TISA buttons

 
Thanks to the hard work of Raja, Pawas and Harish, TISA has got its own buttons. Want one of these ? Attend the next TISA event :-)

To read more about Transfluency : http://www.mnsu.edu/comdis/isad12/papers/loriente12.html

Skype Calls( Self Help Group) on 31-03-2012

Hi All my Dear Folks,

Today call lasted from 9:00 PM IST to 1:30 AM IST :)


Today we have got 10 people on Skype Voice chat.
We have 2 !!!! new comers as well.
People are rocking always on cloud 9 !!!!

Today we have new segments in event. The events are
A) Formal intro
B) Anatomy of Sound( How Speech comes/ produces )
C) How we apply in real time
D) Avoiding the Anticipatory fear.

The below are people who attended the call today.
1.Abhinav
2Jawid Lodhi (New)
3 SaiRam
4 SUbhoDip
5 Pinakin     (New)
6 Deva
7 Dinesh
8 Vinay
9 Karthik
10 Rajesh

Note: People who wanted to join us in skype everyday between 9:00 PM IST to 10:30PM IST you can add me in skype and my id "rajesh.jaca2"
or can also skype id: "aishkarthik" or skype id: "nilu_here"
These skype calls will help individuals to overcome their stammering easily.

Stutter With Smile !!!!!!!!!
With Regards,
Rajesh V

The Stammurai.. (Bangalore SHG Meet Report)

Today we were 6 of us.
The strength was less due to following reasons.
1) The meeting details were communicated at the last moment.
2) The meetings have been shifted to Saturdays.

Classroom which we use was busy with some admissions and they had asked us to manage somewhere else for 1 week.

However, with some jugglery we could squeeze in 2 hours and made it to the classroom!!

The strength would have been less but there was no dearth in enthusiasm. :-)
I distributed bubble-gums to everyone and told them to take it easy!

The theme for today was "To Stammer" ! :-) Yes, it was Lets Stammer..

Instructions were clear - Dont try to avoid or come out of the block.. Try to get in to the block as much as possible and enjoy!!

This came as surprise to everyone. Then we discussed that primary reason to stammer is
due to "undue pressure on mind to speak fluently" so today lets get off that pressure.

Its like in Cricket if are not afraid to lose our wicket then we come out with the "Stunning shots".. when we have fear losing wicket then we play hesitantly and take singles!! :-)

With the Theme set, we started our everyday reading.

Unlike previous classes, we dint read standing at one place instead we moved around during reading. Also we enjoyed the bubble-gum.. chew and read, read and chew !! :-)

Everyone was at their best today, there were few fumbles but NO blocks..

There were drastic improvements in Chandan, chennai trip did heal him to an large extent.From being restless, he was lot calmer and could express well.

Alok and Chandan, shared about chennai trip. (Tanoy is writing a detaild blog on this)

Alok to some extent got excited and nudged the fellow mates for not coming. He cited  that when a guy from Mumbai can come then why cant you..

Others (Who could not make it to Chennai) shared why they want to overcome Stammering.
We discussed that  "Speaking Fluently" or making "more money" are the usual responses.

More important questions like "Why" do you want to speak fluently or more precisely "what" do you want to speak fluently are always left out.

We always put cart before the horse.
"Content" should always come first then followed by "style" and not the other way.

Towards the end we played a very nice animation video - The Stammurai (Sammurai who is a stammerer)  Very good indeed. Watch and enjoy until we meet again..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wFoHUhDlNKM

Warm Regards
Dinesh.

Update from Gorav

HERBERTPUR, 30 MARCH 2012
Today I woke up late by 10-15 min and I had to go alone for the morning walk because Dr sachin had already left at 6:00 am. When I was back Sachin sir told that today you have to go alone by bus to Sadhna Kendra ashram in dumet .After having my breakfast I left for the ashram .one bus came and I get on the bus when the conduct came I told him I want to go to dumet ,he said what I tried again and told d-------dumet .He told that the bus is going to vikasnagar from vikasnagar you can go to dumet . I get down the bus at vikasnagar and was waiting for the next bus to come, no bus was coming, a man was standing near to me first i hesitated to ask but somehow I asked him about dumet . He told you go to some chowk and from there you can get an auto to badwala . I told him that I don't know where the chowk is and how to get there .While we were talking man’s friend came on activa , he told him to drop me to that chowk and also find auto for him. So I went to dumet on an auto . In the ashram I met Aanant chetanya .Who also stutter I had a talk with him .then I listened to swami ji pravachan, then I took langar there. I was back from ashram at 2:50. then I went for karate .After karate I met two police men and gave my introduction to them , I was not able to bounce properly after that I took my dinner and went to sleep.

Hi frndz...i m chakit samanta...i m 4m kolkata..stdyng in nagpur
.i m a stammerrer but i have controlled my stammerring to a greater extent....thnks to dr. sachin..& rajendra sir..
i have certain techniques, which i have been tought and i m using this in my daily life by which i have able to control my stammerring to a greater extent.....
tecniques like- prolongation, bouncing & some block correction techniques. these has made my life much much comfortable.....
i always try my best to help other stamerring persons whereever i see or whoever calls me....
iMy frndz if u want any help from my side i m always there to help you all the time.....u may call me or mail me...
mob no.-07304814559
email-chakit4u@gmail.com

Me on another podcast

http://stutteringiscool.com/podcast/stuttering-conferences-in-india-and-australia

Skype Calls( Self Help Group) on 30-03-2012

Hi All my Dear Folks,

Today we have got 8 people on Skype Voice chat.
We have 1 !!!! new comer as well.
People are rocking always !!!! Great to see the response for skype calls :)

Today we have new segments in event. The events are 
A) Formal intro
B) Thought sharing (Unlike group discussion here all will get a chance and time)
C) Counting numbers down from 30999(each person shall count 20 numbers down and pass on to other)
D) Instant Topic Speaking (Topic is given to person at instant when he talks )

The below are people who attended the call today.
1) Subhodeep
2) Rakesh (New)
3) Sairam
4) Vikas
5) SreeKumar
6) Sreekumar's daughter (Sweet Kid)
7) Karthik
8) Rajesh

Note: People who wanted to join us in skype everyday between 9:00 PM IST to 10:30PM IST you can mail me to yahoo id: "wanted2talk2u" or my skype id "rajesh.jaca2" or skype id: "aishkarthik" or 
skype id: "nilu_here"
These skype calls will help individuals to overcome their stammering easily.

Stutter With Smile !!!!!!!!!
With Regards,
Rajesh V.

DELHI SHG MEETING

Delhi shg will meet on 1/4/2012 at central park on 11 a.m..for more detail please contact saurabh agrwall (9654528733) and umesh rawat (9813973747). thanks.

HERBERTPUR, 29 MARCH 2012

Today I woke in the morning at 6:00 am .Then went for the morning walk with Dr Sachin near wheat field .There I ran a little bit .Then we did some mediation for about an hour along with the gardening, it was difficult for me to do gardening as well as reciting the mantra OM NAMAH SHIVAYE in mind, don’t know how sachin sir do it may he has a lot of experience of meditation. After that I had my breakfast of Aaloo ka parantha then did some preparation for the today Photoshop class.At 10:30 I went to take the Photoshop class with Dr sachin and taught them few tips of grouping, history panel etc. Along with that I also shared with them my experience for Shimla trip (about toy train , difficulty in asking or enquiring for the tickets).They also gave advice that its ok/ fine to write it down when you are not able to speak at all. After that I went to the market to fix the puncture of my bike .I had to go to 3 shops to get my work done. After that I had my lunch and took some rest. At 4:00 pm I went for karate .Today I was beaten up by a young girl who was may be 16 year old .Actually she was brown belt and I am white belt. After karate I went to the market to buy some medicine and coffee powder.

