Ka mate

Ka mate, ka mate! ka ora! ka ora!

Ka mate! ka mate! ka ora! ka ora!

Tēnei te tangata pūhuruhuru

Nāna nei i tiki mai whakawhiti te rā

Ā, upane! ka upane!

Ā, upane, ka upane, whiti te ra!

(Translation)

I may die! I may die! I may live! I may live!

I may die! I may die! I may live! I may live!

This is the hairy man

Who brought the sun and caused it to shine

A step upward, another step upward!

A step upward, another... the Sun shines!

This is the Maori haka, A challenge thrown to the Opponents and a show of courage before war, made famous by the All Blacks, New zealand rugby team.  The spirit of haka is the greatest lesson ive had from New Zealand.

Sometimes when the pressure increases in Life because of my speech impediment, i mumble the haka !!

The Haka is featured in the first scene of this motivational video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V6xLYt265ZM

Blog:  http://isstutter.blogpot.com
Skype ID :  shorninskype

Life of a covert stammer

My name is uuu Umesh Rawat and I am a covert stammerer. A covert stammer is who can hide his stammer very well by easy replacing words and by with some other techniques(coughing, i just forgot hmmm..) . But at sometime, all of his techniques failed and he caught red handed. And this is most embarrassing movement for him. Since childhood, I also hide my stammering from everyone as possible I can do. Even my family members don’t know about this (as I think, except my mom). But sometime when I stuck badly in some situations, I found myself helpless. I shocked badly like as by electric current and my memory erased. I don’t realize where I am standing and on what content I was talking? This was my previous life around one year ago. I seemed happy to people and they thought I am a good listener with shy personality. There was big difference in my inner and outer thoughts. I was completely a different person in my inner. I always fight with my own words. This word is right, this is wrong. There was never a peace inside myself. I always tried not to stutter at any cost. Being "covert" is

• Having excessive fear of being perceived by others to have a difference in the way they speak
• Constantly fearing their "stuttering secret" being uncovered
• Feeling guilty for making the listener feel uncomfortable because of their stuttering
• Denying stuttering or the need to work on it
• Feeling shame, devaluating oneself, or fostering the need to hide stuttering

After attending few TISA workshops, I feel deep changes in my inner and few in outer. 

•  Now I can talk on stammering to anyone  freely. I enjoy talking on stammering although fluents doesn’t want to talk more on it. 
• I dosn’t feel so much fear or shame after blockages (although there is more work to do).
• I reduced switching words in fearing situations. 
• And most important which I got, the inner struggle with words goes down and a peace in inside.                                     

                        Although many friends of mine tell me that you start to stammer more after attending workshop. How I tell them that my inner struggle goes down which reflects in my outer. Sometime I stutter more and what others can do in it?? I have born to stutter; sometimes I win, sometimes my stutter. Just a matter of time.

First Time in My Life......

Hey..! Everyone..
How are all of you.?
 I am Doing different practices to improve my fluency and increase my Confidence level. few months and years ago, when i was in my classroom and teacher asked me a question or take attendance, i felt much fear and almost i lost my senses. i disturbed too much at that time. But A few weeks ago, i m doing practices to increase my confidence level, and improve my fluency. And of course i got much confidence, but not much fluency.
           Few days ago, when i was in my academy. I was in the class of English. I wanted to say a thing to teacher, But i couldn't. I tried 2-3 times to say but it didn't work. After the class over, teacher called me to come outside the class, He advised me to speak without any hesitation and etc....
          In the night, i thought about this thing. I felt that i can speak without any hesitation. What will happen if i stutter on few word, let people think what they want to be. With this i got with confidence, as always i do :).
          After few days, when i was in class of same teacher, he asked to me did you read this paragraph. I was waiting this moment for many days. I obviously said "yes Sir". In front of many Girls and boys, I read the paragraph. As it was my first experience, so i did much stammering. Many blocks came in my speech. But i did it without any fear, and with a little simile on my face.
         That day was very good for me. I was very happy. I was feeling like i got a big achievement.:)
I wanted to share my this experience to all of you. So i did.:)  Now i wanted to get fluency in my speech so to do this i speak in front of Mirror with different accents, with this i record all this and after that i listen it.
         At the end i say thanks to all of you my brothers.. A very special thanks to Sir. Sachin and Aehsan Hafeez Brother, Who inspired my much, and showed my the way.

