretch it (like it’s a rubber band huhh).
I grew up with advices like”muh me kalimirch rakha karo” & all that crap. By the time i passed +2 I became quite a stubborn. Since I joined TISA in august 2014, and met with Sachin Sir, my perception towards my stammering changed completely. I no longer feel as stammering is a problem for me. Its more like a part of me. I have many awsm frnds like any other random guy, I enjoy life like any other random guy and the best part is people focus on what I say cause of its content & not how I speak. Stammering also helped me improving my writing skills. Yes It may sound funny but due to my stammer only I focused very much on what to say and which word/language to use, so much so that I can now proudly say that I'm an okay okay type poet/shayar or whatever.... The point is I feel that It is because my stammering only that I am the Atul singh which u all know. If I wouldn't stammer I might have been a completely different person and might be not better than I am today. Stammering not only effects your speech, It effects your thoughts, your body language, your nature and in my case your soul too. I feel like me and my stammering are kind of made for each other. We often compete with each other , every time I have to give any presentation in my Institute. And I quite enjoy that.
Here is the Youtube link for my Video bio: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sXDgkINzWCo
February 16, 2017
Stammer Stories: Jaipur Comm WS: Sunil Kumar
Communication Workshop at Bangalore on March 4, 5 and 6 2017
As you are aware that Sachin is visiting Bangalore between March 4 to 7. Please find below agenda for communication workshop.
General
- Workshop timing will be from 9:30 AM to 5 PM on each day
- Each day 6 PM to 8 PM will be for 1-1 with Sachin, we will share the google calendar accordingly
- We all will be having dinner with Sachin on 5th at the venue itself.
- Lunch and Snacks will be at venue on each day
February 13, 2017
Acting sessions - Bengaluru SHG - 12/02/2017
Note: - The lines you find below that are within quotes are copied from a book on acting by Lee Strasberg
Attendees:
Mansi
Pramod
Nishil
Naman
Animesh
1) The session started at 8:15. Our routine exercises:
- Warm-up: Warming up your body by doing short and small exercises.
- Voice exercises:We started with the diaphragm exercises. Spoke vowels with pushing the breath from diaphragm instead of throat.
So we added two most important exercises - Relaxation and concentration
- "The purpose of the relaxation exercises is to eliminate fear, tension, and unnecessary energy, and to awaken every area of the body. When the body is relaxed, it's able to move much more easily and with much less expenditure of effort; only then can you command each area of the body to do what you want it to do" .
- For relaxation we just sat on the benches of hut. This can be done lying too but best is to sit on a chair and do it. We did this with lying on our backs on 4th Feb. However, this day we just sat comfortably on bench. Sit so comfortably that you could, if you had to, go to sleep.
- Start breathing normally. Don't move or fiddle around. Remain in control of your energy and efforts.
- The actor should be aware of every muscle in the body, so start to check each area separately by moving one specific muscle at a time.
- A tightness in the muscles may mean there is some tension
- Go inch by inch and very slowly. The purpose of the movement is to draw your attention to muscles that are tense to make sure they respond
- Four important areas that need to be relaxed
- The sides of the temples where the nerves go to the head
- Bridge of the nose leading into the eyes. Watch your eyebrow, move your eyelids, move cheek muscles
- Your mouth area, chin, tongue, jaw
- The back of the neck. Move the neck slowly. As you rotate try to feel different muscles, and relax and losen them, particularly when they are extended all the way back. The neck muscles connect to our head and that is a key area to relax
- Normally, the duration of this exercise could be 15-20 minutes.
We move to sense memory exercise. "The senses hold the key to life and experience. Sense memory exercises train the actor to utilize all five sense and to respond as fully and as vividly to imaginary objects on the stage as he's capable of doing with real objects in life."
1) To start with we chose any imaginary situation to awaken the mind and stimulate the imagination in order to make contact with sensory memory
- On 4th Feb, Pramod chose eating Omlette. Closing his eyes, he started to recreate that instance in his mind. Through that he made use of all the senses and relived it truthfully.
- Similary, Tarunidhar chose drinking coffee.
- Tarak chose shaving. His recreation was wonderful and so very convincing.
- This day, Naman chose drinking coffee.
- We did a little tougher sense memory exercise and that was to experience pain. Pramod shared an incident where he had a body ache and he was able to recreate the pain in his body.
- Naman chose an incident where he hit his head on a glass pane there by hurting it badly.
- Mansi chose her experience of thigh pain. The pain was very fresh in her memory and we could see that convincing effort from her.
