Herbertpur Get-together postponed

This get-together (24 to 26th Dec.) had to be postponed due to un-foreseen and unavoidable reasons. Most likely we will meet on 26th Jan in Delhi, while returning from Chennai. Any inconvenience is sincerely regretted.

Chennai get together !

Dear friends,

The next Chennai chapter meeting will be held on 9.1.2011 at YWCA guest house mini conference hall for 4 pm to 8 pm.

The workshop at Chennai will be a 2 day affair on 22 & 23.01.2011 with 11/2 days workshop and 1/2 day 3rd anniversary of TISA, Chennai chapter.

Dr.Sachin and JP are conducting the workshops. (we will be introducing Emotional Freedom Technique, as applied to stammering plus quick recap of other techniques- sachin)

This is an advance information so that everyone can plan now itself and make use of the opportunity.

The registration fee is Rs.1000/ per head which is required to cover the expenses of hall and food charge.

Those who are really poor, it is free of cost.

I also welcome PWS form other chapters to attend the above workshop.

Those who are in Chennai, I kindly request register themselves on 9th Jan Chennai chapter meeting.

I request all the members of the Chennai chapter to come forward voluntarily to help me so as to make the above workshop a success.

Regards,

Manimaran

Informal get together 24-26th December

Friends, we are having an informal get together at Herbertpur (35 km from Dehradun) from 24th to 26th December 2010.

Tentative plan:
24th: a get-together over lunch, of children and young people who stammer (total number expected about 20). Before and after lunch, it is free time, when some of us can just relax, stroll in the market or just sit and chat.
25th: a day hike to Balbhadra temple (7,500 feet) with picnic lunch. Total About 8 km. 5 km climb to temple, then 3 km level walking to the pick up point near Mussoorie. Difficult but picturesque trek. It will be the whole day affair. Those who dont want to trek, can stay back, at Vikasnagar. But I am sure all of you can do it.
26th: Morning visit (tentative) to Ashokan edict at kalsi (10 km away). After lunch, a general get together for discussion about TISA activities. Dispersal by evening.

I can help with booking of rooms at Guru Kripa complex in Vikasnagar if you let me know in advance. It has a big restaurant in the basement and market close by. Vikasnagar & Herbertpur (just 2 km apart) is a small place and room will be between Rs 300-500 per day. It will be quite cold - so do bring heavy woolens (cap, gloves etc.). If you are from close by (Paonta, Dehradun etc.) you are welcome to make day visits.

The overall idea is to meet, discuss, review and plan ahead. But without getting in knots!

Peace! Amen!
sachin

Salute to All

Very Good Morning to All

Today i m going to dedicate this poem to all the PWS communities & the people who are fighting from their fears & struggles & want to live with dignity :)

" मेरी जिंदगी अँधेरी काली किताब थी !
जिसमें जीने की न कोई आस थी !
में मंजिल की तलाश में भटकता रहा !
बार बार गिरा और संभलता रहा !
खून के आसूं बहा दर्द को पीता था !
बस यू इस तरह जिंदगी को जीता था !
उम्र गुजर गयी इसी उलझन में !
क्या होगा कल इसी सुलझन में !
पर अब में मुक्त गगन में उड़ना चाहता हू !
बहती लहरों के साथ जुड़ना चाहता हू !
उम्मीदों का दामन थाम ,चल पड़ा हू में !
बहते तूफानों में चट्टान बन, खड़ा हू में !
यारो एक बार मिली है जिंदगी जीकर देखो !
ये ख़ुशी का जाम है इसे पीकर देखो ! "

thank you

Vaibhav Talegoankar
vaibhav.talegaonkar@gmail.com
7738614490

Searching Desperately

Good morning friends,

Happiness: The word slightly creates a confusion.What is the definition of Happiness.What is the measurement for happiness don't know.I remember that i always said to my friend "yar you have a good wife,2 cute children & lot of money you are the happiest person".He said every time nai yar i m not and i thought ab or kya chahiye life mein.But life is beyond these things.Many of us think if we don't stammer we could do lot better in life but there is no guaranty. You can see all around that ppl are not happy even they are fluent & doing good.Happiness come with Satisfaction.If you are satisfied, you are the happiest person & satisfaction comes with love & care.When you help others, when you think about your family or Colleagues you always be happy.Life is a race, everyone is running for success & we don't have time to talk but who cares ?