Thank You,
Regards
Zeshan Ahmed
(Pakistan)

Happy Independence Day!

Two news items for you, as you sip your morning coffee:
First highlights the role of conquering your fear, instead of chasing "cure" or "fluency", in a group setting (like Communication workshops run by TISA, from time to time):
http://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/wales-news/2011/10/29/how-stammer-sufferer-took-inspiration-from-the-king-s-speech-to-find-his-true-voice-91466-29684616/

Second is about the deeper need to CONNECT with other pws, EVEN when stammering is no more an issue for you and you have become successful in life ("you have arrived!"):
http://www.stuff.co.nz/auckland/local-news/north-shore-times/5868124/Bonding-with-a-former-All-Black

People are coming out of their comfort zone in so many creative ways. Are we going to locked up, inside, for ever and ever? Happy Independence day! which is every and any day, you decide to take one little step..

Reflections..

"..A small reflection on stammering... recently I have been practicing more deep breathing and for longer periods along with concentrating on different centers at the same time(agya chakra and also the tip of my nose). Similar to the information I remember reading in the Valsalva (sp?) technique book X lent me, it seems to be a real aid not only for my sadhana, but also for my speech. I never realized so directly have anxious and uneven my breathing was or how my hypersensitiveness so often left me feeling jittery and emotionally drained. The more I consciously practice a few different of these breathing techniques throughout the day, the more that trapped energy gets redistributed and does not build up or become stuck, which seems to have a direct effect of the frequency of my potential to stutter. I also feel more self confidence.

Not sure how much you have experientially tested the effectiveness of breathing exercises for stammering. The probelm is, from my perspective, that people have little or no capacity for perseverance with ANYTHING, and just jump from one technique to another, sort of like with spirituality or different Gurus, and they never get very far. So who would have the time, dedication, and faith to practice any technique for the duration required to see some real change?

We are so fickle. I still almost daily use EFT. You?.."

- Received from Anugrah, a friend

DEHRADUN SHG ACTIVITIES ON 30,10,11

NEXT DEHRADUN SHG ACTIVITIES IS ON 30/10/11 AT ISBT FROM 10 AM ONWARDS......

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Black and White

23rd Oct. Comm WS, Delhi.
Theory at ISI. Practicals at Palika Bazar. Eve of Deepawali. Heaven of Bargainers and quick deals. Abhishek and myself were also their for a quick bounce. Yes, we were checking out if we could practice acceptance in real life, say that we stammer and introduce ourselves with bouncing technique. All that we had to do was just say one line: I am s-s-s-sachin. All that the listener had to do was to listen and carry on. That's all. The whole interaction could take just about two minutes. The exercise went very well and in the bargain we discovered many shades of life. Of course we had our fair share of difficulties in the beginning.

Stuttering mindset

Thanks to listening to Eckhart Tolle and my recent practice of mindfulness, I have been able to see some patterns of thinking, behaving, feeling and acting in myself and people around me, some of which make me laugh due to their sheer madness.

Living in your head/Paralysis by Analysis: Recently I had to go to Delhi for two day workshop and since I am going through a tight financial condition, I couldn't afford the usual Shatabadi that I am used to; There was this constant thought about canceling my visit due to a lot of seemingly convincing reasons:- the most important thing right now is to look for a job, workshop is not a priority and et al.