Animal exercise
"The animal exercise is our basic foundation for characterizing a role physically. Using this exercise, one can talk, think, move, and feel more naturally and humanly with an inner content, rather than arriving at the character with only an external mask"
These were animals ascribed to each one:
1) Nishil: Crocodile
2) Pramod: bear
3) Mansi - Lion
4) Naman - Rat
Each one of us discussed about their assigned animal. It was interesting to hear from them what the animal is and its characteristics. However, all agreed that it can be further explored.
As a first step,
1) All of them got on their limbs and started imitating the animal they were assigned to
2) They just moved around and i added some situations which they needed to react to
As an exercise, we decided to do this every week, adding layers of characteristics every week. After 3-4 weeks, we will be the same animal but then not portraying any external attributes, rather internal. By being a human and behaving as an animal will add characteristics to our personality.
Play reading
As the last part of the meeting, we started reading the play Taramandal. Through this reading,
- got to know what an act, scene is.
- got to know what happens before starting the scene, or after sending the scene
- explored the objective and purpose of each character in the scene
- Discussed on preparing character sketches for the character that we are going to play.
As of now, plan is to perform some bits of Taramandal in front of SHG members. It could be possible on 5th March or 12th March. To be discussed and explored further.
Thank you for reading. Feel free to provide any feedback or comment on any topic.
Are you Raees or Kabil?
On a chilly winter morning, vastrapur lake was more than beautiful today. With the birds chirping and leaves shaking, we kick-started our SHG with a cup of tea and round of introduction. Five people attended the SHG today including myself, Vipul, Roshan, Anil and Vivek . Vivek Puri, one of the active participant and the co-ordinator for today’s SHG, had come fully prepared with notes. He explained about the famous ‘bouncing technique’, how to do it and what its practical benefits are. We made it a point to converse while use bouncing technique only and guess what; we did it and found it immensely useful.
The sessions started including a psychology session with the aim to find the real meaning of life which we as stammerers often forget in all our hustle-bustle around our stammer. We did self-analysis and remembered the things which we are proud of and the happiest moment of our lives. Then we discussed about what friendship means to us and how it feels to help somebody in need.
We spoke about the things which hold us back and how we can correct it. We discussed about one of our bad habits and how it has affected us. The common bad habit which I and Vipul shared was procrastination. We discussed our examples (with bouncing technique) and made it through. Then, we discussed how we would upgrade ourselves, if given the opportunity. The different aspects of life were touched upon which came out quite fruitful.
Then, a story telling session was executed where Anil initiated with a word ‘Pizza’ and we concluded the story blaming Shilpa that she didn’t have enough vegetables to invite everybody over pizza party, bizarre right? We had a great laugh. Vivek’s final session was a light one with cinema driven questions. He asked us to tell briefly about the last movie we watched and one dialogue from the movie. The top answers were Raees and Kaabil, ofcourse.
February 7, 2017
Voice workshop 05th Feb 2017, Bengaluru
The workshop was more on awareness of your voice and several exercises that free you and open up the voice.
Attendees:
Mansi
Anita
Nishil
Tarak
Subrat
Rajkumar
Tarunidhar
Tapan
Naman
Bharat
My session was organized with teachings and exercises acquired from two main sources:
1) Mr. Anmol Vellani: Anmol is an ex-president of IFA(India Foundation of Arts), one of the very renowned artists in Bengaluru. He conducts voice workshop almost twice in a year in Bengaluru. Next time it happens I shall inform all SHG members.
2) "Voice And The Actor" - Cicely Berry Obe. She is the Voice Director of the Royal Shakespeare Company and world-famous voice teacher. You can find this book in Amazon and I have downloaded it in Kindle which i referred to in the session.
The texts below are not my own and i am just reproducing whatever i have read or learned and found it to be useful after my own practice.
Little theory
"Tensions and limitations always come from a lack of trust in yourself, either you communicate over-anxiously, or you want to convince an audience."
"All unnecessary tension is wasted energy. If you do not use enough energy you fail to reach your audience, but if you use too much you disperse it using too much breath, bursting out on consonants"
"The basic feeling of fear puts all the defence mechanism into action, and the result is tension, particularly in the upper part of the body, the neck and the shoulders"
"When pushing out from the throat, you cut out all the interesting undertones of your voice. Throat is one place, you should feel no effort"
Analogy of the voice and the violin
Violin - has a bow, quality of string and their tautness, and how well the box is made determines its sound
Human voice: breath hits the vocal chords, resonating areas in the body amplifies the sound. How well the resonating areas open up, the voice is much rooted and effortless.
