June 27, 2016

Our Heroes..

If stammering could be compared with a bog ("daldal"), it can be safely said that there are many paths leading to this bog- and there are MANY paths leading out of it! Amit, the writer below, attended a communication workshop in 2013. He got hold of one idea: I must get rid of shame and fear. 
And this is what he did after returning to his town (Allahabad) - with the help of a card worn round his neck: "I stammer. Please pay attention when I speak ..". His courage and persistence is amazing and INSPIRING.  Here is his story in his own words. 

Ye card mujhe apki hebertpur workshop 2013 me apne diya ta...uske bad maine waha se wapas aate samay puri yatra k dauran ye card pehne rakha or logo ne iske bare me janna chaha or mai comfortably unka samna krta gya...meri sharam kam ho rahi thi aisa mujhe feel hua...
fir waha se lautne k bad maine socha q na kuch naya kiya jaye..ye card pehan k logo k beech jate h dekte h kya hota hai...tab mai ssc ki coaching karta ta...Mere batch me 500 students the..or daily city bus se 20 km coaching jana padta ta...or mauka b acha h mere pass..to maine socha suru me ghar k pass ise pehanna toda mushkil hoga...to mai coaching se shuruwat karta hu..waha mujhe jyada log jante b nahi hain...to mai coaching me entry karne se pehle ise pehan leta...meri seat agey thi to maine socha agey 2-4 log dhyan dengey...to maine sabse last me door k pass baithna suru kardiya...or har 40 mins me break hota ta..to students aate jate dekhte suru me to sochte ki koi pagal type k banda h kya...jo ye haklata hu jaisa card pehna hai...
fir 1-2 din bad students mujhse puchne lage ye q pehna h isse kya hoga...mirchi khao dr. Ko dikhao etc etc or mai unhe smjhta ki aisa nahi hota or apni bate batata. Suru me thodi sharam lag rahi ti ki koi kya sochega pagal h, hakla pagla gya h etc etc..but maine himmat rakhi or ab situation asaan lagne lagi or card pehan k chalna asaan lagne laga fir maine ghar se suruwat ki or ghar se hi pehan ke chalne laga or bus me b...log ajib c najro se dekte kuch puchte or kuch k liye mai ek paheli ban k unke dimag me ghumta rehta.....
fir maine market me b pehanna suru kardiya....fir airforce canteen me pehan k saman lene gya or waha b billing wale ne card dekke pucha or situation asan banne lagi sharam door hoti gayi...jab hamare yaha entry hoti h to gate pe pass mangte h...or mere liye vo mauka banta gya or jo mujhe pehle pareshan krte the enquiry k nam pe ab mai unke liye pareshani banne laga..
Ek bhaiya rehte hai jo kisi se sahi se baat nahi krte or mujhe pehle bahut chhidhate the ek din mai auto pakadne k liye road side  khada tha...to vo miley or haste huye pucha "Ye kya paglapan h ye kya pehane ho be" tab maine bounce krte huye sab kuch samjhaya tab se vo mujhe sahi se baat krne lagey....ab tak card mere liye ek important chhez banti ja rhi ti jaise shirt pehanna jaruri h to waise card b...ye mere liye comfortable zone sa ban gya...or mujhe kisi b vyakti k samne khud ko stammrer k roop me ya haklane me kaisi b shram nahi reh gyi thi..
fir maine ise na pehanne k decision liya or 2014 k bad se aise hi communication kr rha hu aaj b haklahat hoti h bura fasta hu...but kisi k samne khud ko hakle vyakti k roop me accept krne me koi heen bhavna nahi hoti....is beech maine 3 times CDS qualify karke SSB interview b diya or waha b khoob hakalya...
Jab maine first time CDS qualify kiya tab mai card pehan ta ta or logo ne kaha b mat jao but maine socha tha jo mera aim ta or jis interview k liye maine itna hardwork kiya usey ek baar to jarur dunga...jyada se jyda kya hoga mai select nahi hunga bas...but lifetime afsos to nahi hoga ki mai haklata na to jarur jata...mai gya or aram se face kiya confidently...waha b baki candidates ne stammering k bare me jana...kuch ne majak b udaya ki sahi se bol pata nahi hai or officer banne chala hai...but tab tak ye sab normal ho gya tha...99% sharam to meri card pehanne se  kaise gayab c ho gayi pata hi nahi chala...
Thank you...
Amit Srivastava


(Thank you Amit. You represent the TRUE spirit of TISA! You are our HERO. Our role model. You cant be too far from success and happiness now.. Congrats from ALL of us!)

2 comments:

Amitsingh Kushwah said...

अमित जी, आपके साहस को सलाम. आपने जो हिम्मत दिखाई है वह सच में सराहनीय है. सच तो यही है की हकलाहट के डर को दूर भगाने के लिए आपको बार बार उन्हीं हालातों का सामना करना चाहिए जिससे हम कई सालों से भागते आ रहे हैं. आपकी पोस्ट से कई हकलाने वाले साथिओं को प्रेरणा मिलेगी. मेरी अनंत शुभकामनाएं.

Ravi Kant Sharma said...

आपका post पढ़ते हुए मुझे वो दिन याद आ गया जब मैं भी हरबर्टपुर comm workshop के लिए गया था. वापस लौटने के बाद मैंने भी card को अपना सबसे अच्छा साथी मान कर हर SHG मीटिंग में उसे पहना और जैसा आपके साथ हुआ मेरा भी acceptance level day by day बढ़ता चला गया. मुझे एक वाकिया याद हैं जब मैं भी अपने कोचिंग में वो card पहन कर गया था. CDS interview से मुझे याद आया कि मैंने भी AirForce के लिए SSB दिया था....आप चाहे तो ये पढ़ सकते है... https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3971651600911191218#editor/target=post;postID=5325594312049246125;onPublishedMenu=allposts;onClosedMenu=allposts;postNum=15;src=postname