But thankfully I can now observe my thoughts; even though finding a job is most important, I can very easily spare two days (that too weekend) for the workshop as they have always helped me grow as a human being and have helped me develop my social skills! So I got some money from my father and booked sleeper class ticket to Delhi! And believe me, even though I was a bit apprehensive about traveling in Sleeper class but I found out that I can adjust and adapt to situations and conditions as they appear And the Result : TWO FUN FILLED DAYS AT DELHI :-)

So all those people who are just thinking of NOT GOING TO NC as the air fares are high and trains take two days, and stuff; Decide what you want to do and then take a leap of faith. If you don't have money, travel in sleeper or general class and I can guarantee that you will make it to Bhubnaeswar. If hotel seems very expensive, TRY to find other economical accommodation. So look at your thoughts from a distance and see if you really want to follow that thought or want something else ?
DO you really want to miss 5 days of fun and a chance to be yourself ?
And yes, some of us would have to miss it. As from my experience, we don't change until it is ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY and then comes a time when the pain becomes so unbearable that you just want to brake free and WILL go to any lengths to make that change possible, no matter what may be the cost! Unfortunately for some of us that time may not have come.

Scholarships for NC

Dear coordinators and members,

TISA has some spare funds from our coomunication workshops in Pune, Chandigarh and Delhi, which we intend to use to pay the registration fees for students and unemployed individuals. Also we have subsidized accommodation @ Rs 100 per day per person for around 8 - 10 people. Please pass on this information so that such individuals can be helped. If you find someone who is not able to attend the NC due to lack of money, please contact us at info@stammer.in

regards,
JP
___________
Contribution from Chennai Chapter for NC:

1. Mr.Chitti Babu - Rs.2,000/-

2. Mr.Francin - Rs.3,000/-

3. Mr.Hassanand - Rs.5,000/-

4. Mr.Manimaran - Rs.10,000/-

5. Vishal Dadha - Rs.5,000/-

MY EXPERIENCE IN DELHI WORKSHOP AND DELHI SHG

* first i salute tisa who provide a beautiful plateform for pws to devlope overall personality, work on their fear   situation and experiment with stammering and its  techanique.
* thanks a lot to dr. sachin and jp sir and all shg co-oridnator who has maitained this great community and its friutful thoughts and its purity.
* thanks a lot to sikander sir , pramendra , umesh, lalit sir and pinakin to displaying their creativity , sharing your ideas,  proper guidance and motivation on each step and taking  responsibility to make this successful event.
* i am very grateful to mr. nitin tomer, mr. pawaj anand, mr. deepak santora, mr. anuj, mr anoop, mr. gaurav and all delhi shg old member to estblaish delhi shg and joining more pws.
* i am obliged those new pws who particapate in delhi workshop and spend their precious time sharing their heart touching experience.

MY EXPERIENCE
*if we do a good work for social. then people will become happy and always appreciate, this is not a big issue that i am stammer. stammering is a  part of our life. it will be better that not only focused on their stammering but also focused on overall personality.for ex ( agar 5 cm ki koi line hai aur ise choti karni hai to simply isase ek badi line draw kar de. kahne ka matlab sirf itna hai ki haklane ko hum man le ki ye life ka ek part hai aur apne apko aur activity me involve kare taki hamari personality, management skill, hamara knowledge increase ho sake to stammering ek bahut bada issue nhi rah jayaga aur ye shg meeting and aur workshop organise karke devlope kiya ja sakta hai).
*how work has been done with a team it is not easy but always interesting. we know that during communicaton  90 % part is listening . so working on our listening skill shg and workshop is a good place.
*there is a big role of shg and workshop to make our acceptance so strong on this particular moment and to do experiment with real life situation and stammering techanique.

few lines for pws......

HAR KASTI KA TAJURBA HOTA HAI DARIA ME (stammering is different please don't compare between good or bad)
SAFAR ME HAR BAR MAJDAR HO AISA NHI HOTA(Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.)

JO HO EK BAR WO HAR BAR HO AISA NHI HOTA( ye koi jaruri nhi hai ki jo apke past ka bad experience  ho wo future me bhi repeat ho)
KISI KO TO HOGI KAHI PAR APNA BHI INTJAR ( failure se darne ki jarurat nhi hai ho sakta god ne usase acchi chese bana ke rakhi ho jo sirf aur sirf apni ho because  Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm )
HAR BAR HO APNI HAR AISA NHI HOTA
SIKHA DETI HAI CHALNA THOKARE RAHGIRO KO
KOI RASTA SADA DUSWAR HO AISA NHI HOTA(so we must apply  more and more experiment in real life situation with the help of bouncing , voluttering stuttering and other techanique)
thanks..............