Remember the key is "Unnecessary tension is wasted energy"
Exercises
The warming up exercises here are:
1) for relaxation, breathing - Macro environment
2) for the increased muscularity of the lip and tongue - Micro environment
These exercises:
1) Free up your voice
2) Find more power(or more volume) with less effort
3) More flexibility and freedom in your voice
The thumb rule : Breathing in with the diaphragm expanding. Breathing out with the Diaphragm contracting. Diaphragm is an area below the rib cage and just above the stomach. You shall know a great deal below in some exercises.
The vocal exercises you learn from this blog is of no use if you don't practice this way of diaphragm breathing.
Warming up Macro environment exercises:
1) Torso Turn - Turn your torso(upper part of body) right and left with the free movement of hands when turning
2) Full body stretch - do some body stretch exercises. A few of it we did the other day. Can't mention exact detail of it.
3) Body wrap and shoulder roll - wrap your body with the hands and roll the shoulders front clockwise and then anti-clockwise.
4) Elbow pointing - point the elbow in the front, breath in and then release the elbow by breathing out
5) Wings - Just make wings out of the elbow and rotate your body
6) Drop down: We got introduced to drop down a little later, but i mention it here as part of warm -up. To do the drop down, you need to drop yourself completely down while continuing breathing with the diaphragm expanding. Feel the breath reaching to your lower back, behind the rib cage.
7) Swinging your arms from one side to another. Standing up, put your arms as high as you can to one side and swing right down, letting your head and neck go completely, and swing up to the other side. The important thing is to feel as much weight as possible when you swing down, which impels the movement up to the other side, and to let your head and neck go completely lose. Next time breathe in as you take your hands up, and as you swing down let the breath out. If possible, add the vowels to come out when breathing out.
8) Relaxation on the floor with hissing sound.
Lie on the floor on your back with your buttocks flat. Feel the back as spread as possible. Pull up your knees up a little apart, aware of them pointing to the ceiling. The should help to get your back flat. Do not push it down by tensing, however, just get it as flat as you can. Try to be aware of your back spreading over the floor. Let the shoulders too spread, the shoulder joints easing out, and not cramped in.
Wrists free
Elbows free
Neck free, and lengthening out of the back
Now put the hands on the bottom of your rib cage, where the ribs bulge most, in fact, because that is where you will find most movement.
Breathe in through the nose, feeling, feeling the ribs opening out along the floor at the back. Sigh out through an open mouth and throat, pushing all the air out of the lungs, down to the last bit. Repeat this a few times (5 times lets say).
Now do these along with this exercise:
- When taking out the breath, make a hissing sound. Hissssssss. Its like air leak. This ensures that you feel the breath is coming out and diaphragm contracting. Do this for 5 times.
- When taking out the breath, read a poem and again experience the belly breathing technique.
9) Finding firm, unforced tone by throwing vowels. Make a circle with the people. Now have a ball and hold it. Now you are going to throw this ball to someone else. As you release the ball, you should release sound by signing a vowel. Lets say "AY" or "OO", "EE" etc. This exercise makes your voice firm and clear. Infact, it is not that you need to do this exercise with group of people, imagine a ball and perform the action of throwing it.
Warming-up Micro environment exercises
The micro environment deals with your face muscles.
1) Lips: A) RUB B) TRILL
2) Tongue and mouth - rotate tongue inside
3) Face muscles and bones:
- Roll cheek bones
- Extend Jaw
- Look at ceiling and bite an apple
5) Pushing Adam's Apple down:
To introduce Adam apple, we first uttered the words "ge" , "ge" , "ge"... when we do this you can notice a small cartilage just bulging out of our neck and moving slight up and down movement. When the Adam's apple is moving down, you can also observe the soft palate, area above in the mouth cavity which our tongue touches to utter some consonants like "n", "t", "l", etc., is also released. So the point is that the throat feels more open and mouth cavity gets more breath to pass, contributing to a richer sound.
This needs practice and cannot be observed in one day, However, everyone can easily get to this state. Now, with the Adam's apple down, you utter the words out of the poem or sing a song. Do you see any difference?
6) Releasing soft palate: A) voiceless yawn B) Swallow c) "KUH-GUH'; "NGUH-GUH' sound
7) Relax the larynx: Silent giggle
Experience the soft palate
Try gegege - with the palate and the tongue tensed at the back.
gegege - with the palate and tongue dropped
Hear the difference in sound:
gegege - tense
gegege - relaxed
AH - dropped and open
Utilizing the exercises
Now keeping in mind the exercises that we did, here is a practice on some words. Stand upright, ensure breathing from the diaphragm, push adam's apple down and then repeat the words below in each row.
