IMPARTING CONFIDENCE

In recent Herbetpur workshop one  Mr. Anonymous did not like seniors participation. It was my bad luck that I had read the comments on the  blog before it was removed by Dr. Sachin. It has pained me. Besides further improving my speech, my other purpose of attending the workshop was imparting confidence on other participants and to tell that fluency is achievable.

It is only question of uncovering your confidence. It is already there. It is unfortunate that my participation was not taken in true spirit with which I had gone there. May be I could not convey my feelings properly.I am reminded of following from the epic Mahabharata:

In Mahabharta, Duryodhana, the eldest Kaurava is the villain. His envy results in a great war where millions are killed. He cannot bear the success of his cousins the Pandavas. He wants them to be destroyed. He refuses  to part with even 5 villages for the sake of peace. He destroys his own peace of mind so as to destroy his enemies, such hatred where did it come from?

I wondered: what creates a Duryodhana? A man so bitter & angry, who refuses to focus on his own good fortune, but always comparing himself with his cousin and feeling miserable. What creates this personality? Duryodhana’s father Dhritarashtra is blind. His mother, Gandhari is blindfolded. The father cannot see the son. The mother refuses  to see her son (whatever her reason). So a son grows up unseen by his parents. No one notices the child, growing up full of rage. No one corrects him. No one notices the child’s growing sense of inadequacy. The child succumbs to flattery. The result is disastrous.

 We all PWS have felt neglected, unappreciated, unacknowledged at some point of our lives. As student we study hard and get good grades, as professionals we work hard and get paid, but that is not enough. We yearn to be seen, to be recognized and be appreciated by our management, our peers and parents. When that does not happen, we begin to develop a sense of inadequacy, which gnaws at our confidence. This loss of confidence, this accumulated rage can force us to take wrong decisions.

This is where the TISA workshops makes a huge difference. Respect for the individual is a key value for any organization. The greatest benefit of TISA meetings lies not in acquiring communication or leadership skills but in gaining confidence. This is the difference between a Duryodhana and a Yudhishtara. Duryodhana had everything but due to lack of confidence went the wrong way. Yudhishatra even during his most prime time was capable of making the right decisions because he had the confidence in himself.

I believe imparting confidence to each other is our Dhamma in TISA. I owe my so called fluency to TISA, which I want to impart on others. It is also said never keep a gratitude . Give it back. And Mr. Anupinder singh was not there to serve me. We were there on a joint mission.

I feel sorry with folded hands to Mr. Anonymous for spoiling his workshop, which was purely accidental and  unintentional.

If participants can post there honest comments I would be grateful and obliged.

May all Beings be Happy and Peaceful.


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