Patna Bihar SHG meeting Report 11th Sept 2016

Hello Everyone,

Greeting!

Today meeting was held in Eco park right at 4.30pm. The weather was rainy and it feels great to kick start the meeting. There were three members- Suraj, Sanjay and Me. Sanjay is a new member who came with her wife. We were expecting 5-6 members but unfortunately due to heavy rain, no one can able to attend it. The meeting started with an introduction round. 

Patna Bihar SHG Meeting Invitation 29 Nov

We the Patna SHG team Inviting for the next Self Help Group Meeting to be held at Sonpur Fair. The meeting will going to be happened at sonepur fair, which is one of the Asia biggest cattle fair. We will have lots of talks with the strangers and enjoy our moment of freedom with speech.

Do call us in below given numbers for any information regarding the meeting and venue.

Venue- Sonepur fair, Sonepur
Day- Sunday

If you have any query about reaching the venue, do call us on-

Suraj- Surajcdeo85@gmail.com, 09835017356

Mohit- Mohit04298@gmail.com, 07277478087

 
 

Interview Time

Today I again face the interview of part time computer operator job in a private company.. Before reaching the interview venue, I have to face many problems like asking rikshaw wala, asking auto driver, the address of that venue and if he can’t help me then I have to ask many people on road side(which is very difficult for me), then after passing this hurdle, I reached the venue(I am much sweating), then I got fresh. The interviewer asked me about myself, my educational qualification, my experience. I told him about myself (at first I am totally blocked, no words are coming out, then I take a long breathe and start saying those lines by using stop pause method and prolongation and this really help me to say those lines easily) and also I realized that its my time, I have to say. I told him that I stammer, then he said “its ok I understand you carry on” then I also asked him about his company and its working.. Then he said “I am giving you our another company address”(where I have to work), and he write his address on a piece of paper, now I had to go there( uff again tough work for me).

Normally if I can’t able to ask somebody, then I give those paper where I have written address and ask him the address(so that he can see my written address), but the paper given by this person is very badly written(no one can’t read this) so I have to ask this address by myself. So I start asking people, some laugh at me very badly, I told him “yar ye tum khud pe hass rahe ho, mere pe nahi” then he said nothing, then some good peoples help me to find the address. Now again I am sweating much, but I don’t care about it and move to meet the Manager of  that company and lastly he said me “You have to work 10am-7pm”, which is not possible for me and I said him “sorry sir” and I leaved that place and came to my home.

The experience was great because it really teaches me many things, some are bad and some are “Feel good” experiences. I also feels that when I am asking  someone or I got those hard blocks, then my mind stops working and all energy forces me to say those Words. The only solution(that I feel at that time)  help me to get rid of those blocks is “take 2-3sec breathe and again try to say those words by using some technique”.

Its Very difficult for me at first, but I faced the interview successfully!

Race to win!

A racer always thinks before start of race " I should win anyhow".There are only two possibility for him left "Win" or "Lose".In the same way we stutters have also two choices in our life:-"Do" or "Die".The more we do hard work, the more we succeed in our life.Nobody is perfect in this planet.Albert einstein says "Genius is 1% talent and 99percent hard work".Hard works only comes from within, no one can help us any more.

"Failure is not the worst thing in the world.The very worse is not to try"

However if scientist stops hard work, we would never get mystery behind "undiscovered  things" .If our parents stops hard work, we would never get what we want.If our cricketers stops hard work, we never got this "world cup 2011" ever.Things are same(achievement), but the difference is how far we go to achieve our goal.Stuttering is a gift of living with integrity,strength..it is not as bad as you think.

Day before yesterday, i phoned to Dr Sachin, he teaches me lots of things in perception of life, but the best part he says "Whether you loose or win, whether you are rich or poor, whether you wear good cloths or bad one, your thinking power,your intelligence should be high".Life was'nt the same always it must changes time-to-time.The more we do,the less we feel guilt.

There are failures in the life of every victorious one.There can be none who did not have a failure.Though they had failures, they became successful men because they did not see failure as an end. They were not ready to give up life in front of failures. They continued their journey of life depending on God.

Lets Change our mindset

The Time has come where we have to change our mind set regarding stuttering. We always thinks about “Life without stuttering”, but why not we think “Life with stuttering”. The only difference is “out” i.e- Out our mindset.. When we consider our stuttering as a enjoyment of life, we must succeed in it. The solution of stammering has not been discovered yet. The only solution (as I feel):- Confidence, therapy and most importantly acceptance. So we must live with it. At first time, when I heard about this acceptance, frankly speaking I am amazed and shocked. Why the hell we accept that we stammer??? .I can’t live with my stuttering but later (much later.. ) , I realized that it is the medicine that that we all must take.