My dentist had sms me today that she had postponed my appointment, first I thought I should reply her through sms (as I used to do earlier) but today I somehow called her and talk to her (it was difficult to speak, though I had told her on the very first day that I stutter, she is very understanding but yet it was very difficult to speak – I was able to speak only in yes / no) After that I had a long talk with Mrs sachin and then went for my dinner and sleep

MAGIC OF WORKSHOPS( chennai)

myself ritesh from mumbai. First of all i want to thanks TISA for conducting chennai workshop and a great thanks to members and coordinator of chennai tisa. Manimaran sir and tisa members had made a great arrangements for us .ROOms were booked . we were feeling like we are superstars but with stammering .At 8 am a bangalore tisa members arrived in the hotel .they were realy confident , and honest individuals. I introduced to them that i am from mumbai  and came for chennai workshop. Workshop started at 10 am . when i entered in that hall i saw manimaran sir , raja sir , hassanand sir was waiting for us . till 10:30 all members were gathered in that workshop hall. First we started with our introduction with a fear of stammering , we all stammered . then we started sharing our worst experience of life and what is goal behind everyone to cure his individual stammering . some members told that they wanted to be successful in life , some told that they want to sleep like a baby in night with no fear of stammering , some told that they want a girlfriends.workshop was going on further in the direction of techniques such as bouncing and prolongation. . we had lunch session then we all interacted with the members on lunch table and shared our techniques and exercises which we were using .after lunch session we started with some fun activites like singing , playing some games.I remember a one guy he was sharing his worst experience of stammering , he mentioned that in my friend circle nobody feel like talking to me they think like i am not a human , i am an animal. . such type of feelings come out in workshop only my friends . we all stammerers shared our fear with one another .and there was a guy who shared his interview experience with us it was a heart touching once " he told that in a interview when he started to tell his name he got severly blocked and manager told him please get up and instead of giving intreview , he should visit to a goverment hospitals.workshop give us a stage to overcome our fear of stammering . in my opinion stammering is only our mind ,it is not related to our speech organs .so workshops are a place were we can overcome this fear . workshops teaches us to melt our fear and enbracement when we fell it when we get block in our speech . we should appreciate our blocks , we should not get embracced .Eveybody , a normal speaker also get blocked in his speech but they dont give such importance to there blocks but we stammeres when we get blocked we feel a shame , guilt or embraccement . These is a major difference between thinking and mind set up of a normal speaker and stammerers.In workshops ex - stammerers were also present , today they have controlled there speech not cured , but controlled . They are so successful in there life , with there good jobs like MANAGERS and SALES executive with a happy married life .By seeing them , we also got inspired that one day we will all stammerers will achieve that.. workshops and shg meetings . i think it directly change our mental thinkings , it have a strong influence in our mind that we are not alone with such problems and we can win these battles . I want to share something that when i saw ex stammerers , they were realy good in communiction than a normal speakers . IN my aspect i have gained a huge confidence due to chennai workshop .and thanks a lot to TISA for arranging such type of workshops .THAnk u : sachin sir , manimaran sir , raja sir and all tisa members for there support for conducting such Workshops .

Reaction what people gives when we stammer

There are some common reaction what people use to give when we stammer,like they smile, laugh ,mimic,avoid ,become serious or avoid eye contact.
Now a days i am facing last reaction mean people around me avoiding eye contact when i stammer, like my brother,friends ,my seniors etc.
some time i told people to make eye contact but it is very hard to educate all the people all the time . when they avoid eye contact i use to feel low and pathetic about me,
i think people does not want to make us uncomfortable that why they avoid eye contact so started thinking other way, like when they look around i thanks them for being so kind towards me and it helps me to feel good.
and at same time i also try to find suitable time to educate people about this :-)

TISA Chennai Workshop

The journey to Chennai for TISA meet started with 5-some (Myself, Alok, Dinesh, Karthik and Chandhan) meeting at Bangalore station @10.30pm. We chatted for few hrs before train arrived late by 30mins. The adventure started with our bogie missing and we searching entire railway station. We boarded the general then but soon someone told "bogies are coming.. On the way". Anywayz, we started and reached chennai on time. Manimaran Sir (Mani Sir henceforward) has arranged awesome AC rooms. We refreshed soon and meet with Ritesh (From TISA Mumbai). Then, joined the mini-conference hall for the TISA Workshop.

Mani sir, told it is first time a workshop is getting conducted in the absence of JP and Sachin. But, soon Raja (Chennai King :P) joined and told he has a message from Sachin sir. Soon, the intro happened (15 stammers joined) and lunch time came. We thought of few points agenda to be completed before the lunch; but we are stammers :) So, it alwayz, takes sometimes.

We had good lunch and then the lessons continued.

Here is few videos of Raja explaining "Bouncing" and "Primary and Secondary" stuttering.

The story will continue..

Skype Calls( Self Help Group) on 29-03-2012

Hi All my Dear Folks,

Today we have got 10 people on Skype Voice chat.
We have 5 !!!! new comers as well.
People are rocking always !!!! Great to see the response for skype calls :) Please come and Hit back Stammering :)

The below are people who attended the call today.
1) Subhodeep
2) Pavan Shinde
3) Sairam
4) Vikas
5) Vinay
6) Sudheendran
7) Abhinav
8) SreeKumar
8) Sreekumar's daughter (So Sweet kid)
9) Karthik
10) Rajesh

Note: People who wanted to join us in skype everyday between 9:30 PM IST to 10:30PM IST you can mail me to yahoo id: "wanted2talk2u" or my skype id "rajesh.jaca2"
These skype calls will help individuals to overcome their stammering easily.

With Regards,
Rajesh .V
Stammering With Smile

Bouncing technique is the Best

Hi All,

This is Rajesh from Hyderabad.
Yesterday I was very excited to talk to Sachin ji for the first time and that too through phone.
I stammered too much when i was talking to Sachin ji.
Its my excitement and fear talking to a new person made me stammer so much.
First we had a formal introduction and Sir asked what am i upto.
Later he has asked me to talk to an young engineering graduate beside him.
I talked with that person very easily and stammered very less.
And again when phone was handed to Sachin ji again i started my stammering :) :)
Then Sir asked me "Rajesh what exercises you do to keep your stuttering at bay?", then i said proudly "Bouncing technique".
Sir asked me then why dont you talk to me in Bouncing technique style then i tried and was surprised to see my stammering gone in a minute :)
That's a Master way of treating his student and making him apply right technique and right place. Thank you Sir :)
Only yesterday i realized the importance of Bouncing technique when i applied in real time.

Finally i said to Sir a  funny yet real fact poem. The poem started with my stutter sound.....
Stuttering is just another way of talking, Its not a disorder nor a disease. 
Plants talk silently with moving winds
Dogs talk each other with Barking sounds.
People talk each other with normal speech.
Stuttering people talk each other in stuttering way...


I believe stuttering is not a crime nor a bad work, So never feel shy to talk. If we feel bad about our stuttering then what about people who are completely dumb by birth.
We are at least gifted with some sound and speech...
God will help us to make this journey more challenging.
Yes stammering people life is full of challenges but normally speaking guy has no challenges every time.
So we become strong and strong day by day with challenges so that Stammer becomes weaker one day.
We strive and we can make this happen in grousp..So lets join our hands and hit back Stammer.
Join us at Skype calls everyday in between 9:30 PM IST till 10:30 PM IST.
Add me to skype "rajesh.jaca2"
I will be waiting for your request and lets hit back Stammer.
Stammering With Smile

With Regards,
Rajesh V.

Skype Calls( Self Help Group) on 28-03-2012

Hi All my Dear Folks,

Hope you are doing fine.
Today we have got 9 people on Skype Voice chat.
We have new comers as well.
People are outstanding in their performance day by day.
Jokes were unlimited :)
Activities that were performed today
 1)Bouncing style of introduction,
 2)Bouncing style of paragraph reading and
 3)Bouncing style of pronouncing words which we have stuttered in the paragraph reading.

The below are people who attended the call today.
1) Sanjeetkhanuja
2) Gaurav Dubey
3) Devendran
4) Pavan Shinde
5) Sairam
6) Sudheendran
7) Subhodip
8) Karthik
9) Rajesh

Note: People who wanted to join us in skype everyday between 9:30 PM IST to 10:45 PM IST can mail me to yahoo id: "wanted2talk2u" or add my skype id "rajesh.jaca2"
These skype calls will help individuals to overcome their stammering easily.

Stammering With Smile and Win the Race !!!
With Regards,
 Rajesh V.

HERBERTPUR , 28 March 2012

Today I woke up at 6:00 am and then I went for the morning walk with Dr sachin . We walk near the water channel which was adjacent to the wheat field and then went to tea garden .There I ran a little bit .After that we sit down for mediation for an hour. After that I had my breakfast and took the class of DCA students with Dr sachin from 11:00 am to 1:00 pm and taught them auto aligning & auto Blending of images, warp text style, combining different images to get the panorama effect.