registration and expense in delhi workshop

REGISTRATION
1. anuj (one day)         500
2. pramendra            1000
3.pinakin                   1000
4.abhishek                 1000
5. anoopinder             1000
6. umesh                     1000
7. rakesh                    1000
8. mr. sikander           1000
9. mr. anoop              1000
10. mr. nitin ahuja       1000
11.mr. rahul                1000
12. mr. harshdeep       1000
13. mr. lalit                 1000
14. mr. kuldeep          1000
15. dr. ksitij                1000
 16. rahul(one day)    +  500
                            ------------
                           15000 rs

NOTE-> mr. nitin tomer, mr. gaurav trivedi aur mr. ashish agrwall ka registration mr. nitin tomer ke pas hai.

EXPENSE
1. confrance room (two days)        4853
2.lunch ( two days)                        3375
3. 3 extra thali                                  253
4. printout                                        311
5.banner                                          250
6. visiting card                                  100
7. 22 oct ( dinner)                          1090
8. 22 , 23 oct (metro)                       180
9. room gurudwara (22, 23)         2000
10. 22 oct (tea)                                108
11.Bus Travel to 1 Resource person +  400
                                                    -----------              
                                                       12920
 
remaining amount = 15000-12920= 2080 rs


NOTE->>>> 2080 rs mai nitin sir ke account me transfer kar dunga...... thanks..

Snaps : 
New Delhi Workshop 
Date 22 Oct - 23 Oct 
Venue : Indian Social Institute 
Enjoy !! 
PS: Please Add few more images & video :)

Life is a roller coaster

Well, it’s been a long while since I have posted something. I have been catching up on TISA news. The NC has been on a roll. I am glad that it has reached a national level and it is huge win for all us. Moreover a huge thanks for all those involved in making the NC possible. You all are doing a fabulous job. Keep it up!

A personal loss and a new job (first job as a teacher) were some of the reasons that I was off the grid for so long. It has been one roller coaster year for me. Let me go back a few months. I lost my mother in February and after that my stuttering did become a little severe. Since childhood it has been hard to share feelings and my inability to share the loss for some time did bring on the stuttering again. But I thank my friends and a few special people who really were my pillar of strength during those days of grief.

My first interview at the school where I am working was fine. I stuttered a bit during the demo and wondered if I will get the job. Thankfully I did get it and I am still at it. While teaching I do get those moments when I am ‘stuck’ or searching for words. Many times it has happened that my students provide the fillers and I send a silent thank you to them. I have realized that the fluency that I had last year is missing this year but I have not lost hope. I am still working towards it.

From B’Ed training to actual teaching has been an eye opener. I am in a school that propagates inclusive education and I have come across students who do stutter. I encourage them to speak in class, read. I realized that it also very important to sensitize other students about the ones who stutter. It is about creating an atmosphere of general respect in the classroom for each other. It is personally rewarding when a shy student starts interacting in class and does not need prodding from me to raise his/her hands to answer. There have been times when I wondered if I am in the right profession due to the huge amount of stress and lack of time for myself. But the students’ progress, their bright faces, their enthusiasm reinforces my belief that I can make a difference and I am in the right job. So, this was the quick recap of my life for the last 5-6 months. I will surely try my best to keep posting on a regular basis.

I would like to end with a line by Robert Frost- “But I have promises to keep, and miles to go before I sleep”

Regards,

Mugdha Benjamin

Delhi workshop 22 October 1st day

Tisa's Delhi workshop held on 22 October on ISAD(International stuttering awareness day). There were nineteen members who attend it on first day. Dr. Sachin, J.P sunda, Dr. khisitz, Sikander, Anupinder singh, Rakesh, Ashish, Nitin tomer, Nitin Ahuja, Rahul chauhan, Parmendra, Umesh, Harshveer, Pinakin, Abhishek, Kuldeep, Gaurav, Lalit, Balbir. We enjoyed the workshop a lot and made people aware all around the Delhi. So I was very tired when sat to write this blog. So I will describe the events  today only in brief but I promise to write a long thesis on this Delhi workshop after few days.
These are the following activities we all do and i enjoyed every minute of it.
1. Introduction + Family jock-
   Each one had to share his funny incident with stammering or a rumor of family. Ummm.. I enjoyed the family Jock by Parmendra most. Magufali bechoge :-)

2. Chinese whisper play-
    Sikander sir introduced all of us with his this new play. It was very enjoyable part. We learned from it that how people changes the thoughts and key-points when transfer thoughts from one to another. By the way my team B, won this interesting play.