The famous quotation written by ~Robert Brault :

"If you search the world for happiness, you may find it in the end, for the world is round and will lead you back to your door."

what you think guys ?

vaibhav Talegaonkar
vaibhav.talegaonkar@gmail.com
7738614490

Lesson of Life

Dear Friends A very good afternoon

I have written some lines(in Hindi) for those ppl who are thinking negative thoughts becoz of their stammering.They are thinking they didn't achieve anything in their past & they won't in the future. But my friends its part of life.Just faith on God, do your Best & remember these lines -

" Jivan ek kathin dagar hai , Rasta Bahut Prakhar Hai.
Yu hi tum chalte chale jana, Mushkilo se tum na ghabrana.
Milti hai Jindagi ek hi bar, Ise sahej kar rakhna mere yar.
Umiddon ka daman mat choddo, Hatho ki lakiro ko modo.
Safalta chumegi tumhe bar bar, Jindagi mein hote hai chamatkar mere yar."

thank you

Vaibhav Talegaonkar
vaibhav.talegaonkar@gmail.com
7738614490

CHANDIGARH SHG MEET # 5 REPORT

Dear Friends,

A very good morning,

On 12.12.2010 afternoon at 2 pm, myself, Mr. Dhruv, Mr. Ishan, Mr. Mohit, Mr. Prem and 2 new members Mr. Varun & Mr. Balkaran met at sector 33 park Chandigarh. We welcomed the new members. Mr. Varun is an HRD Executive and Mr. Balkaran has done B. Tech from SLITE. Mr. Varun has also recently joined Chandigarh Toastmaster club. This time we missed Mr. JP and Miss Jaspreet, who could not join because of some pre- occupations. Hope both can make up next time. We started the meet with laughter exercise. Laughter relaxes our brain and helps towards better communication. We did meditations for relaxation and strengthening of brain, followed by exercise to relax the speech organs. Then each one of us read paras from newspapers in slow prolongation method. Need for keeping our voice a bit louder was also emphasised, particularly to Ishan, which helps in overcoming the blocks. Further, need to wipe out one of the most detested sentence " I CAN'T DO IT" from our life was deliberated. These small words have a huge impact in our life. They have prevented us from living the lives we want. Mr. Mohit gave a very valuable input by saying that we should always try to remain happy in all the situations. It really helps in overcoming the stuttering by keeping us relaxed. Mr. Varun suggested that like in Toastmasters each member here should also speak on something for 2-3 minutes. We shall do it next time. Every member should come prepared with some topic to speak. All members showed very keenness for having an early workshop at chandigarh by inviting Dr. Sachin. The mail received from Dr. Sachin regarding workshop dated 18.11.2010 was read over to all members and the concerns deliberated. Mr. Dhruv offered to help in finalising the venue and other logistics. With promise to meet again next week we dispersed. All members are again requested to write their comments on the meet to incorporate value additions for coming Meetings.

jasbir sandhu,

Cell 99150 06377

इंदौर में टीसा के स्वयं सहायता समूह की बैठक संपन्न

मध्य प्रदेश के इंदौर शहर में टीसा के स्वयं सहायता समूह की बैठक 12 दिसंबर, रविवार को आयोजित की गई. बैठक में अमितसिंह कुशवाह, प्रमेन्द्रसिंह बुंदेला, धीरेश धारवाल, अवधेशप्रतापसिंह ठाकुर और भारत नीमा उपस्थित थे.

बैठक में अमितसिंह कुशवाह ने कहा की हकलाहट कोई बीमारी नहीं बल्कि बोलने कि एक गलत आदत है और इस आदत को निरंतर अभ्यास से नियंत्रित किया जा सकता है. हकलाने वाले व्यक्ति हर छेत्र में काम कर सकते है और हकलाहट करियर में बाधा नहीं है. प्रमेन्द्रसिंह बुंदेला ने टीसा की गतिविधियों के बारें में नये सदस्यों को जानकारी दी.

बैठक में गोवा के हरीश उसगावकर ने हकलाहट की स्वीकार्यता के बारे में वीडिओ कानफरेंसिंग के माध्यम से बताया कि हम हकलाहट की चुनौती का बेहतर तरीके से तभी सामना कर सकते है जब हम यह स्वीकार करें की हम हकलाते हैं. इससे हम हकलाहट को छुपाने के लिए जो उर्जा खर्च करते हैं, उसका उपयोग हम बेहतर संवाद के लिए कर सकते है.