After that I had my lunch and went to bed for some rest. At 4:00 pm I went to Karate with Dr sachin till 5:30 .After the class Dr Sachin ask me to ask some questions from the strangers It was very difficult in the beginning but after meeting 3-4 stranger I was able to ask question with less fear . After that I went to an ATM and enquire about the ATM from the guard sitting outside the ATM . Then we went to a shop and a enquire about the price of blank dvds and charges of writing a dvd. Then we went to sweet shop and thereI asked about the price of various sweets and then gave the order of 2 plates ‘RAS MALAAE’ . I was stuttering as usual but the fear was a little less. Then I gave an order of 2 coffee by Bouncing on the word like K-k-k- coffee. When I was talking to Dr sachin in the sweet shop many people around me were looking at me with strange faces .After enjoying the sweet we went back . On the way back I asked few question from stranger (like where is herbertpur chowk , when the bus to Saharanpur will come, where is lehman hospital etc) .After that I went for my dinner and then I did some preparation for the next day teaching with Dr sachin . Now Good night and have a wonderful next day :-)

STAMMERING:NO LONGER A NIGHTMARE

     hello guys!i am just feeling so gud to come before you after such long gap...u know as a stammer it was really not easy for me to stay away from you peoples but life gives us such a diverse situations that sometime se have to lead the way it wants..

  while staying away from social networking,self help groups,seminars ,i really worked out on finding way to deal with the problem with the new outlook...as it is obvious i had to use public gatherings,friends circle as the practice  ground or in easy words i can say that i was playing international matches without playing in RANJI matches...

you know i had made a list as how i would tackle this problem...i noticed that every stammerer has to deal on phones. in the classes if they are student,at the market,while gossiping and recounting stories...so at first i decided to pay attention over tackling speaking over  phone

.FOR THAT TO ACHIEVE OVER PHONE--

1.i decided to remain slow while saying HELLO no matter the person on other side is in hurry.

2.while enunciating words in the beginning i have to remain as slow as possible.

3.wherever there is blockage on the word i slow down my pace.

APART FROM THAT

-I decided to make it habit to make calls to customer care,friends,offices so as to get comfortable in each and every situation no matter whatsoevrt be the person before us.

-i began trying voluntary stuttering with the close friends,at the berger shops.

all this was aimed to be fearless in every speaking situations.

I dont know what i am going to say but i feel that TALKING OVER THE PHONES IS NO LONGER A NIGHTMARE.i am not saying that i wont stammer on phone in future but i can say definitely that i am no longer scared about talking over the phone.

Kumar Kundan (Kala Amb, HP)

Herbertpur , 27 March 2012

Today Sachin sir woke me up at 6:00 am in the morning . Then we went for a morning walk . I also ran a little bit a mile i suppose .while we coming back we stopped by a wheat feild adjacent to it a water channel was flowing , it was really a beautiful scene , huge blue sky , rising sun and mountain valleys .Then we sat down for 1 hour meditation . Then after i went for my breakfast and then and then we went for the Photoshop class . There i taught few tips of Photoshop like "straightening the tilted picture , content aware scale and recolor to the community college students.After that i took my lunch and tried to complete my blog about "my experience at shimla get together "& went to sleep . i went for karate at 4 pm and was back at 5:30 .In the evening i met one friend of Dr sachin and had a talk with him . After that i again try to complete my blog for shimla and went for my dinner at 8:00 pm . After that i made final editing of my blog for shimla and post it finally . Then Dr sachin and i prepare for the tomorrow session of Photoshop and went to sleep by 10:30 .

MY EXPEREINCE OF SHIMLA GET TOGETHER

I wanted to go but I was also scared because this was my first chance to go out alone. I was worried how to go and how to come back, go by bus or train, how to get the tickets .I was still thinking to go or not and soon it was the last day to register, Anupinder singh called me and as usual I didn’t picked up his phone (moment my mobile phone rings ,it makes me nervous ) instead I gave him a message that I want to go and please register my name and I will call you later .After some time I was thinking to call Anupinder or not suddenly he called me up “satri kal ji kaise ho “ ( Anupinder’s way of greeting is awesome and the way he speaks ‘Ok Ji Gud night ‘ is very melodious n sweet ) and then he told about the whole planning and how to deposit registration fee .I was very scared, worried & was planning a lot for the trip till the last moment.

I called the bus stand to enquire whether there is a direct bus from Yamuna nagar to kalka . I asked the enquiry as usual stuttering that “ is there any direct bus to kalka “ , and the person said “ what are you saying ” , I tried again and asked my question ,this time he understood me and told the answer . I also checked the trains through internet and found that there is no direct train from Yamunanagar to kalka , I will have to first go to Ambala and then there is a direct train from Ambala to Kalka .I decided that first I will go by bus from Yamuna nagar to Ambala and then from Ambala to Kalka by train .But I was still worried how to buy the tickets and to find the place where the bus or train would be (which platform).

Suddenly Anupinder called me and told that there is a direct passenger train from Yamuna nagar to Rajpura . Anupinder was coming on bike from Patiala and Rajpura comes in the way to kalka . I checked the train and told him that I will be coming to Rajpura and from there we will be going to kalka on bike .

I told my father about my plan and he told me that “Are you mad , why are you going through the long route “ ( going to kalka via rajpura rather than via Ambala is a long route) I don’t know what to say and told him “ nothing just like that”. My father told me ok but keep a blank paper and a pen with you which I had kept them already in my jeans pocket & kept them both until I was back home.

I went to the railway station next morning , my father bought my tickets for Rajpura from the railway ticket counter and left for Rajpura . Reaching Rajpura railway station I called Anupinder and he told me that he will be there in 5 minnutes . I had seen Anupinder’s video on Tisa’s Blog , I thought I will recognize him very easily but many Sikh guys were coming on bike with beard and turban everyone was looking like Anupinder .I was really confused which one is Anupinder , soon a guy came on bike & started looking here and there , soon he took out his mobile from pocket to call I suppose . I thought surely he is Anupinder and waved my hand to him. He similed and then we greeted each other and then we went to Kalka on bike.

Reaching the railway station I met other four stammerers (Umeesh , Jatinder , Sourabh gupta & Amit khushwah ) .I had met umeesh in the national conference but other 3 were new to me . I introduced myself to all of them .Anupinder told that Dhruv kathuria & Jai Prakash are late and they are not getting the vehicle to reach the railway station so Anupinder left immediately to pick them up on his bike .Departure time of the train was 12:10 pm . Now it was 12:05 pm . Anupinder , Dhruv & Jai Prakash had not come yet , all were worried . I told them that don’t worry I am having the train tickets we will sure board the train & enjoy the trip, we laughed together . One of them told that today scene of the movie D D L J (in which Kajol was trying to catch the train ) will be repeated & again we laughed. Soon we saw Anupinder , Dhruv & Jai Prakash running like anything in order to catch the train which was about to depart . Finally we all were able to catch the train in just time .

This was my first experience of toy train. Toy train was very narrow train with only 5 compartments unlike the ordinary trains. I suppose there were only 30 seats in each compartments .I had heard that speed of the train is very slow that you can go down the train and then catch it very easily but it’s not like that now the trains speed is pretty good . The view from the train is very beautiful. So many valleys and tunnels comes in the way .If you stand at the door of the compartment you really feel like you are flying in the sky ,fresh cold breeze , mountains really awesome . One must travel through this train once in a life . As the train passes the tunnel people starts whistling and hooting and I hooted too but couldn’t whistle as I don’t know how to whistle ( if anybody knows please let me know ) .In the train we had introduction round and played many games .The train journey was really amazing and enjoying .

We reached Shimla in the evening by 5:30 pm . Dhruv’s father had booked rooms in a guest house (thanks to uncle , the rooms were really good and cheap ) we reached there by 7:30 .Then we had our dinner and then played 3 rounds of BLUFF (card’s game) in the night (Anupinder never used to show/check the cards and Dhruva used to frequently check the cards of other players ) and after that we all went to sleep.

