October 4, 2011

HOW TO STRONG OUR ACCEPTANCE


We have a lot of talk about acceptance. Tisa says we have to work on acceptance first before adopting any stammering management technique. But most of the pws are always confuse how they can work on their acceptance. They think that talking on stammering with family and some close friends are enough to accept our stammering. Yes, it helps but not enough. We have to increase our level of challenges and level of acceptance too. We still have fear to accept or talk on stammering with our colleagues, high authority persons, professors or teachers. Our mind still thinks that it is not a good topic to discuss with good person. Most of the pws (including me) thinks that we have to work on acceptance but how? We can’t bore the people with our individual problem. People might think that this person has the problem and only he has to deal with it, why he wants to include us with his problem. Yes, it is right. We can’t bore the people without their own interest. But what is the need of hide our problem. If we speak or bounce in front of a person then we simply get an opportunity to work on acceptance. We can directly say to him/her with a proud, yes I stammer sometimes. Hope you will not have a problem with my way of speaking. If you have then tell me what.
My experiment with acceptance
Few days before, I was making a call to customer care. An idea came that it can be a good opportunity to work on acceptance. I do some voluntary stammering on asking some question to representative. He said “sir, there is some network problem and your voice is fluctuating.” I said ”no, it is not a network problem; it is problem with my speech. I am a person who stutters.” Then he said “ok sir, not an issue. Say I am listening”. It was great fun with speech therapy.
And one time I was reading newspaper. There was a classified of matrimonial in paper. I got an idea and made a call to a groom searching party. I told them in a stutter manner that I found your advertisement in paper and what type of groom you need. They told their priorities then I told mine. I said” yes, groom has all the things you need but one defect also. He stutters.” They cut the call immediately and I can’t stop myself without a laugh.
Some other things we can do with our speech like little bounce by knowingly to the friend that knows our problem. Asking time and places to the unknown stranger etc.etc. Who says it is necessary to speak fluent always?
I write this post in some hurry because I have to do some packing to go to home next morning in this festival month. If I had some mistakes then don’t mind it. I will be Happy if your leave your comments or have to ask some questions.

7 comments:

sachin said...

Great! Lage raho...

J P Sunda said...

Matrimonial idea is good! :-)

lalit said...

umesh ..wounder full post on acceptence...u defined acceptence in lay man language , easy to understand and practice in life....keep writing

sikander said...

Hi Umesh

Wonderful experiment. really impressed by your metrimonial idea. I really wish, they would have accepted the stammerer guy so that we could have attended your marriage.

Keep doing the experiment.We are really learning from your experience.

abhishek said...

welldone chite welldone......aise hi karte raho sir. acceptance pe mai sirf itna kahna chaunga ki..........

MITA DE KUDH KI HASTI KO GAR KUCH MARTBA CHAYE.
KI DANA KHAK ME MILKAR GUL AE GULJAR HOTA HAI.

sachin said...

@Abhishek
Marhaba, marhaba, marhaba...

(Dont ask me meaning!)

sachin said...

Umesh- this reminds me of Gandhi Ji's "My experiments with Truth"..
May be fluent people will strongly object to this comparison and while shouting me down vehemently, many of them will stammer too, out of sheer anger and disgust...