November 6, 2011

The Perfect Interview

Hello to all my busy stutter friends  :-). Today I want to share my experience of two days ago. Our college went to a campus placement in Chandigarh. Most of the students of my class did not prefer to go there because it was a tough competition and other colleges were also participating. Perhaps facing interview and many other things there, made students to foot back. I don’t understand this thing, why fluent people feared with these things (I think if I was fluent then I would never missed these opportunities :-). But I accepted this challenge; I think why I am letting myself back due to my stammering. I will perform good or bad but at-least I will get a chance to face fear and challenge. I went there with my few friends; with a mind that I am not going to get a job but for enjoying the interview and enjoying the challenge. Around 1400 students there and I were in those lucky 600 who cleared the written test. I was not so much happy and surprise because it was not a challenge that I was waiting for. Technical interview started of all students one by one. Sometimes I feared by thinking that it may be horrible; but every-time when this thought came to my mind, I overlap this thought by this- ”I am not here to get the job, I come here to just enjoy the feared things”. This thought relaxed me a lot and all my fear started to melt.
                     After a long wait that waiting moment came, I took the seat in front of a young HR. First question- “Umesh, Tell me something about yourself”. I started to tell after a deep breath while he was gazing at my resume. But after two sentences my speech started to breaking out. I thought this is not a time to hide my stammer, I asked him “Sir, I have problem of stammering and I will took some more time to complete my words if you don’t mind”.  He smiled and said ”Ok Ok, It’s not a big issue. Take your time and speak as you relax”. I never expect such words from an interviewer. I smiled and started to speak my own words with less fear. Then after listening few answers from me; he asked- “Do you know? Einstein also had this problem” I immediately replied-“Yes sir, also Newton and Hrithik Roshan have this problem”.  “Tum tho sab jaante ho, fir kaya problem hai. Do you do something to work on your speech?” He asked again. I said “Yes, I am a member of TISA and we arranged self help meetings in Delhi. It really helps us to come out”. After few minutes of this conversation I stuck to a severe block when he asked to name my favorite subject. I tried but failed to say it, even with my technique like bouncing. I said “Sir, I can’t able to speak this name even with my techniques”. He politely said that ok; you can speak any synonym of it. Then I speak it with a starter (prefix word) and took a breath of relax. 
        Overall interview was good and he looked satisfied. Last question he asked that you had written in your resume; stammering in your strength points, why? I said that there was a time when I thought stammering is worst thing to me; but after joining TISA it is no more. I got so such nice friends because of it, I got a habit of speaking truth because of it, and many other things which would took a long time to describe here.That's why now I consider it as my strength not weakness. When interview finished, I went back to my seat with immense pleasure in my heart. I thought that now if I not selected then atleast I will not regret on myself that my stammering pushed me back. I have no right to say it now because I got fully time to speak and well understood. If I will not selected, it will only lack of my knowledge not my stammering.

What experience I got by this interview which I gave for enjoyment.
  
  1.What we think in our mind is not always right. 
  2.We thought people will consider us in a negative way because of our ugly weakness but good and mature people never do it. 
  3.Good people are always supportive and feel our emotions. 
  4.We never let us down or back foot in any work due to our weakness. 
  5.We can face some challenges just for shake of enjoyment. 
  6.We can’t blame to society without involving in it. 
  7.Why we hide our self to external world? We can show what we are in real and it gives real happiness. 
  8.Sometimes weakness becomes strength if you implement it by right attitude.( Better to say this if I will get selected :-))

16 comments:

sachin said...

"I got a habit of speaking truth because of it"
Umesh, this is the line, I will take with me to Andamans, if I were exiled there for the rest of my life without books.. Speaking truth is the best tapasya in this age. And, we the pws, get this opportunity (if we choose to) in our own small ways every day, because we stammer. So, even stammering is an opportunity for our SPIRITUAL evolution..
I totally agree with your interpretation of the whole experience..
Dont worry about selection. Just accept whatever happens. You have already reaped the biggest benefit of the moment..

KaUsTaV... said...

Great going dude!!!!
Best of luck !!!!

KaUsTaV... said...

Grt going dude !!!!
Best of luck !!!!

sikander said...

Great job Umesh, Really Hats off to you. Really very much inspired by you. You took the challenge and faced the fear of interview. Does not matter whether you get a job or not. the main thing you went there and had a good conversation with them. The best thing, you come out of your shell and took the initiative. There is a good proverd, practice makes a man perfect. Do not worry about not being able to speak there. Your acheivement is that you went there and shared about your stammering with them. Now you must be feeling a stammering is not a big issue.
All the best dear. We are very pround of you.

Sikander

With good wishes
Sikander

amit dixit said...

gud Umesh ji......thanks for this postzest

PP...Pramendra said...

Waah Umesh truly speaking, I don't have words to praise your guts. What an awesome post! You have inspired me and a lot of other PWS like me to face challenges head on.
Thanks a lot!!

Elanthamizhan said...

Superb man... me too did the same thing during my interview but i didn't mentioned my stammering...Just to face the fear of interview..but adding Stammering as your strength in resume really awesome dude...
congrats:)))

Shorn Jacob said...

We wont regret about interviews where we are open about our stammer.

I had once read about a man from TISA who finally got his job after 50 interviews . Think of the experience he will be having?

"Take a cup of concrete and harden the f**k up"

Shorn

Nitin Tomer said...

Umesh,

Buddy you make me proud :-)

I had never thought of stammering as a strength till now, but you forced me to think it that way. I owe you one :-)

Cheers

Nitin

J P Sunda said...

Umesh paaji Kirtiman pe kirtiman banate ja rahe ho aap. Thanks for sharinf these wonderful insights and a different perspective of looking at things

Ashish Agarwal said...

Life is for - GO ON.......

so keep tiking with life & enjoy all the experiences..

Thank you for posting , Umesh.

Er. Umesh 9068322345 said...

Thanks to all my lovely friends and guru's! All I have done because of only your support and guidance. Thanks again for your encouraging comments and love!

VIBHU said...

I am taking these lines of yours for my interview too. Thanks a lot Umesh, yours is a truly inspiring story.

Pinakin said...

Wah Umesh great. By putting stammering as a strength and the courage you have shown to speak openly about stutter really inspired us a lot.

pb said...

Umesh well done man !
Try to absorb the maximum positives from the incident to reap the best benfits of the act you performed . and to tell you something which probably doesnt need to be mentioned : "Keep standing out buddy . Maybe you can end up starting a company yourself.

abhishek said...

welldone umesh your post give us great motivation...for us to face interview.......all the best..