बैठक का संचालन प्रमेन्द्रसिंह बुंदेला ने किया. अंत में आभार अमितसिंह कुशवाह ने माना.
--
अमितसिंह कुशवाह
Mobile No. 093009-39758

Genesis of a SCAM

Scam is like a Ball room dance. Both partners anticipate each other's moves and position themsleves accordingly, for the personal advantage. Blaming one party will be childish. Scammer and "scammed" glide on the polished floor in unison- to the game of outdoing each other! It has been seen that people who are looking out for a bargain, often get scammed: a lady who wants to convert her brass-ware into gold quickly, the man who wants to convert his 100 Rs note into four thousand rupee notes etc. etc.
Something similar could be happening right under your nose. Here is the email I got from a young IPWS, few days back:

Hey guys, SpeechEasy is now in India. I want to write an article so that more and more people would know it's available in New delhi, India.
Last time i posted the same message and it didn't say anything like "your message is sent".

I requested him to submit a review by email to us and we would publish it, if it meets the criteria of objectivity. A week later, we get this email:

what exactly do you mean by review. is it the experience i had with SpeechEasy. and how could i write it .i dont know much about TISA website and how to write the review. please let me know.

let me answer your questions anyways
1)yeah i have been personally using it for last 11 days.i got it on 28th november, 2010.
2)there are many models of SpeechEasy available in India ranging from 1lakh to 4 lakhs
3) for after sales services ,please get in contact with the provider.his details are below
http://www.speecheasyinternational.com/india.php
Thanks,

The people who are selling a DAF device for Rs 1 to 4 lakh in India, and this young man who wants to promote it at TISA website (what is the quid pro quo here?)- are they not scammers? He apparently is on a shopper's high. He has used it for just 11 days. Having blown up Rs one lakh (father's hard earned money?), he is feeling very good and wants to encourage other young IPWS to go for it! I am quite sure the country is full of such people who are desperately looking for a "CURE", which can be bought over the counter. Statistically, you could have the same effect by blowing conch shell, reciting Gayatri mantra, putting pebbles in mouth etc. etc. at a price far cheaper than Rs one lakh!!

The DAF does not cure stammer. Whatever beneficial effects you notice, wear off in a month or two. It is quite inconvenient to use in a noisy place like market etc. etc. Okay, we have warned you. Gamble at your own risk!

Milestone For Me

A Very Good Evening to All of You

Sorry i didn't write any post in the last month.I was in my Native place and last week i came back to Mumbai for searching job again.I was thinking from last 10 yrs that one day i will join any speaking class.I tried many times but every time i came back from the doors.But after a Decade i finally joined the classes.I had never spoke in public places before.It was a great experience for me & i want to share with all of you.Yesterday was my third class & i spoke first time in front of Audience.I was feeling fear & nervousness in my entire body specially in my stomach & mouth.When i started speaking i forgot everything what i thought in my during the break.Thoughts were not coming in my mind & i was trying to make coordination between mouth & my mind. i spoke 3-4 minutes & stammered many times during my topic but finally completed.They all were listing very carefully & at the end they appreciated me.Its biggest achievement for me & i never thought in my past that i will do this. I don't care i will be fluent or not in my entire life but i will become a good speaker.
At the End the entire credit for this new change in my life goes to Sachin Sir who motivated me a lot when i met him in pune two months ago.Thank You Sir.

Soyez heureux :)


Vaibhav Talegaonkar
7738614490
(vaibhav.talegaonkar@gmail.com)

SPEECH EASY INTERNATIONAL

Dear Friends,
Good Afternoon,
Today morning at 08.48 A.M. I received a SMS from Dr. Prashant Malik, Best Hearing Solutions, R-21, Greater Kailash-1, New Delhi-48 advocating instant solution to stammering by trying Speech Easy devise. When I called back, Dr. Malik said he took my no. from TISA. He explained that it is an Altered Auditory Feedback device which is used to reduce stuttering and to help increse fluency. It was further clarified that Speech Easy alters sounds that go through the device so that you hear your voice at a slight time delay and at a different pitch.The purpose of the delay and pitch change is to recreate a natural phenomenom known as the "choral effect". The choral effect occurs when your stutter is dramatically reduced or cven eliminated when you speak or sing in unison with others. This is how it works. Cell no. of Doc. 9999927791 and site www.speecheasyindia.com
TISA members , founders and readers are requested to offer their early comments on the above please and the way Dr. Malik is approaching TISA members for marketing the product.
jasbir sandhu,
chandigarh,
Cell 99150 06377

Sachin speaks: All the people I met, stopped using this machine in 1-2 months. You cant refund and get your money back. Just wastage of money in my opinion.