In the morning we went to INDAIN INSTITUTE OF ADVANCE SCEINCE there we saw the old building and the table where partition papers between India and Pakistan were made .There we met another stammerer Vinod chauhan who had come from solan . Then we went for ‘kufri ‘ .After returning from kufri we went to mall road in the evening and then went to our guest house on bus.In the bus one peson used to take tickets of all the participants , suddenly Umesh told that each one of us will take the ticket on his own .I got very scared , what if I fail to say the name “KHALINI “ I tried to speak the first alphabet ‘Kh’ but no sound was coming (there was a lot of rush in the bus hence I cannot write the name of the place on a piece of paper , very difficult to even get the pen or page out of your pocket and also the light was very low , conductor may not be able to read the page) but the plan was changed and Jatinder was asked to take the tickets of all the participants . After that we had dinner in the guest house and then had a thorough discussion on various topics .

Jai Prakash told that Gorav(me) has changed a lot , he was very shy in the national conference but look now .Yes in the national conference I was very shy and upset because knowning that everyone is just like me even then I was not able to interact with other , there was a lot of hesitation in me , I was not able to express myself even in front of the other stammerers ( except few like Mohit kumar , LALIT PANDEY- my room partner at BHUBNESHWAR). I can see clearly now there is a noticeable improvement in me.Now I am able to express myself more to my relatives or known people or PWS . All the credits go to my HERBUTPUR Self Help Group especially Dr sachin .I was asking a lot of questions which were coming to my mind while the discussion was going on. Soon Jai Prakash told that now he will be charging money for asking question from him. Really Jai Prakash is very nice being , despite he was tired he was answering to my questions till late night . Jai Prakash is very helpful, cooperative and I appreciate his work and true efforts.

Next morning after having the breakfast we left the guest house for the Shimla railway station .We were going back to kalka from the same heritage Shimla toy train .Again it was an amazing journey . we played BLUFF cards in the train . A young girl was sitting in our group. Jai parakash told her that we all are stutters and belong to an NGO called TISA , we all had come from different places to Shimla to attend a get together , few are from Chandigarh , one is from Yamuna nagar , one is from MP ,few are from Delhi .She told that her family was at Jagadhri (place adjacent to Yamuna nagar) . I was listening to their conversation ,on hearing her last statement I got scared ,that she should not ask about the one from Yamuna nagar (which was me ). But she immediately asked Jai Prakash that who is from Yamuna nagar .I started looking somewhere else pretending that I was not listeing to their conversation .But J P sunda immediately pointed at me and said he is from Yamuna nagar. I was nervous ( I am very scared of girls )but somehow I told yes I am the one with a smile on my face . I thought that I knew her , maybe she was my junior at my Sacred heart convent sr. sec school . But how to ask, how to stammer I front of a young girl and I didn’t ask her about that (HIDING).

We reached Kalka railway station at 4 pm. we all said good bye to each other. Umesh told me that a passenger train is standing at the platform and gorav why don't you ask at enquiry that if this train goes to jagadhri railway station also. I said no I will go with Anupinder because my train is from rajpura at 6:40 pm.Actually I don't want to go to the enquiry and enquire for the train. Then I left the railway station with Anupinder . Anupineder droped my at Rajpura Railway staion at 6:15 pm and my train was at 6:40 pm I suppose. Instead of asking about my train I checked the list of trains which were about of coming, but there was no name of train in which I booked my ticket (online).I looked around and saw a there was a machine with a touch screen on which you can enquire by typing your pnr no. or train no. i tried it but it was not working properly so now I had to enquire about my train at railway enquiry. I stood at the window and tried to speak but was so scared that no word was coming out and the thing which increased my hesitation that a “mike” was also there. After standing at the window for about a minute like a dumb I move away from the window and stared to worry that if I don't ask then how will I reach my home but the question is how to speak. I finally wrote the name of the train along with its no. on a piece of paper and told the enquiry person to take my paper and kindly read it .He told the train will come tomorrow around 6:45 am .I wondered how come tomorrow I had booked the tickets for today evening , I checked my e- tickets again and found that the train time was at 6:40 ( no am or pm was written) and I immediately understood the whole thing that 6:40 means in the morning and 6:40 in the evening would be 18:40 . Now I was more scared because now how to go back to my home. Whether I should call my father or anupinder and seek their help. I was wondering here and there near the enquiry window try to relax myself and then went to the window, I wanted to say that is there any train to jagadhri , but jagdhri was not coming out so I enquired about ambala (I was even struggling on this word too but somehow I could say) ambala comes in the way to jagadhri .I again asked him and atalast was able to say the word jagadhri somehow . He replied that there is no train to jagadhri .Then I again enquired then how can I go to jagadhri , other people near me who could hear my voice were giving a starange look to me .He told that there is no direct train to jagadhri you will have to go to ambala first . And there is a passenger train which is just about to come .I immediately went to the ticket counter and started to speak –again no sound came , I wrote AMBALA on paper and purchased the ticket .

On reaching the ambala railway station, again the same story go and ask for jagadhri on enquiry window ,at window there was a mike and a loud speaker one who enquires ,his voice can be heard by people within 15-20 meter. I was very scared and full of fear so i left the railway station and went to bus stand (I know where the bus stand was , no need to ask any one ) and wrote the ‘yamuna nagar’ on piece of paper and get on the bus of Yamuna nagar .when the conductor was coming there was no fear even if I fail to speak I can show the paper , when he reached me the alpha ‘ya’ of Yamuna nagar was not coming , I swiftly said ‘jamuna nagar’ instead of Yamuna nagar and reached my home safely .

*--There is a lot to be improved in me .Still hiding is residing in me. Replacing of the words .No word coming out and may be due to lack of practice it is still difficult for me to bounce and prolong. I run from the fearful situation, some time I even cry like a child.I will keep on trying and working .

What an shg can do for you..

SHG (Self Help Group) is meeting of people who are riding in a same boat. They understand the emotions and feelings of each others very well. In case of stammering, no one else can can feel the same or sense the dilemma that how a stutter feels until he himself doesn't have it. Basically SHG meeting doesn't guarantee anyone to cure his speech problem; but it really provide a good atmosphere to everyone to experiment with his speech and face the fear at front. We can share our experience, emotions from deep inside and more big thing is that we can learn and motivate from others a lot. what I feel by my own experience of attending SHGs is that emotional support really plays a big role in recovery. Generally we don't meet or find anyone same as us in the world around us, but after attending an shg just for two hours; we feel that our pain is not too much; we are not alone; we are not unique. We too can heard by someone; we too can talk and our speech can be appreciated by others; we too can make people laugh by cracking jokes. We enjoy listening the same funny incident which happened earlier to us. An shg can heal us from inside if we make a habit to attend it regularly, Although the process may seem gradually slow but it really helps in long run. 

                    Earlier my thought that I used to stutter and block more after attending shgs and making myself quite open about my stutter, but it made the mental burden almost invisible. Sometime I really stutter like anything bad but still a satisfaction inside heart because I says what I want to. A Feeling of openness; believe in myself and lightness in emotions sensed around me. 

Rather than  stammering SHGs can help you in many other ways of real life like

1. It provide you a lot of other friends to extend your social interaction area.

2. Friends from different state, religions are come together give you many interesting knowledge about their territory. 

3. If sometime you feel low or self-hurted, you can talk to anyone by phone or other media and immediately find a solution.

4. Shg friends are always supportive, you can call them anytime when you need help in their fields.

5. If you start to coordinate an shg then you can develop you own professional skills like managing people and working together in a team.

6. At last, it provide you an opportunity to come out from your comfort zone and meet the outside world. You will really enjoy it if you like traveling and roam to new place like me. 

ईगल बनिए, तोता नहीं . . . !

"Don't be a parrot in life, be an eagle. 

A parrot speaks but can't fly high. 

But An Eagle is silent & has willpower to touch the sky."

"जीवन में तोता नहीं, एक ईगल समान बनो. एक तोता बोलता है, लेकिन ऊँची उड़ान नहीं भर सकता. परन्तु एक ईगल खामोश रहता है और इच्छाशक्ति के बल पर आसमान को छूता है."

