The first time I stammered was while answering the roll call in school. I was 6 years old and had no idea this trait would cause fear and humiliation as I grew older.
I solved the roll call problem by raising my hand to make myself visible instead of answering `Present, Miss’. However oral tests continued to be a torture.
My parents took me to a paediatrician who said `Your son thinks and speaks fast, compared to others. Get him into swimming, cycling, classical music and other such rhythmic activities to calm him down.’ None of this cured my stammer although I did find an alternative pastime.
The treatment included physical strengthening exercises, instructive or repetitive practice and drills, use of audio-visual aids, sign language, picture symbols and other strategies to facilitate functional communication. I also tried hypnotherapy and Reiki. None of it helped much. Prolongation Therapy from a Reader’s Digest article advised delay during speech delivery. I thought this one would work but within a month I realized it was impossible to apply the strategy in actual practice. In 1999 armed with an MBA in Finance I applied for a job in a public sector company.
Although I had all the qualifications need for the post I was refused. Maybe it was over sensitivity, but I assumed it was my stammer that had worked against me and wondered if there was a way I could let the recruiters know that it was not my fault.
Then I came across a website called Indian Stammering Association (ISA). Discovering that there were many other PWS (People Who Stammer) in the same boat as me proved to be the turning point. Ironically what helped was the knowledge that stammering cannot be cured, only controlled. And the first step in that direction was to accept the trait and be frank about the problem.
It was as if a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I felt less stressed and performed better socially and career wise. I landed a job as assistant professor at the University of Social Sciences in South Gujarat University. The initial days were rough, but, as I said earlier, I never hid anything from my students. Whenever I went for a lecture, I told the audience about my problem and they understood and readily agreed to co-operate with me. That was a major confidence booster.
In 2003, I was called to do a presentation in Pune, for a seminar organized by a German aid firm JTZ. I finally managed to break free off my mental blocks and faced a crowd of 150. As previously decided I told the audience about my problem before I began.
In 2005, I completed my PhD in Health Economics.
In April 2008, I along with a few friends started TISA (The Indian Stammering Association), a self-help group in Mumbai, which meets periodically to help PWS with survival tips, tricks and strategies. About 1% of the adult population stammers while about 5-15% of school children stammer. In India that accounts for 11-12 million people, of which there’s one lakh in Mumbai alone. That is a large chunk of people who were either avoiding the problem or suffering quietly. TISA, which has support groups in all major cities of India, is there to help them.
9 comments:
Great!
Thanks Harish!
Dr. Akash
Complimenti,
congratulazione per il vostro successo.
@ Harish.. Thanks for sharing buddy!
it is a good thing that there is this support group in India for stutterers. I also stutter and I am from the Philippines. As far as I know, there are no support groups here. People are or many people are unaware here regarding stuttering. I even havent tried meeting anyone who also stutters here in the Philippines. My problem is how to get a job since I am already 33 years old. I am a BSComputer Science and BSnursing graduate but I still cant get a job coz of this stutter. There are lots of Big companies in Phi especially those call centers and they offer a lot of job opportunities. I got the knowledge and skill but certainly, I cant communicate well which this is something that they require. I am glad you got that support group in INdia. I know its a big help to relieve the stress brought about by stuttering.
Well done Akash!
This blog has misleading title... This seems more about how acceptance has decreased the stress and which lead to better communication. Nowhere does the author claim that he has started speaking fluently.
Its a very good thing..
Hope this inspires quiet PWS to come into open
Great going Akash.
This will inspire umpteen others, me included :-)
Nitin
@Anonymous: I agree about misleading title. All through the interview I tried to convey that I haven't been "cured" of my stammering and I am not even aiming at that. But then magazines are interested in "success stories" so the report is not written exactly the way I would have liked but that alright. I also need to point out that I am not the author of this report, I was only interviewed.
Cong.. Sir
Very Inspirational Post !!
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