3. Calling to unknowns and video-making-
     Each one had to call to unknown pws and marketing for National conference. We did this in groups. One member made video of that person who was making call. It was basically to know our stammer and how emotions changes when we are in pressure.

4. Video analyzing with feedback-
   Video played at front of all members and tried to find  what we did wrong at time of stammer. Also each one was feed backed by our coordinators. We all enjoyed videos of others but feeling something nervous when  played own.

5. Went out and shouting slogans-
     We wore t-shirts of slogans like "Haklao magar pyar se" and shouting the slogens in delhi streets without any shame and fear. Thanks to Dr. kshitiz who made this task so each for us.

6. Stuttering on India gate-
    At last we went to India gate and start our stuttering interview there. Lot of people we talked there. aware them. and enjoyed a lot there.
 this is only brief description of first day. Pictures and detalis summery post in few day. perhaps after dewali.
 Dont miss the 2nd day's updates which is coming soon. So stay connected......
    

Next Communication Workshop

Updated new brochure :
1. English: //www.scribd.com/doc/68717112/TISA-delhi-workshop
2. Hindi: http://www.scribd.com/doc/68737074/TISA-delhi-workshop-hindi
3. "NEW DELHI METRO ROUTE" http://www.scribd.com/doc/69388465/New-Delhi-Metro-Map

NOTE - finally venue has decided "INDIAN SOCIAL INSTITUTE" 10, institutional area, lodi road, new delhi-110003.(beside sai mandir or near jawahar lal nehru metro station {central sceteriat ; badarpur (violet line)} ) ph no- 011, 49534000 , 49534180.

DEADLINE-> the last date of submitting registration fees is 16/10/2011.

WORKSHOP AGENDA - http://www.scribd.com/doc/67701335/Workshop-Agenda

Dear all,

Tisa is happy to announce its next communication workshop for people who stammer in DELHI. tentative dates are (22,23 october 2011).

A long journey

Recovery from stuttering mindset is a long - long journey. Why this is so? Why cant 10 sessions with a therpaist or a two week course help? Because underlying beliefs and values take a lot of time to change. For example, you may read somewhere: "Stammering is cool". You may intellectually understand it but it will take some of us months to understand what is really cool about stammering! Having understood it, then- going out and ACTING it out will take some more time! This is why one needs to have the mindset of an 18th century explorer, like Marco Polo or Dr Lingstone or Fahyan: "I am a traveler- on a long long journey. I will explore many things about myself. I will not be in a big hurry to reach point X and return home promptly. I will enjoy every moment of challenges and discovery along the way.."

But there are milestones, which let you know that you ARE progressing- not standing still or treading a mill. One such important milestone is: when you are able to talk about stammering- comfortably, with spontaneity, while facing a camera! Listen to Kundan, a young engineering student talking about his journey and what helped him forward, how he dealt with his biggest fears, his victories and debacles.. Young students will easily relate to him, as he talks about his battles during roll call.. and the solution he came up with! TISA encourages other pws too, to share their stories with us, in any format. This can be therapeutic, totally safe and free. And COOL!

Can one day workshop help?

Stammering is a field rife with claims, counter-claims, guess, fMRI, genetic studies,  superstitions, old wives remedies etc. etc. You might see ads like "Cure stammering under nine minutes" and you will also find people supporting such initiatives! This makes a new entrant very skeptical, suspicious, doubtful and even cynical at times. What works? what does not work? What was simply a spontaneous recovery (as it happens in childhood)? What is well controlled stammering, but promoted as "cure"? etc.
A healthy dose of suspicion is necessary because commercial interests have further complicated this lack of authentic and "FINAL" information & confusion. So, TISA often asks people: what has worked for you? We posed the same question to Kundan, who attended one day workshop at Chandigarh and met sachin for counseling only thrice over a period of 9 months. Kundan thinks that one day workshop helped him a lot by changing his perception (about his own stuttering, its severity) and his ATTITUDE (about the place of stammering in his life).