कल रात एक दोस्त का यह एस.एम.एस. मेरे मोबाईल पर आया है. यह सन्देश वाकई हमें एक सकारात्मक सन्देश देता है. हम अगर एक ईगल की तरह हो जाएं तो जीवन को सफल बना सकते हैं. हकलाहट कोई वजह नहीं है, जो हमें अपने सपने पूरे करने से रोक सके. हमें हर वक्त तोते की तरह बोलना आवश्यक नहीं है, बल्कि हम अपनी बात को धीरे से, आराम से बोलकर कह सकते हैं. जीवन में ऊँची उड़ान उन्ही की होती है जो कम बोलते हैं और काम की बातें बोलते हैं. आसमान की ऊँचाइयों को छूने के लिए हौसले की जरूरत होती है, अगर हकलाहट की चुनौती सामने है तो यह संकल्प करें की हमें हर हाल में अपनी मंजिल को पाना है, कुछ कर दिखाना है. 

- अमितसिंह कुशवाह

Mobile No. 0 9 3 0 0 9 - 3 9 7 5 8 

Herbertpur , 26 March 2012

Today I reached herbertpur around 3:30 pm . I went to Anugrah with Dr Sachin and there I read a poster on which a lot of good thing were written like- - *we should not worry because worry is the least productive activity in the whole life ,- -*Count your blessings including the small one because many smalls blessings together makes a bigger one, --*Do not worring about the things that had happened in the past , now it cannot be change & it’s already gone .Dr sachin asked me to introduce myself in front of the strangers (employee of anugrah) .

At 4:15 we were back from anugrah and then we went to do some “Karate” (Dr sachin is black belt and I am black leather belt) . Karate was a new thing to me . It was difficult for me to cope with other students ,even little kids were doing good then me :P .

After that we went to the market , Dr sachin asked me that there is a homeopathic practitioner and you go to him and a tell him that you stammer and ask him if there is any medicine of stammering , I went to there and told that I am Gorav and I stammer and is there any medicine which could cure my stammering . He told that stammering is not a disease and there is no medicine for it you just need to practice like reading loud and then repeating the word where you stutter, read like you are singing a song etc but I told no there is a medicine in homeopathic I had read in a book at my home , I told him that I will bring that book and then show it to you. He told that yes should bring the book and also he will consult other seniors about this.Then we went to different shops where I had to talk to the shopkeepers and enquire about their products . After that I had dinner and went to bed .

SHG meeting at Herbutpur on Sunday , 25 March 2012

This Shg meeting was attended by 4 people as follows --Dr sachin , Pavan singh rathore ,Pranav and Gorav datta (me ). Dr sachin showed us NC videos we all had lot of fun watching Sachin , Vivekk & Raja competing in a sprint on KONARK BEACH …… I was requested to give a running commentary on the videos for the benefit of pawan & pranav .

Now Pranav & I , were invited one by one to stand in the front and answer questions in English .Both of us are IT Professionals but Dr Sachin did not give up easily and kept on asking difficult questions like “ Conditional formatting , Absolute/ relative referencing in Excel , Role of unique ID in ‘rdbms’ , difference in c & c++ etc…

So we had lot of practice of EXPLANING Complex concepts in English as well as asking questions . The session ended with a feedback session where we gave positive feedback and an encouragement to each other and dispersed about 2 hours

लेखक - डॉक्टर सचिन

Bangalore SHG Meeting report - 25th March 2012

Hi All,

This time the meeting started bit late at 10.30 AM as we were expecting some more participants, strength was less as 5 of them were attending communication workshop in Chennai. Also we were expecting 2 more new joinees but they were not able to make it.


We started off with slow reading practice and general introduction about our family.


Later there was a prepared speech by Sairam, who told us a very inspiring story about American actor Christopher Reeve who played the Superman character in Superman series films in 1970’s. Reeve felled from horse while jumping over fence and sustained a cervical spinal injury that paralyzed him from the neck down.  After considering his situation, believing that not only would he never walk again, but that he might never move a body part again, Reeve considered suicide. Great support from his wife made him to reconsider the decision and develop a positive approach towards life. Reeve was elected Chairman of the American Paralysis Association and Vice Chairman of the National Organization on Disability. He co-founded the Reeve-Irvine Research Center, which is now one of the leading spinal cord research centers in the world. He created the Christopher Reeve Foundation (currently known as the Christopher and Dana Reeve Foundation) to speed up research through funding, and to use grants to improve the quality of the lives of people with disabilities. The Foundation to date has given more than $65 million for research, and more than $8.5 million in quality-of-life grants.


Then we had a group discussion on “ Is caste based reservation is necessary in Education system”. We shared our views, exchanged our thoughts and discussed about its drawbacks for around 30 Min.


We concluded the session by getting determined to practice slow reading /slow speaking for at least 30 Min everyday and to get involved in any hobbies so that our mental stress gets reduced.


Also there was a suggestion from Jittu that we can practice yoga/breathing exercise for 10 mins in every meeting. This suggestion will be taken up in the next meeting.


Attendees : Sairam, Chandrashekar & Jittu. 


Written by : Chandra kumar.

The Three F's Rule (Report of Delhi SHG, March 25, 2012)

(दायें से बाएं जगदीश, उमेश, जितेंदर, सौरव, प्रभात, सिकंदर, अमित, अभिषेक, अजित और अनिकेत)

आज की मीटिंग कुल १० लोगों ने हिस्सा लिया जिसके facilitator उमेश थे | सबसे पहले हम सबने अपना परिचय अपना Ambition बताते हुए दिया | तथा TISA DELHI SHG ने दो नए मेम्बर्स कमलेश्वर और अनिकेत की स्वागत किया|

आज उमेश ने एक छोटी कहानी के रूप में Three F's Rule के बारे में बताया , Three F का मतलब है FRIGHT(डरना ), FLY(भागना ) और FIGHT(लड़ना) | इस रुल का निष्कर्ष यह था की हमें किसी भी स्थिति से डरना(Fright), नहीं चाहिए और न ही किसी स्थिति से डरकर भागना (fly) चाहिए बल्कि हर स्थिति का डटकर सामना(fight) करना चाहिए क्योंकि जब भी हम किसी चीज से डरकर भागने की कोशिश करते हैं वह चीज हमें और डराती है | हम किसी स्थिति से भागकर उससे कुछ देर के लिए तो बच सकते हैं लेकिन हर परस्थिति में ऐसा करना संभव नहीं है | अर्थात हमें टालने का रवैया छोड़कर हर परस्थिति का डटकर सामना करना चाहिए | इसके लिए उमेश ने कुत्ते के व्यव्हार का उदारहण दिया जिसके अनुसार कुत्तों से डरकर हम जितना उनसे दूर भागने की कोशिश करते हैं वे उतना ही हमें डराते और दौड़कर कटाने की कोशिश करते हैं , लेकिन जैसे ही हम उनका सामना करने के लिए रुकते हैं तो वे दुम दबाकर भाग जाते हैं.|

आगे की बात शुरू करने से पहले हम सबने अपना-अपना एक motto तय किया की आज बात करते हुए हम किस ground rule को follow करेंगे, इसके बाद हम सभी ने अपने motto को follow करते हुए stammering से जुड़े अपने-अपने अनुभवों को शेयर किया | जिसमे कुछ मेम्बर्स के अनुभव तो बेहद funny थे|

कुछ देर तक हमने अपने-अपने fear word के विषय में बात की लगभग सभी के fear word अलग-अलग थे लेकिन मज़ेदार बात यह थी की लगभग सभी मेम्बर्स के नाम का पहला अक्षर उसके fear word में शामिल था, जिसके कारण हमें अपना नाम बोलने में ज्यादा दिक्कत होती है |

अंत में हम सबने सेंट्रल पार्क में लगे buddy bear की मूर्तियों को निहारा, इन सभी मूर्तियों पर विभिन्न देशों की लोक संस्कृतियों के सुन्दर दृश्य बड़े ही खूबसूरती के साथ बनाये गए हैं| इसके बाद लगभग सभी मेम्बर्स अपने घरो की ओर चल दिए, लेकिन मैं (जितेन्द्र) और जगदीश कुछ देर तक सेंट्रल पार्क में रुके रहे और सभी भालुओं को ध्यान से देखते रहे तथा जगदीश ने कुछ विदेशियों से बात की | मूर्तियों को देखने के बाद हम दोनों जंतर-मंतर पर भी गए जहाँ अन्ना का अनशन चल रहा था| हमने भी अन्ना को support किया | और उसके बाद हम दोनों भी अपने घर के लिए निकल लिए|
यह मीटिंग काफी बढ़िया रही और हम सभी ने एक दुसरे के अनुभवों से काफी कुछ सीखा, यह एक यादगार मीटिंग थी.