In today scenario, many stutter also can’t accept his stuttering in his real life. This word sounds “bad” to him. I want to tell you some incident of mine. Some days later one boy his name is Krishna called me and start asking about my speech therapist, how many months I taken this, does it help me or not? e.t.c, then later he realized that I am a severe stutter, he start giving me home remedies tips ( like “Dalchinni” ko muh mein rakho, start talking in front of mirror, mirch khao). Next day I message him about this TISA, acceptance and SHG, I wasn’t get any reply from him till now. I am not blaming Krishna(for his advice). I just wanted to say that today also “Acceptance” is not widely accepted by many people, I think it’s just because of his old belief, rumor of stammering.

Many stutter slowly moving on his depression, because of his neglecting mind and he thinks he can’t do anything in his life now. But as we all know the naturalist “Charles Darwin” is also suffered from depression or melancholia, but this depression never affect his life in any way and later the whole world know him as invention of “theory of evolution”. So he is Charles and we never be like him but we can take some example or inspiration from him

We must live with our stammering, there is nothing wrong in it. Whether the people laugh or tease you, it doesn’t matter. Also acceptance is not the only cure, but it is the very first step.    

रौशनी कि उम्मीद...

दो दिन पहले मुझे कुछ दोस्त फ़ोन किये, वो बहुत  पुराने दोस्त थे और मुझसे मिलना चाहते थे. तो  मैं मिलने चला गया . मैं घर से ही कांफिडेंट हो कर निकला था की मुझे जो हो  जाए  बोलना है, अगर रुक भी जाऊ  फिर भी बोलना है और ये सोच कर वह पहुंचा. पहुँचते के साथ ही एक शब्द नहीं निकल रहे थे मानो, मैंने पूरी कोशिश करने के बाद (बहुत टाइम लगा कर) अपना हाल समाचार सुनाया. फिर सब बाद मे अपनी-अपनी  बात बताकर हंसा रहे थे और मैं सबकी बस बात सुन रहा था, मैंने रियल में बहुत कोशिश किया कि कुछ बोलू पर एक शब्द भी नहीं निकल रहा था, मैं उस टाइम बहुत लो फील कर रहा था, ऐसा लग रहा था की मैं कभी किसी को हंसा नहीं सकता और कभी अपनी बात नहीं बोल पाउँगा. घर आकर एक रूम में अपने आप को बंद कर लिया और दिल खोल कर रोया और तेज़ आवाज़ में म्यूजिक सुनने लगा(जिससे मुझे हमेशा सुकून मिलता है ) और फिर लास्ट में मैंने  खुद  से बोला "मोहित चल उठ रोने से कुछ नहीं होने वाला अब यही तुम्हारी लाइफ  है, कुछ करना है जिससे लोग तुझपे प्राउड फील करें" (ये बात मैं ये अपने आप से कब तक बोल पाउँगा, मुझे तो हर रोज ही इनसे सामना करना है). 

लेकिन तब मुझे सबसे ज्यादा ख़राब लगता है, जब मैं अपने पापा के बारे में सोचता हु, उनका तबियत फिलहाल ठीक  नहीं चल रही और उनका मोरल और फिसिकल सप्पोर्ट मुझे ही बनना है, लेकिन जब सोचता हूँ की मैं कुछ बोल ही नहीं पाउँगा  तो  उनका हेल्प क्या करूँगा. मुझे मालूम है एक दिन ये सब ठीक हो जाएगा लेकिन तब शायद बहुत देर हो चुकी होगी, तब शायद जिंदगी में कोई ख़ुशी नहीं रहेगी, कोई एन्जोयेमेंट  नहीं बचेगा, तब शायद मेरी ये एज वापस नहीं आएगी, तब शायद  मैं  "आज़ाद पंछी" नहीं कह लाऊँगा. तब शायद हजारो टेंशन लाइफ की रहेगी, सिर्फ घर परिवार ही बचेगा. जैसा गौरव ने कहा था की हमलोग अपनी हकलाने के आगे कभी सोच ही नहीं  सकते, हर जगह, हर रोज, हर घंटे इन परेशानीयों से दो चार होना पड़ता है.

फिर अंतिम में अपने आप को ये बोलकर तस्सली देता हूँ कि रुकना नहीं है, आगे बढ़ते चलो. कभी न कभी तो सफलता मिलेगी ही . कभी वो दिन जरूर आएगा जब हम सभी हकले खुले आस्मां में बिना कोई डर, बिना कोई रुकावट के उड़ेंगे.

अब कल मुझे अपने दोस्त के भईया की शादी में निकलना है, जहाँ हजारो बोली का काम रहता है, कोशिश करूँगा वहां से ख़ुशी ख़ुशी लोंटू.

TISA Patna!!

Mohit Kumar from Patna wants to start a SHG. This is a great opportunity for people in Patna. Here are his details :
9905592774
moht007kumar@rediffmail.com

And for all those of you wondering what to do in a SHG, check out the following links :
http://t-tisa.blogspot.com/2011/04/shgs.html
http://t-tisa.blogspot.com/2008/05/running-self-help-groups-support-groups.html
http://www.scribd.com/doc/53716299/SHG-Manual
http://t-tisa.blogspot.com/2008/05/running-self-help-groups-support-groups.html