Experiments with my Stammer!!!

Hello guys!!! i'm writing in the blog after a long time. Actually, i'm doing experiments with my stammer these days.i have given up using speech tools to modify the blocks.i was feeling pressurized 24*7 when using speech techniques. i was using these tools effectively in easy conditions but in feared situations, i failed to do so.That increases my frustration level up. i decided not to work on physical stammer but on mental stammer .also i came across a sheehan quote "speech techniques are act to avoid your stammer".so,i'm not using speech techniques other than proper breathing. i'm observing my stammer these days. "OBSERVATION CHANGES THINGS".This idea came me from Ruth mead book "speech is a river". so, i have decided to go for "Cognitive Behaviour Therapy " approach.i'm no longer working for modification of speech blocks.i'm understanding my thoughts, feelings, physiological and behavioural responses linked with my stammer. for this,i have started diary writing.i have heard a lot about the benefits of diary writing in recovery from any emotional pain. i can now feel the change in myself. i'm now able to organize my frustrated thoughts and calm outlook on life. In every night,i have something to record, a milestone reached, a struggle battled. i'm doing this from past month. Believe me, my mental struggle is much less now. i'm focusing more on my avoidances or substitutions or crutches i make because with ever avoidance or substitution i make, i'm reinforcing the mind thought that "stammering is a bad thing. i have to avoid this at any cost". now ,whenever i feel bad about something , i wrote it down in diary or share the same with my stammering buddies via facebook. it's indeed very liberating. also,i''m going to start my youtube channel soon.Sorry for my bad english. i'm working on it. Regards

Fair exchange?

Exchange is fair? Always? Perhaps not.
For example look at this:
"I give you 2 kilo Acceptance, you give me five meter fluency."
"I told about it in the interview.  I should get appointment letter now." etc. etc.
Sounds familiar. We all have done this kind of saudebazi consciously or very often, unconsciously- with everyone, colleagues, green grocer, family members and even God!
In this video a bindas young engineering student shares his insights on this issue:

operated disfluency

Thing which i dislike most is dis-fluency ,i dont want to dis-fluent, not even in single word in a year.i feel lot of pain whenever i become dis-fluent either in fort of people or alone .

suddenly question arises in my mind why dis-fluency giving me so pain and what factor working behind it ,alone dis-fluency is not so powerful which can ruin my life. after a deep thought and revising my past life i came to know that... I am getting pain because of two label which i attached with dis-fluency, they are

1>feeling to intense inferiority complex while/after stammering and

2>my listener will think how pathetic i am (i hate to be pathetic)

so i realize basic problem is attaching wrong label with dis-fluency.............but same time it is very difficult to remove these labels and still working on it(soon post result of this work)...

fortunately i got one pdf file in our yahoogroup (Mind-To-Muscle Pattern) which can help to remove these labels..............Mind-To-Muscle Pattern is 5 page file and one can complete this in 20 min(contain flow chat ect)

Laughter, the best technique

"Laugh slowly, carefully and consciously- ha....ha....ha....
Not like Ravan in Ramleela, all at one go. No no. Laugh in a medium lengthening style.. like this: ha----haa----ha------ha-----ha...
It is more like the laughter of Hanuman ji, when Ravan set fire to his tail. Remember?  Ha......hah..........ha...........hah............ha............
Or to give you a more contemporary example: laugh like Anna, when PC requested him to come out of Tihar..

If you practice it for 8 months to an year, you will be cured. Check it out.
In this video, a young Engineering student, and a topper too, is doing just that..
Oh, BTW, dont forget to read the description of this youtube video, for more insights in to this laughter technique.."

(NB: no offense meant to anyone. This is just a fun piece at our own cost..)

Words are always beautiful!