धन्यवाद

News from Chennai!

 Chennai two day workshop takes off. Just received the three pics from Raja. I can see the three regulars- Siva, Mani, Vishal... I am sure there are others too, who have been inspiring pws thru their example .. Cheers to Chennai group!

मज़बूरी इंसआन को सब सीखा देती है ?

24 March 2012, 6:30 pm

Now I am very upset and I am crying. Just an hour ago my cousin brother Himanshu bakshi had come to my house and we (all the family members, me, cousin brother) were having discussion on various topic. I was also participating in the conversation and giving my opinion. I told them about my situation at Rajpura railway station that how I was very scared and not able to speak and enquire for my train & buy tickets and finally I had to write it down on a piece of paper to get the tickets . My cousin brother asked what will you do if you had to ask something from your boss, I told if I am not able to speak I will simply write it down on a piece of paper and tell him what I want .Then he told laughingly that if you had to go to the girls house for a marriage proposal then also you will write on a piece of paper and convey what you wanted to say. I was really hurt from inside. Then he told that “ मज़बूरी इंसआन को सब सीखा देती है ”. His point was that I stammer only because I hadn’t put myself under “Majburi “more difficult situations. I got very emotional & was about to burst in tears . Was it my mistake to write it down on a piece of paper when my speech was not helping me out , to make the situation more difficult I would have torn the paper & throw away my pen and without using any hand gesture or any other help , I would have tried to communicate using my speech only? Somehow I manage myself & controlled my emotions of crying . Will I have to always carry a pen and a piece of paper all my life ?

I accept that I stammer but I don't want to stammer (I don't like to stammer) .I am able to accept it now easily that I stammer may be because I know that i won’t be stammering later but what if had to stammer my whole life ? what if I had to always carry a pen & a blank page all my life ? ohh God I don't want that , I don't want to stammer all my life .I cannot ACCEPT that .

Who wants to be a Millionaire ?

If you want to be a millionaire then why don't you put yourself in a situation where you will have to be a millionaire and there is no other option. -- Take as much loan as you can from a bank ( against your house or any other possession ) and then give the money to the poor people .Now you will have to earn that much money to get your house back .Now you are in a hard situation “ मज़बूरी” and you will definitely find a solution to earn that much amount of money . now you have the way to earn the money and you will be a Millionaire for sure . Try it its absolutely free !

** Readers are free to give true comments without any hesitation . I won’t feel bad if your comment is against me .I just want is to learn and find an answer to my questions

DELHI SHG MEETING

Delhi shg will meet on 25/3/2012 at central park on 11 a.m..umesh and saurabh are very interested to do some special experiment with real life situation they have some creative ideas. so for any queries please contact umesh rawat(09813973747),and saurabh (09654528733). thanks.....

बात करने के नए अवसर तलाशें . . . !

मै बचपन से ही जब भी मार्केट जाता था तो जो सामान खरीदना होता पर्ची में लिखकर ले जाता. यहाँ तक की एक वस्तु भी लेनी होती तो उनका नाम भी पर्ची में लिख कर देता. इस विवशता पर मुझे अक्सर दुःख होता की एक चीज लेने के लिए भी लिख कर देना पड़ता है. धीरे-धीरे वक्त गुजरता गया और आज मै शापिंग करते समय पर्ची का इस्तेमाल नहीं करता, बल्कि बोलकर ही सामान मांगता हूँ.

हकलाने के कारण हम अपने काम को आसान बनाने के लिए इस तरह के उपाय अपनाते हैं. जैसे हमेशा एक ही शॉप से सारा सामान खरीदना, क्योकि दुकानदार हमसे अच्छी तरह से परिचित होता है. जब दूकान पर कोई दूसरा ग्राहक न हो, तब वस्तु मांगना, हम जिस शॉप से हमेशा खरीदते हैं अगर वह बंद है तो दूसरे दूकान पर ना जाना. यह मेरे साथ अभी कुछ दिनों पहले हुआ. मै जिस दूकान से मोबाइल का रिचार्ज लेता था, वह एक दिन बंद थी तो मैंने उस दिन रीचार्ज नहीं लिया, फिर अगले दिन जब वह दूकान खुली तो उसके पास गया.


हकलाहट के कारण हम नए लोगों से जुड़ने में संकोच करते हैं. हम जीवन में चेंज नहीं करना चाहते, क्योकि उससे हम असहज हो जाते हैं. इस कारण हम लोगों से जुड़ने का सुनहरा अवसर खो देते हैं. अगर आप इन छोटी बातों पर भी ध्यान दें तो हर दिन नए लोगों से मिलने और बात करने का मौका मिल सकता है. जरा सोचिए आप जिस सामान को खरीदने के लिए हमेशा अपने घर से दूर जाते रहे हैं अगर वही चीज आपको घर के पास वाली दूकान पर मिल जाए तो..! क्योकि आप अनजाने लोगों से बात करने में कतराते रहे इसलिए आपको यह मालूम ही नहीं चला की आपकी जरूरत की चीज तो पास में ही मिल रही है.


आप एक काम और कर सकते हैं. जब आपको ज्यादा खरीदारी करनी हो तो लिस्ट साथ में लेकर जाएं और खुद एक-एक सामान बोलकर मांगें. इससे आपकों बोलने का मौका मिलेगा. और आप नए लोगो से जुड़ पाएँगे. इसी तरह जब टिकट खरीदनी हो तो लम्बी और गहरी सांस लेकर थोडा रिलेक्स हो जाएँ और आराम से बोले, जल्दीबाजी में नहीं. इससे आप जो बोलना चाहते हैं आसानी से बोल पाएँगे. 


जब कॉल सेंटर पर बात करने की लत लग गई . . .

२००९ में मुझे एक बार एयर टिकट बुक कराने के लिए जानकारी लेने का विचार आया. मैंने तुरंत वेब साईट से कई एयरलाइंस के टोल फ्री नंबर लिए और बात करना शुरू कर दिया. दिन में कई बार फोन करके फ्लाइट्स की जानकारी और फेयर के बारे में जानता रहता. इससे मै पूरे आत्मविश्वास से बात कर पाता था. एयर टिकट कैसे बुक होते हैं और कैसे एयर लाइंस का संचालन होता है इसके बारे में काफी कुछ जान गया. एक बार काल सेंटर पर एक महिला ने कहा की आप रोज़ फोन करते हैं, तो मैंने उन्हें बताया की मैं हकलाता हूँ और प्रैक्टिस करने के लिए फोन करता हूँ. तो उन्होंने कहा - "आप हकलाते हैं तो क्या हुआ, आप सबसे खुलकर बात किया करें."  इससे मुझे अहसास हुआ की दूसरे लोग हमारी सुनते हैं और हकलाहट को समझने की कोशिश करते हैं.


इस तरह हम बात करने के नए अवसर खुद तलाशें. अगर हम हकलाते भी हैं तो क्या फर्क पड़ता हैं, हमें तो हर हाल में बोलना है, अपना काम करना है. जब हम दूसरों की चिंता करना छोड़ देते हैं तो हम हकलाहट को नियंत्रित करने का पहला कदम उठाते हैं. इसलिए जब भी अपरिचित लोगों से बात करने का मौका मिले तो शुरू हो जाएं . . .


- अमितसिंह कुशवाह
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Mumbai SHG meeting schedule on 25th Mar'12

This is to inform Mumbai and Pune PWS that we are again scheduling a meeting on this sunday 25th Mar'12

Venue:  Wadala Five gardens, Wadala

Date:    Sunday 25th March 2012
Time:   2.00 PM
Address: Mancherji Joshi Five garden. Wadala

To reach Mancherji joshi five gardens: Nearest station is Wadala railway Station (harbour line). It is 5 minutes walking distance from the station. It is approx. five minutes walking distance from the Eastern Express Highway and Kings circle as well.

If you have any issue, please don't hesitate to contact me (9167364004 [number valid till friday. :)]) or romi (9769383897). we would be happy to help you.

Thanks,

Prakash Kharvi

HAKLO, Magar Pyaar se

Himachal SHG

TISA has started a SHGprocess in Himachal with help from Vinod and Pawan. If you are in Himachal, do contact them.

