July 16, 2012

Acceptance!


Acceptance is basically how you accept the world with your stammering not how the world will accept you. Acceptance is not just talking or sharing that I stammer and it's not a one day process,but it's a life long process and have to accept it every day at every stage of life.Acceptance is all about making efforts in overcoming your fear,gulit and shame of being a sttuter.Acceptance is pronouncing that word again and again in which you stuck in a block instead of hiding or trying to replace that word with an easy or comfortable word. For acceptance on initial stage one can put their status on social sites that i love stamerring or i am in a category of people who stammers or can do something according to their comfort zone ete etc..I know its easy to say about accepting and all but difficult to implement in real life.Same thing happening with me also. Today i liked "TISA" page on facebook which i thinks a way of accepting too.:). Enjoy your acceptance it will helps you a lot.

Feel free to share your views and comments. Thank you.

By Nitin Garg (Delhi)

14 comments:

J P Sunda said...

Nitin, you truly have understood the essence of Acceptance. I can say it more confidently because you also brought you nephew with you and both of you did some real bouncing in real world. Thanks for liking TISA FB page. Such small things will take away all your fear and shame.

sachin said...

Man- you are on the right trail- Just keep on walking- dont stop and look back..

Harish Usgaonker said...

Nitin- Thanks for this eye opener. Particularly the first line - "Acceptance is basically how you accept the world with your stammering not how the world will accept you."

I always perceived that acceptance was complete when we accept ourselves and the world around accepts us. And when the later didn't happen, I complained that acceptance is not complete.

Today after I read this, I gave it a thought... and realized that the world accepting us is not in our hands... It's also about we accepting the non-acceptance. That's Acceptance !!

lalit said...

nice nitin ,wonderful thought just after delhi workshop... acceptance is a life long process and ones we understand this concept we can apply it to other sphere of life also

sikander said...

Great Nitin! feel good to know that you have understood the concept of acceptance. Thanks for sharing your views with us. We are sure, you will be implementing the acceptance in your day to day life also and will share your experiences with us. Keep it up dear!

Nitin Garg said...

firstly thankeu to pramendra ji for posting my article on tisa blog..
Its all happening because of advice of j.p.sir, sachin sir, sikandar ji, lalit ji, pramendra ji and all the stutters whom i met in my life. Hope i will carry on my acceptance onto next level.
Thank you Harish ji for such a nice review of you of my article.

Jitender Gupta प्रथम said...

jitender gupta like this.

abhishek said...

great a beautiful definition of acceptance ...

Hemant kumar said...

एक साल पहले चंडीगढ मे TISA की 1 day WORKSHOP हुई थी, I was nearby my city but मै उसमे नही गया, सोचा- एक दिन की workshop attend करने से कौनसा चमत्कार हो जायेगा जब साल भर में ही कुछ नहीं हुआ ।
(1998 में मैने india speech therapy centre आमेर,जयपुर से speech therapy ली. एक साल बाद 2000 में जयपुर मे ही graduation के लिये admission मिल गया । पर नया माहोल,नया college,नये students के बीच stammering बढ गयी । मै jaipur speech therapy centre के doctor को फ़िर से मिला । वो बोले- तुम जयपुर मे ही पढ़ रहे हो हर रविवार को यहाँ आ जाया करो its free। सो मै हर रविवार जाता था, कई stammerer के साथ group meeting होती थी । मै नये stammerers को सलाह देता था as I was senior to new stammerers. पर Bus मे टिकट college से एक station आगे का लेता था जिसको बोलना आसान था । साल भर यही सिलसिला चला । result nil.)
But after attending 2 days TISA workshop at delhi, I had to change my prejudices(opinions) - TISA workshop can do miracle on stammerer's mindset -fear, hatred, shame, avoidance, guilt.ये stammerers की डर, शरम, अपराधबोध की मानसिकता को बदलने में चमत्कारिक रूप से कारगर है ।Most effective part of this workshop was to go to metro station and purchase token & going in public and asking questions about stammering with volunteer stammering. By these activities, stammerers can bring up iceberg (of stammering) on surface and able to blast.as Stammering is like an iceberg "The part above the surface, what people see and hear, is really the smaller part. By far the larger part is the part underneath, the shame, the fear, the guilt, all those otherfeelings that we have when we try and speak a simple sentence and can't.

Hemant kumar said...

(1998 में मैने india speech therapy centre आमेर,जयपुर से speech therapy ली. एक साल बाद 2000 में जयपुर मे ही graduation के लिये admission मिल गया । पर नया माहोल,नया college,नये students के बीच stammering बढ गयी । मै jaipur speech therapy centre के doctor को फ़िर से मिला । वो बोले- तुम जयपुर मे ही पढ़ रहे हो हर रविवार को यहाँ आ जाया करो its free। सो मै हर रविवार जाता था, कई stammerer के साथ group meeting होती थी । मै नये stammerers को सलाह देता था as I was senior to new stammerers. पर Bus मे टिकट college से एक station आगे का लेता था जिसको बोलना आसान था । साल भर यही सिलसिला चला । result nil.)

Hemant kumar said...

मै jaipur speech therapy centre के doctor को फ़िर से मिला । वो बोले- तुम जयपुर मे ही पढ़ रहे हो हर रविवार को यहाँ आ जाया करो its free। सो मै हर रविवार जाता था, कई stammerer के साथ group meeting होती थी । मै नये stammerers को सलाह देता था as I was senior to new stammerers.

Hemant kumar said...

मै नये stammerers को सलाह देता था as I was senior to new stammerers. पर Bus मे टिकट college से एक station आगे का लेता था जिसको बोलना आसान था । साल भर यही सिलसिला चला । result nil.)

Hemant kumar said...

But after attending 2 days TISA workshop at delhi, I had to change my prejudices(opinions) - TISA workshop can do miracle on stammerer's mindset -fear, hatred, shame, avoidance, guilt.ये stammerers की डर, शरम, अपराधबोध की मानसिकता को बदलने में चमत्कारिक रूप से कारगर है ।

subodh singh said...

Really nice inspirational Article of Hemant kumar......!!!!!