December 10, 2011

I stammer more while talking in english....

It has been a common belief among most of the stammerers that their frequency of stammering varies from language to language. I do also believe the same. Being brought up and working in northern India, I have always believed that I am most comfortable in hindi; talking in English and other languages like Punjabi had always been a quite a discomfort experience for me.

Today, tele-communicating over phone, that also with a girl, I experienced significant increase in blocks. During the after talk analysis, I figured out that my talking speed was quite rapid during that conversation. It was something like a rapid-fire question-answer round than a normal casual talk. I was continuously interrupting her even before she finished her words.And, finally I also noted that I didn’t enjoyed the conversation to that extent as expected just because I didn’t either let her complete her words nor I did express myself fully.

So, the stuttering mind set (past experiences) that I am going to stammer more in English , and the emotional imbalance as I was talking to a girl were the driving force behind my super fast talking speed. And, we all know that super fast internet speed is very good but super fast talking speed is not a healthy thing at all.

So, I guess the basic problem is not the language, but the stuttering mind set or in broader term, the lack of ability to ‘stay in present moment’. If I can stay in the PRESENT MOMENT with full awareness which is well achievable with MEDITATION, in that case, I will be able to enjoy a happy talking experience in all speech languages.

4 comments:

sachin said...

Right on the point! The seed is sprouting...

lalit said...

Ashish ...i also believe same ,i feel less comfortable in English .and haven't explored why this happens ... but result is i can't communicate well in english. nice post.........

Er. Umesh 9068322345 said...

Nice post!! cleared one of my doubt too..Thanks Ashish. keep writing!!

nd said...

you are an 'art of living' follower for sure