July 15, 2011

Don’t Start a Sentence if You Don’t Know How It Ends...

Here i just come across a very handy rule for improving interpersonal skills which would help all PWS to counter the fear of stammering.......

Don’t Start a Sentence if You Don’t Know How It Ends -By Whitson Gordon

If you find you stick your foot in your mouth more often than not, weblog Stepcase Lifehack recommends strengthening your brain-mouth filter by thinking of the end of your sentence before you speak.

Nowadays, a lot of people seem to talk just to make noise. If that sounds like you (don't worry, I'm one of those people too), take this simple tip: Don't start a sentence if you don't know how it's going to end.

That was one of my biggest struggles when I started to consciously improve my interpersonal skills. There is this thrill of talking out of nothing, just to have your voice heard. I may say a stupid thing, but what the heck, at least I will make myself heard. What a dumb (and actually easy to avoid) mistake.

The thin interest that you may generate will soon turn into laughter or just plain ignorance. Mean what you say and know exactly how it will turn out before putting it into words. While it looks like it may add some salt and pepper to the conversation by introducing some sort of randomness, speaking without really knowing what you say will only ruin the other part expectations. They're talking to you because they're searching for meaning, not for randomness.

3 comments:

sachin said...

Nice write up Ashish- it reminded me my own days of "Foot in Mouth disease"!

Dhruva Kathuria said...

It really is a good quality to always know the sentence you are gonna speak but for me personally I enjoy a conservation more when it is spontaneous rather than taking 5 seconds to first frame the sentence and then speak but this habit is good when having a discussion in a group of people :-)ntence you are gonna speak but for me personally I enjoy a conservation more when it is spontaneous rather than taking 5 seconds to first frame the sentence and then speak but this habit is good when having a discussion in a group of people :-)

J P Sunda said...

Yes, Ashish. We just don't need to learn as to how to stammer but also how to remain silent!!