अपनी क्षमताओं को निखारें

पिछले दिनों हकलाने वाले एक दोस्त का फ़ोन आया था. बातचीत के दौरान उन्होंने बताया - "हकलाने के कारण कंप्यूटर और इंटरनेट सीखने के बारे में नहीं सोचा, क्योकि मैं चाहता था की पहले मैं अपनी हकलाहट को ठीक करूँ, फिर कोई दूसरी चीज के बारे में सोचूं."

यह सुनकर मुझे ज़रा भी आश्चर्य नहीं हुआ, क्योकि एक हकलाने वाले व्यक्ति के लिए सबसे पहली प्राथमिकता होती है अपनी हकलाहट को ठीक करने की कोशिश करना, यह जरूरी भी है. लेकिन हकलाहट के कारण जिन्दगी के दूसरे जरूरी कामों को छोड़ देना भी समझदारी का काम नहीं कहा जा सकता.

शिक्षा का मुख्य उद्देश्य है जीवन के लिए तैयारी. हम अपनी हकलाहट को लेकर ही हमेशा बैठे रहें यह ठीक नहीं. जीवन चलाने के लिए धन की जरुरत होती है और धन कमाने के लिए अपनी क्षमताओं को निखारना, नई चीजों को सीखना जरूरी है. प्रोफेशनल युग में ज्ञान और कौशल दोनों का बहुत अधिक महत्त्व है.

आप कम्पूटर एनीमेशन, वेब डिजाइन, मल्टीमीडिया जैसे कई फील्ड में पार्ट टाइम या फुल टाइम काम करने के लिए ढेरों कोर्स करके अच्छा जॉब पा सकते हैं. जब आर्थिक निर्भरता आती है तो मन में एक आत्मविश्वास आता है.

 और मैं डिलीवरी बॉय से रिपोर्टर बन गया . . . 

एक और ज़रूरी बात यह है की शुरू में जो भी काम मिले मन लगाकर करें, कोई काम छोटा या बड़ा नहीं होता. मैने शुरूआत में भोपाल में एक कोरियर सर्विस में डिलीवरी बॉय की पोस्ट पर १,५०० (एक हजार पांच सौ रूपए) में लगभग आठ महीने तक काम किया था, पूरी ईमानदारी और मेहनत से. इसके बाद एक संयोग हुआ की एक कोरियर अखबार के आफिस का आया, जब मै वह देने के लिए गया तो वहां के सम्पादक जी सामने बैठे थे जो की मेरे परिचित थे और मेरी लेखन प्रतिभा से भी. उन्होंने मुझे बैठने को कहा और बातचीत के दौरान मुझे अपने अखबार में रिपोर्टर के पद पर काम के लिए प्रस्ताव दिया. मैंने तुरंत इस प्रस्ताव को स्वीकार कर लिया. मै हकलाता था इसलिए अखबार के मालिक ने इंटरव्यू के दौरान मुझे नौकरी देने से मना कर दिया था, लेकिन सम्पादक जी ने मुझ पर विश्वास करते हुए, अपने रिस्क पर मुझे नौकरी पर रखवा दिया. कुछ समय काम करने के बाद जब अखबार के मालिक ने मेरी रिपोर्ट्स को पढ़ा तो खुद अपने पास बुलाकर मेरी तारीफ़ की.

यहाँ मै यह कहना चाहता हूँ की मेहनत और खुद पर भरोसा करके हम अपनी राह को आसान बना सकते हैं. अगर सरकारी जॉब ना भी मिल पाएं तो भी प्राइवेट सेक्टर में छोटे-बड़े हर तरह के काम की भरमार हैं, बस उसके अनुसार कौशल विकशित करें और लग जाएं काम पर...

और साथ ही अपनी रुचिओं के अनुसार भी कुछ सीखते रहें, जैसे गिटार बजाना, कोई इनडोर या आउट डोर गेम, संगीत. हाँ, हमेशा इंटरनेट से चिपके रहने की सलाह मै अपने दोस्तों को नहीं दूंगा.

- अमित सिंह कुशवाह.
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Story Telling

How many of you have been told stories as children? How many children get to hear it today? When I was a child my sister, my parents and some friends use to tell me stories. I did not get to "watch" Ramayan- but was told the story by my father, over many exciting evenings.

But today, that popular and wholesome family activity has vanished. Today, family watches the TV quietly and then retires for the night, since next morning everyone (including the children) has to rush off somewhere. During the day, when there may be time, people would rather talk to their smart-phones rather than to each other.

But story telling can be a very useful tool for language acquisition, communication skills, bonding and development of values and personality of the child. Even for older pws, this can be a very useful exercise- since it involves, imagination, thinking, telling and impromptu "special effects" and is full of fun for both parties.

I make it a point to "teach" this to the parents who come to me. This video, shows a Sikh gentleman telling a story from the life of Guru Nanak Dev ji, to his adopted child (a cws) and then the child retells the story back to him. I had to tell the father a few rules a couple of times: Keep the story simple. Only one story at a time and always ask for the feedback- the whole story back in child's own words and dont forget to praise him for the effort.

I hope they will continue this back home and have fun every evening. I myself was so touched that soon after, I researched and read the life of Sri Guru Govind Singh ji on Wikipedia. Ramakrishna once said that the ten Sikh gurus were the reincarnation of King Janak, hence such perfect balance in Bhakti and Karmayog in their lives.

Interview Time

Today I again face the interview of part time computer operator job in a private company.. Before reaching the interview venue, I have to face many problems like asking rikshaw wala, asking auto driver, the address of that venue and if he can’t help me then I have to ask many people on road side(which is very difficult for me), then after passing this hurdle, I reached the venue(I am much sweating), then I got fresh. The interviewer asked me about myself, my educational qualification, my experience. I told him about myself (at first I am totally blocked, no words are coming out, then I take a long breathe and start saying those lines by using stop pause method and prolongation and this really help me to say those lines easily) and also I realized that its my time, I have to say. I told him that I stammer, then he said “its ok I understand you carry on” then I also asked him about his company and its working.. Then he said “I am giving you our another company address”(where I have to work), and he write his address on a piece of paper, now I had to go there( uff again tough work for me).

Normally if I can’t able to ask somebody, then I give those paper where I have written address and ask him the address(so that he can see my written address), but the paper given by this person is very badly written(no one can’t read this) so I have to ask this address by myself. So I start asking people, some laugh at me very badly, I told him “yar ye tum khud pe hass rahe ho, mere pe nahi” then he said nothing, then some good peoples help me to find the address. Now again I am sweating much, but I don’t care about it and move to meet the Manager of  that company and lastly he said me “You have to work 10am-7pm”, which is not possible for me and I said him “sorry sir” and I leaved that place and came to my home.

The experience was great because it really teaches me many things, some are bad and some are “Feel good” experiences. I also feels that when I am asking  someone or I got those hard blocks, then my mind stops working and all energy forces me to say those Words. The only solution(that I feel at that time)  help me to get rid of those blocks is “take 2-3sec breathe and again try to say those words by using some technique”.

Its Very difficult for me at first, but I faced the interview successfully!

18 मार्च की दिल्ली S.H.G. मीटिंग

बाएं से दायें अनूप नागरथ, अभिषेक, गोविन्द, सिकंदर, प्रमेन्द्र, सौरव, चन्दन, जितेन्द्र (स्वयं) और जगदीश.

सबसे पहले हम सब ने एक दुसरे को अपना परिचय दिया. उसके बाद अनूप सर ने stammering को नियंत्रित करने के लिए स्लो स्पीड टेक्निक का उपयोग करने का निर्देश दिया, जिसके बाद हम सभी ने दोबारा अपना परिचय स्लो स्पीड टेक्निक का उपयोग करते हुए दिया. उसके बाद अनूप ने cancellation, pre block correction और post block correction पर चर्चा हुई और साथ ही इस बात पर भी चर्चा हुई की stammering अनुवांशिकता से फ़ैल सकती है या नहीं?

उसके बाद सिकंदर, जगदीश और प्रमेन्द्र ने stammering से जुड़े कुछ अनुभव बताये जिसका निष्कर्ष यह था की हकला कर बोलने से किसी को भी कुछ फर्क नहीं पड़ता केवल हम सोचते रहते है की अगर हम हकला बोलेंगे तो लोग क्या सोचेंगे.

