April 15, 2012

Nature

Yesterday, it was only Vaibhav. He made good use of the opportunity, I guess. He shared two incidents, which I am sure he would not have, in a group situation. He is a class 9 student- passing thru, as we all know, adolescence- when everything is happening for the first time and therefore is seen as a "problem". As he began, my attention turned inwards- was I ready to listen whole heartedly? Was I truly silent both externally and internally? A good counselor will become just a presence minus personality; like a River or a mountain- which is there to listen to us - but does not react. Helping the other person thru problem solving skills comes much later- and in some cases, it may not be needed at all. Listening whole heartedly is ENOUGH in many cases.

So, we talked and later, we practiced some speech skills like holding on to stammering moment; it is a good tool based on Vol.Stuttering. You go into a stutter (or block) and stay CONSCIOUS in that moment, till the other person gives you a sign to come out. It is like taking a big gulp of air and then diving down under water, to see how long you can hold. You may come out using a pull out technique. Sounds simple, but it can cause major upheaval to your cognitive world (and to your ego!).

Afterwards, Vaibhav gave me a ride to Baluwala, from where I took a longish walk back home, as sun set on the wheat fields, Dhaak forests, streams, low hills, hamlets etc. The whole of the day, I had inhabited the world of man- the evening was spent in the world created by Nature.. and it was a very rejuvenating experience to see nature, as it is- untinkered by men. Here are some pics.

5 comments:

Dinesh said...

Beautiful.
An eye openener for guys like me! :-)
With whatever little we know we "jump to help" when we see someone who is more struggling than us.
We should let the storm pass-by then we should reveal to the other person that we exist!! :-)
That is also not required, just being a witness is more than enough.

Mohit kumar said...

Wonderful writing by you sir.Love those sunset pictures.
Sir it will be great if you someday write about stuttering tool techniques, which helps you to control your stammering.
Writing those techniques will be much thankful to us.

J P Sunda said...

Yes, teenage does turn out to be very challenging; even more challenging when you stutter or have something that makes you "different". I am sure Vaibhav would have enjoyed your company. Greats pics (Do you carry your camera always with you ?)

lalit said...

sir listening silently is bliss ..now a day i am finding it is very hard to listen somebody without judgement ... and very nice pics.....

Rajesh V said...

Wow so lovely pics and good narration Sachin ji.
Vaibhav is lucky, spending his time in an enjoying way with you yet in a productive manner.