I tried to make him understand that acceptance is not as simple and straight as he was interpreting it to be, in his hurry to be cured- and the people who seemed "defeated and tired" - were in all probability, wise, humble and courageous people in their own right. But he had no patience. I felt sad for him and realised that I had done my bit and it was time to leave things in the hands of a greater power.
Then, a few days later, while browsing, I came across a thread on acceptance. I am sharing an excerpt from it (from Jim Mclure, a pws and a Retired public relations consultant) and also the link to the entire discussion:
Here is the link: http://groups.google.com/group/stutt-l/browse_thread/thread/b20e30cc42452251#
A lot of PWS (and, unfortunately, some clinicians) see stuttering acceptance vs. fluency improvement as an either/or situation. Accepting our stuttering, shedding the shame and guilt, and changing our attitudes toward speaking can be a solid foundation for working on fluency -- and gives us something to fall back on for those times when fluency techniques are ineffective.It's difficult to make this change on your own. I have tremendous respect for people who are tackling this alone with no support except via the Internet. Like Bernie, I found the National Stuttering Association a catalyst in my own process of change. Coming face-to-face with other people who stutter is an experience of mutual acceptance, and talking openly about your stuttering with other stutterers makes it easier to disclose your own stuttering to family and friends.
It is time that more of us talk about acceptance and its meaning to us.