जगदीश ने बताया की कॉलेज की कैंटीन में वह पिछले दो साल से सेम चीज खा रहा है क्योंकि वह टाइम प्रेसर के अन्दर किसी अन्य चीज का नाम नहीं बोल पाता. लेकिन अब उसने निश्चय किया है की वह कैंटीन में अपनी मनपसंद चीज ही खायेगा और मुश्किल से भागेगा नहीं उसका सामना करेगा.

प्रमेन्द्र ने बताया की हॉस्पिटल में एक डॉक्टर से बात करते हुए वह एक शब्द पर बहुत देर तक हकलाया लेकिन डॉक्टर ने उस पर जरा भी ध्यान नहीं दिया और न ही कोई कमेन्ट किया. अर्थात हमारे हकलाने से किसी पर कोई फर्क नहीं पड़ता , अतः यह सोचना बेकार है की लोग क्या सोचेंगे.

अंत में हम सब ने एक एक्टिविटी की जिसमे सभी मेम्बर्स को किसी एक टॉपिक पर दो मिनट तक सभी के सामने खड़ा होकर बोलना था, ताकि हमारा आत्मविश्वास बढे और हमें पब्लिक के बीच में कुछ बोलने में दिक्कत न हो.

हमारी यह मीटिंग सफल रही हम सब ने कुछ नया सीखा और एक दुसरे के अनुभव को शेयर किया.

मीटिंग के बाद हमने दोबारा मिलने का वादा करके हम सब अपने अपने घरों की ओर चल दिए.

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जीतेन्द्र गुप्ता

HUm hai mumbai stammerers

Dilli se aaya mera dost..

Hello guys,

Here are details of Bangalore SHG meet up - March 18th 2012. I will try to
summarize the events happened in short as long articles are boring to read.
But I think PWS learn a lot from other stammerers' experiences so I will
try to write all the events even if the article gets long :)

*Theme of meet up - 'To speak about weired things we have done in past' *

*Attendees - *Dinesh, Sai Ram, Karthik, Jittu, Prasad, Manoj, Chandhan,
Alok, Arvind, Myself(Abhinav) and special guest Mr. JK Nimbeker.

Meet up started with speaking on today's theme. I am going to describe
some of the weired things done by participants , I will not be writing name
of person as they may feel awkward :)

1.

Our first participant used to talk a lot with out stammering when he was
drunk. One day he had conference call with his client in office. So in
order to speak fluently he mixed Old Monk (Famous rum available in
Bangalore , I do not know if you guys get in NCR and other parts of India)
with Pepsi and went to his office. Before conference call with his client
he drank that and the weired thing was that was his worst call ever with
client as he stammered badly :).

   2.

One participant along with his friend went for movie 'Murder' in
multiplex, By mistake they entered in wrong screen which was running movie
'Muskaan' . When 'Muskaan' movie started playing they thought it was just
trailer but after that they realized their mistake that they have entered
in wrong screen and in the end both of these guys ended up watching Muskaan
. They bought ticket for Murder and watched Muskaan, its really weired.

   3.

One participant was not aware with time feature in Samsung TV when he
used to stay with his friends. So by mistake he setup timer in TV ( which
will automatically start the TV at setup time) instead of system time. All
of his friends were sleeping in night and suddenly TV automatically turned
on and they were wondering who turned on TV late night.

    4.

One participant was watching TV with his friend at his friend place.
Friend's remote was not working properly. They were watching movie and they
decided when the intimate scene will come they will change the channel . As
soon as intimate scene started friend's mother entered in room, they tried
to change channel with their faulty remote and it failed :) .. Friend's
mother said to friend that do some thing good instead of watching these
scenes . It was really awkward moment for them.

   5.

Next participant was traveling in Bangalore bus. Conductor asked him for
ticket and he asked for last stop ticket as he was not comfortable in
speaking name of the place where he wanted to get down (I think this
happens with all PWS when conductor ask for ticket). The weired thing was
that bus route was from railway station to railway station . So why the
person who started his journey from railway station will ask for railway
station ticket again :) . At last he ended up speaking the exact place
where he wanted to get down.

   5.

Next participant used to have trouble in school while giving
introduction to teacher. One day new teacher asked him to introduce himself
and he stammered like any thing. At last teacher advised him to use abusive
words while speaking to reduce stammering. This is really weired guys
because we can never expect such advice from our teacher.

   6.

So how does a father find Mr Prince for his daughter? Our next
participant went to girl's house for his marriage. Girl's father asked him
to introduce himself. He stammered like any thing, girl's father was
shocked . He asked him if he had any other problems apart from stammering
and marriage proposal was rejected.

So that was the weired things done by participants or happened in their
life. Its always awesome experience to listen to PWS. I and all PWS really
enjoy sharing their feelings. I am sorry if I missed the other weired
things told by participants.

After that we had surprise guest from Delhi SHG Mr.J.K.Nimbeker. He was in b’luru for his official work and he found out about our SHG,Bengaluru meeting through facebook - just an hour before the meeting. I would like to express my gratitude to him, for taking out his time and drop by to SHG. He shared his view about stammering, its causes and possible solutions. 

 Mr JK Nimbeker is from Delhi. He told us that how breathing plays
important role while speaking and PWS should focus on breathing. Most of
the time stammering occurs due to wrong breathing. Breathing is fundamental
and strongest habit of all human beings. If PWS can correct their breathing
they will be able to speak fluently. He did not use to follow any technique
or style of speaking because he felt that if one day you are able to speak
fluently in style A, you may or may not be able to speak fluently in same
style next day. So build your confidence in day to day life and train your
mind and breath, these things will really help us in overcoming our
problems. He shared that stammerers mind assumes speaking as a threat and triggers body defence to counteract the threat - during this procedure body is more prepared to take quick physical actions to subdue the threat and is not at all prepared to give a speech or formulate his thoughts at this moment.

So we concluded that anxiety related to stammering should be decreased by various methods, breathing, attending SHG, regular pracice so that mind and body will be relaxed during speaking procedure will not consider it as a threat and no advert body body reaction will result due to this.

Now there was turn of prepared speech of the week. Alok (aeronautical
engineer) shared his knowledge about how airplane works. Chandan (pursuing
mechanical engineering) and Mr JK Nimbeker also shared their knowledge on
this topic. I really forgot how airplane works after my schooling. It was
great to revise our physics concepts again.

After that Karthik presented Fish-bone theory ( Cause and Effect analysis)
. We tried to find out what are the root causes of stammering. We had very
good discussion on this. Some key points of our discussions are as follows

*Our environment is one of the root cause -* One of the key factors for
stammering is our environment. If parents talks too fast, children also try
to follow their style and this may result in stammering. In schools
teachers should take care of students who stammers. What happens now if a
student stammers in class while speaking in classroom, teacher asked
him/her to sit down. It really affects the confidence of student like any
thing. So teacher should talk to the parents of students who stammers and
arrange extra classes after school to deal with his problem. What PWS needs
is support from outside environment.

*Its not genetics problem –* We had a strong discussion whether it is
genetics problem or not. If it is problem in genes so all the children of
same parents should have stammering problem but generally it is not the
case. According to theory of evolution only best genes are passed from
parents to their children so by that theory weak genes (which causes
stammering) if exists at all ( we do not know if there are such genes which
causes stammering) should not be passed to children. So its not genetics
problem at all. I also feel that its not genetics problem because when we
are alone we can speak the same word without any difficulty, while when we
are tensed or in state of fear we stammer badly on that world.

*Are % of males suffering from this problems more* - So we had discussion
if male has more tendency to suffer from this problem or female. One of the
points stated is females have habit of speaking more than males
from start of human existence. They are more socializing than males so they
have less chances of suffering from this problem.

So in the end we concluded that we should have strong confidence that we
have to speak fluently. With proper maintenance of our system (breathing +
mind + practices) we can over come our problems. We have examples of many
people in front of us who were stammerer and they worked on their speech
and became one of the best orators in world. We ended our meet up with this
saying

Tabiyat se  ek pathar ucchalo to yaaro, aasman me bhi surag hota hai..
Dil se koshish karne wala hamesha kamyaab hota hai..

So this was end of our meet up. It was awesome like always. Coming week
end some of the participants are going to Chennai for 2 days TISA workshop.
See you guys there :)
Write-up, Abhinav and Chandan