Free help available from a mentor

Most of us know Hiten Vyas from UK, quite well. He is availbale to help you- if you can be regular, committed and access skype. Read more and dont hesitate-
http://stutteringhub.com/stuttering-mentor

Confusion worse confounded !

Someone has sent me a sms: Sir, what can I do for hesitation I feel just before talking? I feel breathless etc...
I am sure this person is not expecting a one hour discourse by way of help from me! He expects a quick and brief technique sms-ed to him. I dont think he would be very happy if I send him a link to the 40 page self help manual available for free on the web! How about, just sending one of these one line sms:

Have faith in ourself!
Take a deep breath before you start..
Accept yourself and your stammer!
Just talk- dont think!
Prepare well!
Just slow down!
Just phone my SLP friend in Chandigarh and Delhi (who charge only Rs 20,000 and give no effective guarantees) ...

I am sure none of this is going to help him, since he must have been through all this on his own. What can I do to help him? There are many such instances. Another IPWS who knew me for more than an year, never asked for any help ever. Suddenly, he phoned one morning, just one hour before his visa interview in British embassy. He wanted me to tell him some technique to use during interview!

Why do we do this? The problem is: since stammering is not exactly life threatening, and keeps waxing and waning- we never take it as seriously, as we would High fever, Angina (heart) pain, loss of consciousness, attack of fits, giddiness, high blood pressure etc. etc. It is embarrassing - yes, but it does not stop the business of life.

Yes, over the years we accumulate lot of pain, embarrassment and other emotional baggage- but we deal with it by ignoring it, by brushing it under the carpet. To use a concept from Eckhart Tolle, we develop a "pain-body", without being conscious of it. The only sign is- sometime this "pain body" plays up a little bit and we feel low/ sad / depressed/ frightened or irritated for no reason.

Some of us, wake up, when the accumulated frustration (or pain) becomes too much for us to ignore. But even then, we just want a "quick" solution for "my own" problem. We have no intention of getting involved with the whole shebang of the stuttering community, self help group etc. etc. Let "my problem" be solved and I have no time for the rest. This is how we deal with other above mentioned problems- high fever, fits etc. etc. This approach (private solution) works there but not here. Why? because stammering is as much a social problem as it is a neuro-biological, affective, cognitive problem. We dont stammer when we talk to ourselves.

Secondly, as long as "pain body" is there, we can not have a lasting cure. To dissolve the "pain body", one must get down to the serious business of overhauling oneself completely. In my experience, few have that kind of commitment and temperament. But it can be done. Many have done it in the past and many will do it in future. Do a Google search for pain body: you will find some good videos on you tube and many articles...

Learnings for PWS from Akio Toyoda's Interview with Prannoy Roy

I had a chance to see Toyoto Motor Corporation Chairman's (Akio Toyoda) few days back. The interview was set in the background of Toyota launching a new India specific sedan 'Etios'. During the interview, Prannoy Roy asked his host about his emotions & feelings when he had to testify before US Representatives, after a series of quality issues in their cars. The tone of this question gave away his intent. As would have been expected, he (and I must admit even myself - maybe even most of audience) were expecting the host to share emotions of 'pain' ,'deep regret' and 'embarrassment'. While he did say he that the event wasnot something that he would have ideally liked to get into, but what he said later on was quite interesting. He mentioned at the time of speaking with Congressmen, he looked at that moment as an "opportunity". He didnot think he was talking with Congressmen per se, rather customers, dealers and members of extended Toyota family - especially since his testimony at US Congress was being televised with the camera on a close-up. He shared that when he knew that he was getting so much attention he thought that the best way to sieze this opportunity would be to give to the peole of America a heart felt & true account of what Toyota really stands for, share his emotional bounding with this philosophy and use this opportunity to influence more and more people to join Toyota family.

Well... You may be wondering , how does this incident hold any significance to PWS? To my mind , this incident holds out a message of "positive thinking" not only to PWS community but to everyone else who are confronting adverse situation. It is a message from the leader of one of world's top brands that inspite of the being placed in an extremely uncomfortable and embarrassing situation, he was not put down, nor did he feel threatened but rather took the courage of positive thinking.

A PWS also needs to take this path of courage, a path of positive thinking in his everyday fight with spoken words.

A PROFESSIONAL BASEBALL PLAYER AND STUTTERER FLOURISH AS A MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER

Dear Friends,
Good Morning,
Please read the following article on Leadership which appeared in october issue of the Toastmaster and get inspired.
jasbir sandhu,
chandigarh