HOE | | OH
HIGH | | EYE
HEAT | | EAT
HILL | | ILL
HIS | | IS
HAT | | AT
HEEL | | EEL
HAD | | ADD
HAIL | | AIL
HEART | | ART
HARM | | ARM
HANDY | | ANDY
HEDGE | | EDGE
HEAR | | EAR
You can recite any poem as well.
Resonators
As explained above, our body has several resonator points. The chest, the nasal cavity, oral cavity, head. Only when all of these are active you can feel the richness of your voice. To experience the resonators, try Kazoo buzz. "The kazoo is a musical instrument that adds a "buzzing" timbral quality to a player's voice when the player vocalizes into it" - Source: Wikipedia. To understand how its done, here you go:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJY2rHdXM0k
Consonants and Vowels:
"This exercise gives awareness of movement of the jaw, the lips and tongue, and the soft palate, which are the muscles we use to make vowels and consonants. Whatever the text, the actor has to find the specific measure of the words he is using and relay with clarity and accuracy in whatever space he/she is in, so that they can be heard without strain. "
"A consonant is a sound in which the passage of air or sound is stopped or partially stopped by either the lips or parts of the tongue. For some consonants, the soft palate is involved and position of the jaw is always important."
"A vowel is different in that it always has a free passage of sound through the mouth. It does also include the correct placement of tongue, lips, freedom of jaw and the mobility of soft palate"
Try speaking these, using whatever you have learned above:
La lah lah lah
lala lala lala lala
lalalala lalalala lalalala lalala
The rhythm should be precise and the movement accurate with the tongue-tip going right down each time.
Now similarly, a different sound using tongue and tip differently,
tah tah tah tah
tetete tetete tetete tah
dedede dedede dedede dah
nenene nenene nenene nah
Now back of tongue
kekeke kekeke kekeke gegege kah gah
Now lips,
pepepe pepepe pepepe pah
bebebe bebebe bebebe bah
mememe mememe mememe mah
Now, in the below exercise, press the tongue and lip muscles hard so you become aware of them.
AH OO
AH AW OO
AH AW OO OW
MAH MAW MOO MOW
BAH BAW BOO BOW
Feel the front of the tongue arching upwards.
EAR AIR
LEAR LAIR
TEAR TAIR
DEAR DAIR
NEAR NAIR
In the workshop, we didn't do all the exercises above but i choose a few and with variations. Here, you will see a more detailed explanation. All of it is in Cecile Berry book,
Concluding the workshop
We concluded this workshop by singing the song "hum honge kamyab" and starting with a low volume and then making it go high but without putting much effort on our throat. I am not sure if everyone could do because this has to be in your subconscious mind. All of us have been ingrained with lots of habits since our childhood and one of which is pushing voice from the throat. To change this, you need to put efforts consciously everyday so that it becomes part of our subconscious.
My two cents
1) For those who couldn't attend, i understand reading this blog may not make you understand all the exercises. I am willing to conduct another session next month if i have people interested. I am ok to do this with even 1 person if he/she is interested.
2) "Apna Hath Jagannath" Chapter 6 of this book is key. Every exercise starts from that, so don't miss this chapter.
3) Without a daily disciplined practice, don't expect any changes. If you practice some exercises for only 15 mins daily and for a month or two, you will start seeing some nice improvements.
4) Here are some exercises you can definitely do at home:
a) The hiss sound while lying down
b) Stand and keep your hands on diaphragm to observe its movement
c) Release your soft palate, push adam's apple down without tensing it.
d) Read newspaper everyday this way
That's all. Thanks for reading. I am open for any feedback or comments you have. Please direct to me in email or a personal message on my phone.
Thanks. Wish you good luck.
February 6, 2017
A Small Beginning in Kerala!
February 5, 2017
Ahmedabad SHG Meeting Report of 05th Feb 2017
February 1, 2017
Exploring the voice - workshop on 5th and 6th Feb
It will happen over the coming weekend. I have divided the two days in a way that on Saturday, i will mostly cover voice modulation and Sunday will be the main day on understanding voice.
Saturday 5th Feb (9 AM - 12 PM), @small hut, Cubbon park:1) Acting exercises
Sunday 6th Feb(10 AM - 2 PM(max)) @small hut, Cubbon park:
1) Understanding voice and body as the apparatus
2) Exercises:
Macro - ribs, back widening
Micro - lips, tongue
3) Using soft palate, pushing adam's apple down
4) Lying on the floor exercise
5) Drop down and other similar exercises
6) Understanding Resonance and resonators in our body.