Sometime I think why some words are so ugly that they can’t even pronounced properly. I hated some words because they are terrible to speak. But some time I liked them when they came fluently but..why ?? Words are words! They always same. Words are always beautiful. I am an covert stammer(still I m) and hated to disfluency. I not only hate of mine disfluency but also of others; who stutters in front of mine. Is it is so bad that we should hate it? Who says it is bad? Only stammers people of my own type say this; because for us, speech is only a worthy thing in this world. When I start to work on acceptance, sharing my problem with others. Believe me! I didn’t get a single one who says it is bad. Everyone made by god is unique. Everyone given some sort of problem by birth. Good people never respond negative; if they it means they want to hide their own problem.

                   I want to share my experience with words. I mostly get block on words that start with vowel sounds. Few days back; I went to the stationary book store. I wanted to buy an “Envelop” from the shop. I opened my mouth; try to speak out the word but word stuck somewhere in throat. Then I remembered the technique like bouncing or something else. But what the hell was happening with me. I could not even speak with them. At last I have to replace my word Envelop to Lifafa. I got depressed. I know all the techniques but still can’t implement them in real life. What I am learning? But after talking to my motivators; I got my answer. I want to implement any technique at time of difficulty. But I don’t have much experience to use these techniques in lighter mode. Then how it can be possible?? I hated words with vowel sounds. Sometime thinks if these vowels are kicked out of dictionary then it will be perfect! But words are words, they remain always same. They always beautiful. Only our mind categorized them according to situation. Learning to deal with this complex,critical mind is needed One thing I have to learn, I will have to love the disfluency of mine and of others.  Words From deep of my heart.

Stuttering: A disability or Not ?

Check out http://xfinity.comcast.net/articles/news-general/20111016/US.Immigrant_s.Appeal.Stutterer/?cid=hero_media and decide for yourself whether its a disability for some of us or not ? Comments are welcome!

its been i don't know how many days i could not meet you all wonderful guys! You all are my motivation,inspiration always there with me trough my painfull days.but i was not here due to some reason. Today and yesterday harish had called me twice but alas i could not received it. Sorry harish,u know u r always close to my heart always with me no matter how far we are though we live so near!
I always see hear from you guys. What a wonderfull things you all are doing!
jp,sachin sir always there to call help to assist us and always remind us that we are not alone!
But some how i missed you all.
Don't assume,i'm not here with you guys.
Only i could nt get time to be with you.
Tisa has been great motivator for me and no doubt all the pws who wanted to be happy.
Love you people...

DELHI SHG MEETING 16 OCTOBER 2011

 

 

 

delhi shg members from left(Anup, Umesh, Parmendra, Pinakin, Sikander, Abhishek)

 

Delhi shg meeting on 16 october was attended by six members at central park delhi. This time I got a chance to interact with a new member, named Mr. Anup(a software engineer in Noida). Actually he was old member of delhi shg but now attending after a long gap. I watched his speech carefully and surprise to see that a pws can control his stammering to this extent. Anup talked almost fluently like a non-stutter. Parmendra coordinated the group by his new and surprise package. After formal introduction round, we did a new activity, that is group Discussion and Debate. Most of us were non-experienced of this activity. We took a topic “Does God exist or not?” Lots of non-ending discussion made on this topic. Some new facts and knowledge every pws got by it. Next new activity was “facing mock interviews”. Everyone had to give his dream job interview to the five members HR panel. This was the most difficult and challenging activity for us and interview is a thing which also scared the perfect fluent people. I stuttered a lot during this interview and sometime I found myself out of answers. I scared that what will happen if these interviewers are not my friend?? But my friends pat on my back that encouraged me. I think it will be a fresh experience and eye opening activity for all the PWS. Younger PWS got advised with few tips by the senior members who already working.

            At last we did a fun activity of cracking jocks to refresh our moods. We laughed to gather and enjoyed jocks by stuttering mouths. This time we enjoyed our meeting more than previous one. Thanks to Mr. Parmendra to make this meeting a memorable for us. I also thanks to all other members who share their valuable time. We missed Lalit and Gaurav trivedi.